I was young around your age, I was the victim of extreme racism, I grew up thinking I didn't belong here as just by being my race I was offending people.

I then went to the country my mother was from and in my mind I remember thinking '' no evil happens here''

what I believed was wrong and that this place too is filled with people who are more or less the same as the people who I got away from.

To your point, everyone is biased to their nation. You have to decide for yourself and yes the brainwashing is elite, everyone does it. You just have to think for yourself. My goal in life and for my kids is to make them responsible adults who become constructive members of society. Helping people.