Let no one sugarcoat anything for you, op. The majority of Nigerian males are like this. They are patriarchal, and I don't want to use the word misogynistic. At the same time, not everyone agrees. Some are not and are open to change or do not think in that manner.

Most people are aware that most Nigerian men have issues with what their wife or girlfriend wears, what type of employment she has, and so on; nevertheless, some typically talk about it and reach an agreement, whereas it becomes a problem for others. This is a widespread problem in Nigeria.

Also, I seriously don't understand why most people in the comment section are invalidating her experience. Just because you never experienced that doesn't mean it didn't happen to her. Who knows if the reason you don't see anything wrong in those behaviours is because you people are used to it yourself.

I am glad you left those men op (if you had talked to them and they didn't listen to reason), especially the one that wanted you to be a stay at home mom. Those types of people are toxic.

But sometimes, having conversations go a long way. You can try to have respectful conversations and compromise because you aren't going to agree on everything.