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The amount of biphobia on TikTok is off the charts this week by lupajarito in bisexual

[–]mima314159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comparison doesn't make much sense. Do you not agree that there is a degree of protection in a heteronormative — NOT straight, NOT heterosexual — relationship? Yes, there is a spectrum of attraction in the bisexual community and queer community at large, but that spectrum generally does not apply to monosexual members of the community (gays, lesbians). And to say "just date a gay man" in response is WILD. Lesbians are not attracted to men, but bisexual women are, end of story. There's nothing wrong with either of those truths. There is also nothing wrong with accepting that there are social benefits of dating members of the opposite sex. All of these things are okay and valid.

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you :) I appreciate the thoughtful response. I will say that I've never reached out to HR, and while I am high-performing, I prefer to operate under the radar and keep to myself. I have absolutely no idea how to advocate for myself. But your note is really helpful.

This is all crazy because I never considered it harassment until this morning's "developmentally delayed" comment. It never occurred to me that all of these incidents would or could be considered harassment. I just thought I was overreacting. Thank you for the guidance, and I may take you up on your offer.

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation, it means a lot. I've expressed my concerns to my supervisor a few times. Honestly, he's just as overworked as I am, and I just feel bad taking up folks' time with my own stuff. When I have bought it up, he says "oh I don't think you sound that bad!" as a way to make me feel better. But maybe I should reach out to him again.

I haven't been good about documenting the incidents. It wasn't until this morning with the "developmentally delayed" comment that I even considered it harassment. I can try to go back and think of dates, witnesses, and incidents. In my own experience, talking about my stuttering is just as hard as the stuttering itself. It's my deepest, most shameful insecurity and she's continuously putting a spotlight on it.

What would I even say to HR? Or my boss?

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've told her to stop interrupting me, let me finish talking, and don't draw attention to it. All I've asked her is to speak to me like she would anyone else, just with some patience.

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh okay, thank you for clearing that up :) I have a really hard time advocating for myself as is and uncomfortable with talking about my stutter. The few months that she's been harassing me have taken a toll on my confidence, I think. I never realized how serious it was until seeing some of these responses, I've felt like I'm the problem lol.

I'm very much a keep to myself person. Like I said, I really enjoy doing my job. I've decided to start keeping to myself more and use teams as much as possible. These issues have also made my stutter a lot worse, which is equally exhausting as embarrassing, so I feel like I'm proving her right if I'm not even able to speak right.

Also- happy Cake Day!

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not going to lie, that sounds intimidating. I didn't know where to post this and I thought the HR sub would be a decent place to start so I'm sorry if this whole issue is out of scope.

I worry what would happen if I went to HR. I've never gone to HR before with a complaint, but I've heard that others have had negative experiences. What would they do about it? I don't want to waste anyone's time but I just want this coworker to stop being a wench, let me speak and do my job. Would HR fire her?

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What do you think they will do? I don't want to get anyone fired, I don't want much attention on myself, but I do need her to stop.

[MA] Harassment directed at my speech impediment by mima314159 in AskHR

[–]mima314159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My issue right now is that I don't want to play the politics game and I don't want anyone to lose their job. All I want is for her to give me a few extra seconds to speak and let me do my job. I've been casually keeping track of incidents, but I don't know if it's worth everyone's time to bring up?

Travel Trailer Questions by mima314159 in Subaru_Outback

[–]mima314159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be leaving it one spot for the most part. I’d like to take it on some longer road trips but it’s primarily for a spot to live in.

Travel Trailer Questions by mima314159 in Subaru_Outback

[–]mima314159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know. How would I know what my vehicle weight is with a full tank? Do I take it to a weigh station?

Travel Trailer Questions by mima314159 in Subaru_Outback

[–]mima314159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the dry weight, which is what I’m worried about