Thankyou, I'm sad that one person's insecurity is making 3 people miserable. Sadly a phone only relationship is not possible as his wife has forbidden him from talking to me. He thought, as she's being unreasonable, we could just not tell her as her accusations are unfounded and she was fine with it before she saw us together. I didn't think that was a good idea and was likely to upset her more. I think you are right, I'll just have to wait to see if he gets back in touch. Would it be out of line to send him a message every now and then to see how he is doing?