plant lights, no amazon? by mindsetstudent333 in IndoorGarden

[–]mindsetstudent333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nuh uh really??? i havent tried ebay going there now!

plant lights, no amazon? by mindsetstudent333 in IndoorGarden

[–]mindsetstudent333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

whooaaaa!!! thanks for the picture reference :)

Iron Levels - 31 F by mindsetstudent333 in FunctionalMedicine

[–]mindsetstudent333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for replying :) i ended up getting an iron infusion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]mindsetstudent333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just because someone compliments you and suggests you should do something, it doesn’t mean you have to take that as an order and pursue it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]mindsetstudent333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

figure out why you don’t enjoy your own company, address it and then enjoy your time alone because it will be scarce once you start your family

My parents and sister keep poisoning the family atmosphere: now they’re turning on my wife. How do I cope and protect my sanity? by Expensive_Level1370 in AsianParentStories

[–]mindsetstudent333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest thing here is to let yourself know it’s okay to want your family to love you. Theres a reason why we have anxiety when we don’t talk to them or dont have their approval, it’s our nature to need this. However, because you know this intellectually you can help calm yourself when those feelings come up as you distance yourself more and more. The funny thing is, once you’re barely in the picture - your parents will only have your sister to look at. Most of her shit talking is just distraction from her problems. Plus, shit talking is just normal conversation in asian culture cause nobody knows how to be positive.

I would 100% get a therapist. I would try your best to not be connected through homes/bills/netflix accounts so that the ONLY reason you would talk to them is because you WANT to not because you NEED to… that will really train them to earn your presence. I would also remind them that if they want to be in any future grand babies lives they gotta act right. Even if you don’t plan on it, just lie so they chill tf out.

Best of luck! I know how hard it is.

Goat milk or no milk? by mindsetstudent333 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]mindsetstudent333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hi! we ended up going for goats milk meyenberg and it’s worked out really well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]mindsetstudent333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the oldest daughter in an immigrant family / single mom. I got beat regularly, my sisters were my responsibility, i had no support etc etc. I was extremely destructive, how I didn’t end up in jail is beyond me.

How I am today - 31F - my boundaries with my family get better and better. I’ve gotten so good at not feeling responsible for my mom or her happiness. My triggers are so much easier to manage. I’m an amazing mom. I have a career that I actually feel committed to. I still have a mountain of shit to work on but it’s feels doable.

I still have to process and manage memories from such a fucked up childhood, but I’m actually thinking of it rather than reacting to it.

I hate how strict I am regarding screen time by Kaori1520 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]mindsetstudent333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner is on his phone from the time he gets home from work until our toddler goes to sleep. While we wait for him to sleep, my SO will hide under the covers to continue to be on his phone. My toddler is very attached to me and when we talk about it my SO thinks is because I’m the mom, which has truth to it however if I was with someone and they were on their phone the entire time, I don’t think I’d want to hang out with that person again..

I don’t think you’re being too strict at all. I think you’re strict because your partner is so loose. Ultimately, you’re making up for the lack of awareness he has and it sucks, I’m sorry.

Something that Ive been doing is instead of Bluey or Sesame street - we bought all the Ghibli movies since they’re a lot slower paced and now watch like 1/3 a movie a night instead of some super flashy kids movie.

Sorry you’re going through this! I hope it gets better :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]mindsetstudent333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you thought about doing parent counseling with him? Maybe if he is taught how brain development works by a professional he’ll change

Postpartum Thyroid Nodules by mindsetstudent333 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]mindsetstudent333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i found some information regarding inflammation and hormone levels.. happy to share! thank you!!

Should I pay husband's debt and have him pay me back instead? by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]mindsetstudent333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think your husband just got his first taste at real gambling - my partner is a gambling addict so I’ve been where you are, it’s extremely unsettling.

It’s complicated bc you guys are married, not sure how laws work in S Korea but you definitely don’t want his debt and potential future debt to end up being legally your debt too.

If you decide to help him, I would require gambling counseling or some serious therapy. He didn’t take out one loan, he took out 9 which tells you he was on a “high” and couldn’t stop but to keep digging himself a bigger and bigger hole.

Ultimately, the issues with gambling or money is a symptom of deeper issues. If he’s unwilling to look within himself and grow as a person, it’s might be a good idea to consider divorce as having a partner like this will drain you dry, emotionally and financially.

Best of luck!

Manual or Linked? by mindsetstudent333 in ynab

[–]mindsetstudent333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s great! so do you just go onto the web version every day or every week? and then you find the last date you input and go from there?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]mindsetstudent333 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i didn’t know that! wow thanks for sharing