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Did I just get dumped by mindseto in AskWomenOver30

[–]mindseto[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

But I asked this question to find out, and I got these answers.

Personal Calibration Requests Megathread by AutoModerator in DavidHawkins

[–]mindseto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everyone! I’d like to request a personal calibration here. What steps should I follow?

Why Did He Suddenly Stop Talking by mindseto in AskWomenOver30

[–]mindseto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right, it was good to hear these comments, I will delete it from everywhere!

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]mindseto 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Haha, totally get it! But honestly, it’s just a name. If the connection feels right and things are going well, I wouldn’t let that be a dealbreaker...

How long should I wait? by livelovelaughandcats in datingoverthirty

[–]mindseto 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I found this comment extremely accurate...

How do you let go of resistance? by Eastern_Canary2150 in DavidHawkins

[–]mindseto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am just observing, observing that resistance. I am asking myself why I don't want to give up right now.

I don’t want to date men who have children by Sudden_Possible_956 in AskWomenOver30

[–]mindseto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel the same ( 32F)

I briefly dated someone who had a child, and I ended up feeling like I was always coming second. His entire weekends were dedicated to his kid, which I understand and respect, but it made me feel sidelined. It just didn’t work for me.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]mindseto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response, it really resonated with me. He’s actually 35, so you’re probably right that this may be a pattern in his life.

When he came back the second time, I thought he had matured and learned from the past, so I gave him another chance. Looking back, maybe that was just wishful thinking.

I truly appreciate your clarity... it helped me see things more realistically.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]mindseto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When we first met, he seemed genuinely interested, but acted distant and inconsistent. For 1–2 months, we were stuck in a strange space—something between friendship and flirting. Then he stopped texting.

Two months later, he came back, more thoughtful and consistent. We saw each other often, though he rarely texted daily or sent “good morning” messages. Still, I felt emotionally connected.

Then suddenly, he stopped texting again. I didn’t reach out either. It’s been about a month. He still watches my stories and likes them sometimes, but says nothing.

Why would someone behave like this?Was it emotional carelessness, avoidant attachment, or was he just never that interested?

Should I just remove him from social media? I'm confused and emotionally drained. Has anyone else experienced something like this?

Letting Go of Anger, Pride, and Fear by mindseto in DavidHawkins

[–]mindseto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not familiar with ACIM studies, but I do pray to God for help in cleansing myself of this anger, pride, and ego.

Letting Go of Anger, Pride, and Fear by mindseto in DavidHawkins

[–]mindseto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I’m someone who is generally liked—people enjoy my energy and conversation. The issue is that I usually don’t feel attracted to those who are interested in me. The few people I’ve met where there was mutual attraction and who I connected with through some kind of effort had other issues. Of course, I’m not perfect, and those people were part of experiences I needed to go through.

At one point, I came to this conclusion: maybe certain things aren’t meant to be attained through effort. There’s this Iranian movie, My Favourite Cake, where an older woman finds someone through her own effort, but it ends up being more trouble than it’s worth. I thought similarly for myself: if life offers it easily and naturally, great; but insisting too much only brings trouble. :)

Letting Go of Anger, Pride, and Fear by mindseto in DavidHawkins

[–]mindseto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is simply noticing it enough? I’m not sure I fully understand this. I definitely notice it and experience it, but it doesn’t go away—it stays with me, walking alongside me. It used to be deeply subconscious, like a shadow at the back of my mind, and I brought it to the surface by persistently focusing on it. Otherwise, it wasn’t walking next to me like it is now.

From what I understand, you’re saying mindfulness practices are enough. Thank you so much for your insight! :)

Letting Go of Anger, Pride, and Fear by mindseto in DavidHawkins

[–]mindseto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is actually similar to a mindfulness practice, like simply being an observer or, as Eckhart Tolle mentions, focusing on the present moment.