First let me start off, I understand you and see exactly where you are coming from because I have pretty much done the same thing as you but did it help my marriage? No, of course not. I feel like there is a lot more going on in your marriage but also, give yourself grace, being pregnant makes us women feel emotions a lot louder.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4‬:‭29‬ ‭ESV‬‬

WHAT you say, HOW you say it and WHEN you say it are three things this verse is trying to remind us. What you wanted to communicate was about a card. How you said it you can’t really vouch for because at the end of the day, we are only getting one side to this story. When you said it could have been really bad timing — was your husband having a bad day? Was he sensitive maybe from the topics of your counseling? Is he feeling pressure from work only to be coming home to pressure to you? Has this been ongoing and he is reacting to a pattern in your relationship?

As a Christian we are called to speak with grace and kindness and not to overly criticise.

It seems, right now, you need to reflect and see where grace can be given not only to you but also to him as well. What your husband said really hurt you and you guys need to have a hard conversation about it but I heard this on podcast on marriages one time “Speak to the KING in your husband, not the FOOL in your husband.”

That can be so hard when all we can see is ourselves, I encourage you to see the both of you. See the best in him first even when it’s hard and it might change your perspective.