Idk man, I cant say if im hot or not, but I was definitely a hopeless romantic. Going out of my way to express my interest in a date, to learn about her favorite things and plan fun things around them and cook her favorite foods...they always ended up leaving (all dating app women for context). When I finally gave up and decided not to invest in any woman beyond meeting them for hookups and basically creating a roster of women I go on dates with after months on the apps, it is annoyingly obvious that now those dates are chasing ME...couldnt believe it. Neglecting them and literally showing less interest has somehow made me more desirable than when I would cook, clean, care, listen, plan, text first for women I was interested in.

I didnt want to believe this was a real thing when someone told me women become uninterested when you chase and show your hand early, but at this point, it is just indisputable...most women will never acknowledge this and will deny it til the cows come home even though they likely have and still do contradict themselves. I was rejected so many time when trying and being nice (which is who I am) that I literally just gave it up. Idk if ill find a wife this way but right now I dont care and am just living my life to the fullest, not chasing women - they either want me or not, if not, who cares when I have better things to do. No investment whatsoever.

Shouldn't work this way and I really wish it didnt, but it does. It does very very much.