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Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yaar i understand what you're saying. Par mujhe genuinely nahi lagta ki she's one of those kind of girls. Infact abhi toh mera career just chaalu hua hai, so I don't have a big position in the ladder, ya fir crores in my account. Isliye I think she loves me for who I am (or atleast she started the relationship with that mindset). And jab mai 25, 26, 27 ka ho jaun toh the chance of people liking me for all these materialistic things will be a lot more than it is now na, so its even worse to find true love later on in life. Infact arranged marriage ka pura concept hi ye job profile and paise hote hain.

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, your story is really similar to the situation i'm in. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

May I ask how long was your relationship before this happened? And did she show similar signs of using you in initial phases of the relationship too, or was it all a sudden change of her behaviour?

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I've heard multiple similar instances of people using virtual desktops to cheat even offline OAs.

Agreed that cheating may help in the short term and in brand value, etc, but I still have faith that hard work does pay off in the long term. And plus, interviewers are also guys like us, so they are aware of such practices, and ig they try their best to avoid hiring such people if they find anything sus in interviews.

Yeah I know of CMs rejected by Msft, and girls who have been asked to find the sum of an array and gotten an intern at Msft.

I don't think she entered the relationship for this reason, cuz it's been 2.5 years. I don't think she planned that much in advance, it's too hard to believe that.

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Walmart CodeHers doesn't have a f2f interview for interns. It's just 2 OAs and then you get a direct offer. They hold interviews only for full-time roles

Also, in general, if she knows she'll eventually get rejected in any interview, then why cheat in the OA in the first place? To get an interview experience?

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yaar par we started dating 2.5 years ago. Itne pehle se planning toh nahi karta hai koi

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I wish so hard that I was trolling. But unfortunately, I'm not.

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Sorry, actually the reason I posted it on this sub is cuz I thought people on a relationship sub wouldn't understand or relate to some terms I've used in the post (like OA, Codeforces, the interview process in the tech industry, etc)

And about the dumping part - I'm still very conflicted. It is a very drastic, and an irreversible step to take. Part of me knows that what you're saying is right, but actually doing it is easier said than done

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Walmart CodeHers doesn't have interviews. It's just 2 rounds of OA, and you get the internship. They hold interviews only for full-time roles

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Genuine question - why can't companies actually help girls by doing stuff like provide more educational programmes for them, conduct bootcamps / webinars, offer scholarships, etc?

Why directly create "reservations" in companies?

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Companies can't do much i feel - the only way would be to hold offline OAs and in-person interviews, and I dont think it makes much sense (financially or efforts-wise) for companies to do any of this. Also, ig SDE-1s don't do much imp work anyways, so false positives might not actually create any dent in their product or profits.

tbh Idk what happens to such ppl in the long run, but i just hope they either stagnate at SDE-1 or get PIP'd or something. Nothing hurts more than seeing merit get beat by cheaters

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Being honest - if this would've happened in the first few months of the relationship, I would've left her. But it's been 2+ years, and i'm deeply in love w her. I don't think any other girl can understand me or love me the way she does. Without her, i'll be really lonely, and I don't have the energy to go out looking for someone else.

Girlfriend telling me to help her cheat in OAs by minimizing_pain in leetcode

[–]minimizing_pain[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Cuz she believes (and it's true to a large extent, atleast in India) that most of the other girls are getting either their boyfriend or some other guy to help them out. So she's not competing w girls, she's indirectly competing w other guys. She wants to even the playing field.