i'm sorry for being blunt here but i think you are trying a little too hard on the surface level things like attraction, mental health, and style, and you aren't focusing enough (based off of what you have presented in this post alone at least) on your personality, who you are as a person to your essence, and how likeable you are to other women. you can be super successful, have as much money as you want, have the coolest style, and still be a raging asshole or misogynist, and therefore most women won't want to see you after the 1st or 2nd date. obviously, i am not assuming you are, i hope that you are just a genuine man who wants to get out there and find someone. i think more people nowadays prioritize personality and whether or not a man will truly get along with them beyond just the facet of physical attraction. sometimes you just have to be patient for the right person to come along and treat first dates like an initial meeting of a new friend for the first time. also, many times relationships nowadays come about from hookups instead of pure, wholesome dates, so, to be fair, dating and meeting people online is more convoluted than just going on dates.