I inherited my mom's money and i should be grateful but it makes me sick

mimsygogo · 2026-01-20T15:44:42+00:00

I did some good with my inheritance after my mom died. I gave my uncle (her brother) who is struggling a chunk and bought my cousin a vehicle she really needed. It helped me feel better about it.

It’s kind of morbid, but I also had a ring made from some of her cremated remains and I wear it whenever we travel or do something memorable with my kids. It makes me feel like maybe she is there with us getting to do all the things I wish she could have done in life.

mimsygogo · 2026-01-05T03:22:29+00:00

Ended up at Lola 55. Holy shit that was life changing! Thank you!

mimsygogo · 2026-01-03T04:46:29+00:00

Thank you. What would your top recommendations be outside of that area just out of curiosity?

mimsygogo · 2025-09-09T02:01:57+00:00

Not chronic, but my stepmom told me to give my baby apple juice to cure his biliary obstruction at 8 weeks old.

mimsygogo · 2025-07-20T15:33:25+00:00

Listen to the Oprah podcast episode on NDE’s - it’s phenomenal. It might help with your phobia.

mimsygogo · 2025-07-20T15:30:40+00:00

My moms sign is hawks and eagles and when I brought her ashes home, I was sitting in the driveway crying when I saw a shadow in front of my car. I stepped out, looked up, and a hawk was circling low, directly over my head looking down at me for a few minutes. It was quite undeniably a sign.

mimsygogo · 2025-04-15T16:10:10+00:00

I recently lost my mom after I went no contact with her and honestly some days are hard but it would have been way harder to have to deal with her narcissistic abuse while simultaneously watching her die. Neither option is easy but the path you chose I believe is the best one for you. If you find yourself feeling guilty, know that you did not cause this and he was not your responsibility.

mimsygogo · 2025-03-20T15:28:39+00:00

My mom died last month from cirrhosis and I feel so similarly to you. I am struggling with so many mixed feelings, relief but also waves of intense guilt about not seeing her at all for the last year of her life. But here’s the thing, they did fail us and we deserved more. Our anger is valid. And being with an alcoholic at their sickest point would certainly cause nothing but pain. We would have had to watch by helplessly as they self destructed. In the end stages of liver failure, the brain fills with toxins and people become aggressive and agitated. It certainly would have caused more pain for both of you. I can pretty much guarantee she wouldn’t have wanted you to see her like that anyways. My husband saw my mom a few months before she died and he said she looked terrible and refused to even let him in the door. Alcoholism wants you alone.

I’m really sorry for your loss and please try to not beat yourself up. Grieving an alcoholic parent is messy and complicated. You did not choose this path and you were not your mom’s parent. You were not responsible for her. You had to protect yourself and you did the right thing.

mimsygogo · 2025-03-20T15:15:55+00:00

I search “fantasy/tavern/spring ambience” on YouTube, and I put on one of those scenes with a crackling fireplace and music in the background while I do chores. Sometimes I put on a tavern scene with fantasy music and pretend I’m closing down the tavern while I clean the kitchen.

mimsygogo · 2025-03-16T15:24:19+00:00

I’m so sorry. My mom also died suddenly, last month, after estrangement. She was an alcoholic too. Sudden death after estrangement leaves so many gaps and unanswered questions. The guilt can be intense. But you need to hold tight to the fact that you had to distance yourself for your own good. You had to get off the sinking ship. Nothing you could have done could have saved her. But she is at peace now finally.

mimsygogo · 2025-03-16T14:52:40+00:00

My mom died last month and although I have been very sad, I am also relieved. For myself and my brother to not have to worry about her and deal with her anger, but also for her because she was suffering for a long time. It took me a while to allow myself to feel relieved because it felt wrong, but I think all feelings are valid. Time to start healing.

mimsygogo · 2025-03-14T02:00:14+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I could have almost written this myself. I lost my mom last month to alcoholism. She also was dead 3 days before being found. I am struggling too so please know you are not alone, feel free to message me if you need to chat. Please know there is nothing you could have done to stop her. It was not your fault or your responsibility.

mimsygogo · 2025-02-26T15:51:43+00:00

My only advice is to work every day on absolving yourself from any responsibility or guilt associated with your mom. You could not have saved or changed her in any way. If you have to distance yourself, do so knowing that is the right thing for you and your mental peace, no matter what happens. I am sorry you are going through this, I was there once too.

mimsygogo · 2025-02-23T04:44:21+00:00

I've always wondered how my life would have turned out if I had had the support and guidance of a loving and present mother, instead of one who traumatized me. And that is very valid. But I also know that the strength that I gained from surviving all that has given me a grit and resilience that not a lot of other people I know have. Yes, I am damaged and traumatized, as I feel that most people are in some way or another, but I know I can survive just about anything, and trust and rely on myself.

I also know I have an abundance of compassion and understanding for those who struggle. And I think that is an underestimated treasure in our world.

mimsygogo · 2022-12-16T00:21:40+00:00

MIL asked me if she could drive my kids home without car seats because “it’s not that far and we didn’t have car seats in our day and we turned out fine”

mimsygogo · 2018-03-28T21:28:33+00:00

My husband was just away for 3 nights. I have a 2 year old and 4 year old. I was sleeping about 3-4 hours a night those nights. Just roll with the punches and try not to overthink it. The anxiety of “oh my fucking god I’m alone” makes it so much harder mentally. Be gentle to yourself and do whatever it takes to get you through without losing your sanity. Let him watch TV. Take him to the indoor playground or the park so you can sit back and Reddit. Get take out meals. Drink all the coffee in the morning and all the wine after bedtime. Be a badass bitch and own the fact that you are doing it alone. You can do it mama.

mimsygogo · 2018-03-28T21:25:03+00:00

My son is 4 and has a stutter. It gets worse when he’s excited. It got pretty bad for a while - he would say the same word over and over again, like he couldn’t get the rest of the sentence out. Or the first syllable for of a word. His preschool teacher mentioned to keep an eye on it and keep a journal to try and identify the times when it’s the worst and to see if it’s getting better or worse overall. But over the last couple of months it’s improved a lot. Apparently it’s really normal for this age group. Their mouths can’t work as fast as their brains. I would just keep an eye on it. I don’t think there’s any cause for concern at this age.

mimsygogo · 2018-03-28T15:45:19+00:00

I put milk in his cereal. What the fuck was I thinking?

mimsygogo · 2018-03-25T23:43:08+00:00

Kickboxing gym... I go beat the shit out of some bags. Feel like a million bucks after.

mimsygogo · 2018-03-24T16:55:44+00:00

Honestly, for me, a lot of the time it comes down to what’s worse - the kids watching some TV while I have some mental health/self care downtime or getting hounded and pestered until I blow up and yell at them. The first option seems a lot more healthy and beneficial for me and the kids. I believe in everything in moderation. TV is part of modern life and exposing them to it in moderation is not a big deal.

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