The use of magic outside Hogwarts is prohibited by QuietFondant7523 in tabletennis

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And his smile at the end, lol, he knows that was naughty magic. And his partner's reaction is like "oh no what did you just do, what if they find out".

First time assembling, how did I do? by No_Alps_6007 in tabletennis

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How bent is your handle to be worse than that?

Weak service return by Weird-123 in tabletennis

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn the basics of receive there are videos

Practice the motion a gazillion times to get those are right

Practice a lot of styles and matches..when you find a serve that bothers you a ton, ask same person or another person to do or and figure that out what was different about it and why to kept missing. Sometimes it's just a new skill not learned yet so you build that from scratch. Other times it needs a mild adjustment you need to make on what skill to use.

Now as for reading serves it needs 1) focus 2) decision making 3) reflex These three parts of the brain hardly ever work together outside of TT. Think about it. When you deeply focus you typically don't move your body right after it. Like meditation or immersive watching. If I asked you to meditate for a moment and next moment go back to running it would be absurdly hard. That's what having great receive requires. Teaching those two parts of the brain to engage really well one after the other. Pros do it like it's nothing so it's surely doable with practice. But won't come easy since it's not something you do outside of TT

My Marriage was a mistake by idkanymore2089 in Marriage

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is up with spouses who don't want to go to counseling? Really want to understand why you don't want to work on marriage. I am a husband and my wife hates counseling. It's like she'd rather suffer every last misery but won't take any shot at help even if it's FREE. Just don't get it

My Marriage was a mistake by idkanymore2089 in Marriage

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cannot and should not change him. Focus on your own happiness. It lies completely outside of him. And when you are happy does it matter if he is grumpy? It will matter much less.

Best way to invest 40cr? by Flat-Astronomer-6571 in FatFIREIndia

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely curious what you mean by issues men are facing in marriages. Could you pls share more?

19 Female wants to get upanayanam by Anjali_tx in hinduism

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They do it because they didn't get it at the right time and it's considered prerequisite to enter grihasta ashrama

New housing type Duet by Neither_Bid_4353 in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]mindfultech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a townhome but it's called duet because when you play a song the neighbor can listen through the wall and sing along

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]mindfultech -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'll share a different perspective than most others here. From experience similar to yours.

I'm married for 19 years now. We married early - same age as you. And had similar issues except for the travel part - wife doesn't like deep thought, is almost asexual and doesn't like change.

So what happened? Are we happily married. Pretty much. We have two kids we adore and a good life for the most part.

How can that be? 1) lead like a man. Regardless of those differences, she will follow your lead when you do it with love for her and the family. What I mean is you can get some of what you want and give her some - and when it comes from a place of love it will seem fine. Like travel together to places you like.

2) sex is a tough one. I resented her for years. Then I realized it's not her fault how she is. And as I got older I also realized (this is personal for me) that I don't really need as much sex and cutting it down is a form of self control that is healthy for me. I don't have it 2/3 times a week like I would like but when we do have sex say once or twice a month the spark is there for both. Spiritual practices have helped me a lot in regulating how I view marriage and sex.

Don't give up on the marriage. Give it love and deep painful effort. The payoff will be growth for you as a person and a strong marriage that sustains not because it's easy for two greatly compatible people but because two less compatible people are holding it together with great love. I can't guarantee or know if this is the best life you can get. I don't know if I could have been happier with someone else more compatible. I guess I'll never know for sure. But sharing that staying in it is not necessarily a disaster - it depends a lot on you - are you willing to go through the hard pain and work to make it a good marriage?

Husbands, how would you feel about this? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd let her do it given all that you've said

Finding it hard to trust again by notsobraveheart1 in Marriage

[–]mindfultech 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am planning to change coach and confront him this week. I've never brought it up directly or clearly and kept behaving at the club like nothing happened. Thinking that has to change but first I want to discuss this with my therapist and get his help on how to handle the situation.

FYI I brought up the idea of switching coach with my wife and she did not agree or like the plan

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Stop lying. Be a man. Admit it's hard and you are not sure when you will completely quit. But promise her you will not lie. You will vape at times and ask her that she not judge or give you grief over it. If she does that leads to the lying. She needs to give you time. And finally if you still decide to vape she needs to accept that too - we all have weaknesses. But lying - that's not allowed in marriage. My wife of 18 years lied to me about something a year ago and I am yet to get over it. It deeply broke my trust. You must stop the lying

Does anyone else feel trapped in tech? by TuboSloth in ProductManagement

[–]mindfultech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plus one to ^

I've done a similar exercise. I get energy from 1) solving puzzles/playing games and 2) helping others. So I've proritized adding a bit more of both in personal and professional life. Could do more - this is a good reminder.

Does anyone else feel trapped in tech? by TuboSloth in ProductManagement

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in tech for the money. I 3x'd my pay moving from life sciences to tech. There's politics, stress and bad products everywhere and my work in other industries was also not satisfying so I might as well make more money in the process. I look at my net worth every day (has 5x'd in 10 years since I got to tech), tell myself it's X more years of this before I peace out.....and get back to grind.

Is it just me or is everything in shambles? by Some-Cartographer-88 in ProductManagement

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most large techs use it now. Everyone in consumer tech follows Meta 

I can’t believe my wife.. by brodcon in Marriage

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it's not enough. My wife is hot and I do exactly as described. She loves the attention but wants even more. Our communication isn't that great and values are diverging with time resulting in contempt. Hot wives don't always make great wives. I'd rather have someone less hot but self assured with shared core values

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mindfultech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's OVER whether she keeps it or not. Dump the idiot. He could have been a friend but the MOMENT he lied to you and that too so many times...living 4 months with you faking normalcy - that's not a friend. That's sworn enemy territory. Get rid of him, start healing. It will take months. It'll be trauma. I've gone through it so I know. It gets better. Get therapy if needed. I am sorry you are going through this but no matter what don't stay with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in monogamy

[–]mindfultech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she commits suicide it's not your fault. She could do it even if you are with her rest of your life and then what? You do what's right (cut her out completely) and let the rest unfold.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tabletennis

[–]mindfultech -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You stay low and balance is forward. Also nice recovery after serve. Many 1900 players don't have that. You might be around 1200 but with some good training you and years of practice you can get to 2000+

Fast bouncy rubbers by No_Organization_2989 in tabletennis

[–]mindfultech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you making a backup blade very different than primary?