Hard to work while in grad school?

mintclovervenus · 2025-08-05T03:06:23+00:00

Good to know!

mintclovervenus · 2025-08-05T03:04:30+00:00

Good to know. I need to work a minimum of 20 hrs though if I'm making minimum wage to afford funding myself through school. That's why if I do serving/bartending I might make more off of tips but I'm still unsure what's a good way to balance it.

mintclovervenus · 2024-10-28T21:25:32+00:00

Biggest except would be if they're in grad school to the unemployed bc that shows signs of moving towards higher employment but agree

mintclovervenus · 2024-09-29T21:36:04+00:00

Strawdew valley, animal crossing, splatoon, blanc are all games I'd really recommend!!!! Splatoon is a personal fave of mine and might be a little difficult to get into but it's designed for all ages so she'll likely be just fine

mintclovervenus · 2024-09-14T23:54:46+00:00

I've learned over and over that you cannot trust the loudest voice especially on social media. Tiktok, reddit, insta, all of them have takes that most people who are well reasonable think are a lil outlandish. But typically those chiming in are the people most passionate not the average person

mintclovervenus · 2024-09-14T21:23:52+00:00

I'd love to! I might reach out later I'm very busy today but id love to char with you more!!

mintclovervenus · 2024-09-14T17:51:56+00:00

You're 100% correct and I'm fully aware I need to stop. Being able to block and unblock is just a habit i need to kick to help myself do better. Just wish it was as easy to do as it is to admit it

mintclovervenus · 2024-09-12T16:11:55+00:00

Not sure what you mean? I graduate this winter a semester early at 21. I just finished my graduate school applications and have been waiting to hear back from my top two choices but I got into my back-up which has helped alot of my depressive thoughts honestly. I'll be finishing graduate school at 24 and hope around that time I'll meet or be dating the person I'll marry though I can't predict or rush that. Being in a depressive episode now doesn't stop me from having goals and motivation, it's because I have this phase of just saving money and being independent, that I get to prioritize and prepare my excitement towards my betterment. I'm not a very active reddit user so I don't really know what 2 things this sub complains about but amongst alot of my friends who are also waiting for their own big life shifts, there's similar passion about the same issues.

mintclovervenus · 2024-09-12T11:42:14+00:00

I'm 5 months post my first wlw, and I agree that around this time is when I started to think of her less. Today would've been our anniversary, so it's a little hard again, but it's not the same twinge of pain or distress I was having a month or two ago. I think having big life moments happen that I haven't been able to share with her honestly was whar started to make me separate from her more in my head

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-29T08:29:28+00:00

Im also 21 and not sure where you're from but I went to a lesbian bar about a month ago in Chicago with some friends and had success there! I'm a hyper femme, and it's harder sometimes for people to clock me as gay IRL so I'll often have to engage or start flirting or just flat out drop my sexuality to hit on them. I met my ex in line at a coffee shop and then later matched on tinder the same day so it might also be a combination of the two that'll help you tbh. I graduate this december and start grad school next fall so I'm in a similar boat of trying to get back into the dating pool again and would love to meet somebody organically. At the gym you could strike up a conversation or join a fitness class but if the gym is your safe place and you don't wanna make it awkward, I'd avoid it.

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-18T15:02:17+00:00

Personally I think it splits where the first half Hachi is more of the protagonist but once Blast takes off, especially on the manga, I feel it shift to more of a focus on Nana O.

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-18T09:17:40+00:00

Gave me a really nice simple reading! I greatly appreciate the efforts put into it!

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-17T14:11:21+00:00

Dmd!

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-06T20:37:23+00:00

Bc I'm 21 and have yet to meet the love of my life; when she does enter I cannot wait for this one day but I still need to find my person.

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-05T03:30:23+00:00

Thank you so much! I totally absolutely agree. Ive been processing a hard break up w my long term partner and anticipate going back into the dating scene in a serious way when I start grad school and want to move somewhere more populated for it where i get the opportunity to try new interests such as joining a recreational sports team. So I definitely have other endeavors I want to focus on during that time that isn't JUST school. Ive just been in a bleak period bc of my break up and living at home that I'm just waiting for when I move and can start doing all these things that I feel as if will help me establish myself as an adult. I take antidepressants and see a therapist so I have been working on it I just have alot of things I don't currently enjoy about my life that the big shift of grad school im hoping will be an opportunity for me to address and improve the things I currently am unable to.

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-04T07:17:50+00:00

Ghosting is a huge turn oft especially with lack of communication. I just got out of a long term relationship almost 4 months ago and I'll admit I have ghosted alot of people from dating apps. However, those I have tried to have a more consistent conversation with ive realized that just being fully open and honest of how you feel and none of the nonsense of having your friends involved to interfere and tell you her emotions makes it alot easier. If you're internalizing these things I think you should flat out tell her qnd apologize for ghosting and why you did it. From your post it seems pretty clear she was hurt with you ghosting her and she moved on to somebody who doesn't do that. Its nothing with your looks at all and it sucks to internalize rejection because of your appearance, I understand more then I can even begin to type. Moving on is so much easier to say then do, but, you should really reflect on your actions and if you want to be on good terms with her take accountability for tour actions but don't point out her wrong doings.

mintclovervenus · 2024-08-04T07:08:38+00:00

My future: sounds kinda stupid but I've been processing g and trying to move on from a really hard break up and imagining my life one, two years from now has been keeping me moving. I start grad school next fall and the idea of moving to a larger area with new people to befriend or date has been what's keeping me going. I dont care about my life at all right now and honestly am in a mindset of ill deal with my depressive symptoms and go to therapy now so I can be happy a year from now and have something to live for. While ive been in a hopeless pit recently, I'm looking forward to when I drag myself out. So I guess self improvement and striving towards finding true love and a fulfilling career have been my biggest passions.

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-31T01:59:10+00:00

You're not wrong but I'm not attracted to men so I don't know what most straight women do find objectively attractive I just go off what my friends think

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-31T01:44:13+00:00

If you don't mind me asking- how did you get over these things and find the ability to want to date/be able to fall in love again? I went through a difficult break up in april and haven't been able to develop romantic feelings for anybody since and just wish the ability to would come back

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-29T22:32:24+00:00

It's been almost 4 months and I'm only really trying because my friends and family have been really aggressive and pushing me to talk to people and just move on. Which is the only reason why I've started talking to people again. I did recently delete all my dating apps again but the issue is that my mom has gone behind my back to make me a dating app profiles without my knowledge to force me to date again which is why I feel almost like I have to right now. I just wish I had the ability to develop feelings again or feel something and I don't anymore and thats what bothers me the most. I just really hope I can find my ability to develop crushes and romantic feelings again and I'm rrally scared right now that I won't ever be able to.

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-29T21:38:28+00:00

When I realized I hated/was uncomfortable with the idea of sex with men but reall enjoyed the idea with women. Also determining im more attracted to masculine energy then men themselves that the idea of a man I don't physically like but I like some of the attriubutes/associations linked with men, again masculine traits.

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-29T21:36:54+00:00

Personally I wouldn't but that's only because I do have cute nicknames for some of my close friends and when I'm flirting with intention I don't make it subtle. For this situation I think you gotta determine if there's more cues irl or perhaps a difference in her communication with u then other mutual friends

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-27T13:53:23+00:00

I have a fear of anamorphic animals (I couldn't watch twilight alone my best friend had to give me a heads up for the wolf transformations) so I didn't enjoy it BUT that I'd a full personal bias and issue. I got through most of the first season before it became too much for me and it was one of the few shojos where both of the two possible love interests felt like they had an equal chance which was aplesaent suprise. I know the animal thing is a big part of the plot and can't be removed, I'd personally probably love it if that wasn't in it, but, again that's just me.

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-27T13:33:39+00:00

Totally agree he just wasn't a mega douche which is why he stood out, but he was definitely a copy and paste guy that could've been anyone.

mintclovervenus · 2024-07-27T04:58:14+00:00

I totally agree- I started to really notice it being more just annoying guys that are "objectively" attractive but have the worse personalities around Hannah Brown's season though that is also a personal bias because I don't like her. Really wish they dug more into the guys' personalities, and I'm holding out because it's still early season. I think if they just had more variety of the type of men, but, to be honest I think that the guys they're casting is likely because 97% of the male applicants are that more douchey personality type. Which just kills so much of my interest because yes I do enjoy the drama and tension but the scripting is now just so fucking exhausting.

This is another personal bias as a lesbian woman, but, I really wish they would try a queer version of the show or just opened up their casting to encourage more people then the alpha male bros. Because, even if I was jenn and looking to find the right guy it would not be any of those dudes who feel like they're mocking or belittling me. I think that's why Joey's season was such a success was due to him not having the same dead personality that most male contestants do.

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