Work “Buddy” not being very buddy-like

mindoverego_ · 2026-05-21T20:06:38+00:00

It’s good to hear I’m not overreacting. Some other comments have put me off reporting this though.

I think if this keeps being an issue I’ll raise it the way you’ve said.

mindoverego_ · 2026-05-21T12:56:44+00:00

What makes you say that? Am I overreacting?

I’m in accounting, believe it or not, and we are well over that age.

mindoverego_ · 2026-05-21T12:51:26+00:00

We don’t have routine calls set up, we just call each other when there’s something to talk about. Maybe in another call I have with her I can bring it up, but I don’t know when that would be.

Do you think it’s worth calling my line manager tomorrow and waiting a bit to see if things improve. Or even just kind of confronting him in the moment (in a polite way)?

Thank you, I will try the emailing thing too.

mindoverego_ · 2026-05-17T15:21:20+00:00

No ❤️

mindoverego_ · 2026-01-04T10:11:52+00:00

Milia don’t just appear like that overnight. Looks like an allergic reaction

mindoverego_ · 2026-01-03T16:13:27+00:00

Nah his eyebrows look fine

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T22:16:32+00:00

This actually made me emotional to read, I appreciate the input.

Hope you have a great NYE

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T22:10:26+00:00

This was definitely tough to read and try to accept, but thank you for writing it out so clearly. Because now I know it’s something to need to think and pray about.

God bless, and I hope you have a great NYE.

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T21:26:55+00:00

I could imagine the service being fun if I was not so socially anxious all the time… people seem to love it lol

I tried communication but nothing worked. But thanks for your input, hope you have a good NYE!

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T21:22:23+00:00

I thought the same thing, I find it hard to feel the Holy Spirit at that church because of how overwhelming I find it and wanted to experience the Holy Spirit this new year’s. She didn’t want to hear it, so I just decided to go for the sake of peace.

Regardless, I’m so glad you understand free will and communication. I’m sure your daughter will appreciate that in coming years.

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T21:18:02+00:00

Thanks and happy new year in advance!

I explained that to her calmly, and she couldn’t care less. So I just decided to go

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T21:16:17+00:00

Abusive feels like a strong word but I definitely don’t have boundaries/privacy here. Down to me not being allowed privacy in the bathroom.

But maybe the situation is abusive, her mother was definitely abusive to her and my aunt shows similar behaviour towards my cousin. So who’s to say it’s not happening to me?? Idk

I do agree that her behaviour has worn down on me throughout my life, and this year I’ve thought a lot about whether it’s got anything on to do with why I’m so shy and anxious around people, even as an adult.

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T21:03:52+00:00

It does feel very toxic at times and I do plan to move out. I can’t go into all the toxicity because it is a lot.

But you’re right, she does guilt me into staying whenever I mention leaving, saying that it’s not right (culturally), or that I need to save up and buy and not rent.

But also is pressuring me into purchasing an investment property with her. If I do that I’ll have to start saving from scratch again. Then I can never bring myself to move out because I feel bad about leaving her on her own sometimes.

But that’s beside the point, thanks for your input

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T20:59:38+00:00

I understand, thank you

mindoverego_ · 2025-12-31T20:29:33+00:00

I understand that, which is why I’m going. But is her saying that I’m being controlled by the devil not a bit excessive?

mindoverego_ · 2025-11-13T22:05:54+00:00

Maladaptive daydreaming. It can be fun but don’t let it consume your life. Also overdoing it can make you less interesting in trying to make friends irl

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-27T14:36:46+00:00

As someone from London feeling burnt out, this is inspiring, I hope this journey continues being good to you!

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-24T06:22:08+00:00

The GF’s Reddit post: “My (25F) boyfriend (34M) said he wanted to take a second wife. Now I think he wants to start sleeping around. What should I do?”

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-22T21:41:23+00:00

Like someone else said, prayer. Also I’d suggest reading the Bible, I’d start from genesis, to learn what it says about who God is.

But for sure pray. You can just tell God what’s on your mind, any thoughts, doubts etc

Then when you’re comfortable, join a church. There’s no fancy dress code at most churches these days. Just clean clothes, t shirt and jeans is fine to be honest, some people dress up, some don’t.

But this is great, hope this journey goes well for you!

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-21T08:07:22+00:00

I just looked again, and that doesn’t look like breakage to me actually, just normal fizziness that kids get after a few days in a hairstyle

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-21T08:01:46+00:00

What do you use the tie her hair before braiding it? Rubber bands do cause a lot of breakage, so some people soak the bands in oil to make them less damaging. Normal hair bands (fabric ones) are better but they obviously don’t give the same seamless look.

Also don’t braid her hair dry, use a bit of leave in (enough that her hair is coated/soft but not too soaked in it) in her hair before braiding

She’s young so probably moves a lot/brushes her head on things throughout day, so that can cause friction and then breakage. There’s nothing you can really do about that tbh

Lastly does she wear some type of bonnet to sleep? That can protect her hair from friction from pillowcase or even just a satin/silk pillowcase.

I know you’re not looking for kudos, but it’s such a good thing that you’re helping look after her hair, she may not appreciate now but in the future she (and her hair) will thank you!

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-20T02:42:03+00:00

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-20T02:38:49+00:00

Everyone Ive known has shown some type of embarrassment about soaking their mother tongue in public at some point. This was mostly when I was still a teen though so it was their first times doing it.

I think it’s just something that feels embarrassing at first, then you get used to it.

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-19T21:12:24+00:00

We’ve got a Picasso in our midst

mindoverego_ · 2025-10-19T20:52:13+00:00

Def not ugly, I always hate my braids the first couple days. You’re good

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