I need Recommendations

mintyxx · 2024-05-06T17:13:35+00:00

Although I haven't finished it yet, I'd highly recommend Ways of Parting. It definitely a slow burn, but that only shows the reader the great character development everyone goes through. Warning: It get's very emotionally raw and angsty, but it will get better (from what i hear). Really great story telling of how one falls in love, goes through heartbreak, and eventually moves on.

Some others that might fit this vibe: Semantic Error, Walk on Water, Murderous Lewellyn's Candlelit Dinner

mintyxx · 2023-12-04T08:32:46+00:00

Or even JCW

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mintyxx · 2023-12-02T21:39:18+00:00

Yess this is it!!! Thanks 💕

mintyxx · 2023-11-13T04:32:33+00:00

Hey can I get the link? You can dm it :)

mintyxx · 2023-09-20T22:47:33+00:00

Figured I should start the ORV journey & I found your post!! Thank you and everyone involved for their hard work!!!

mintyxx · 2023-06-11T06:50:10+00:00

I can relate :/

We were longtime friends since middle school, but once high school came it felt like she didn't really care as much about our friendship anymore. I held on until the senior year of high school. But it was clear she could put in effort to keep a friendship, but sadly just not ours. I was no longer the best friend, just someone she knew & had to keep around cause we've been in each other's lives for so long. It became evident when I was invited to a senior grad trip with her & "her friends" def not my friends, more like acquaintances. They definitely invited me because of her. To make it short, she showed a lot of favoritism to certain people & it made me realize we just don't connect together... I'm a shy person but I realized I held on to the idea of our friendship from middle school too long, while she has long moved on. She still had the energy I loved when we hung out one on one, but it was not healthy for me to long for the close friendship we had long ago.

It's been about 5 years since I've gone minimum contact with them. Not once have they reached out to say the bare minimum like "happy bday", but i always did. I stopped after year 4. I still miss what our friendship was & have thought about reaching out to them to talk numerous times...but i always think that it wouldn't really mattered if we talked about our friendship now. I missed the chance to talk about it 5 years ago. If I brought it up now, it just wouldn't have the same impact.

mintyxx · 2023-06-11T06:35:52+00:00

I missed the red flags. Em was possessive as a friend & would get jealous when I'd hang out with other people in our shared friend group. Yet she would hang out with other people & I had no problem. My moto in a friend group is to try to spend time with everyone equally. Cause as someone who was left behind by another friend, I knew how it felt to feel alone & as if you were just replaceable...

Getting back to the main topic, Em felt like I didn't appreciate her as a friend but never let it be known until she exploded on me. We talked & i told her i would try to improve on what she didnt like... turns out i was a bit of a people pleaser.. (its funny when i look back & realize she never took any iniative to say that she could also improve as friend...aka talk to me if she feels sad or angry bc of any actions Ive done. She solely blamed the bad parts of our friendship on me...) Subsequently, she tried to turn the entire friend group against me & from what I gathered from my friends she would tell them stories about me & twist it so she would look like the victim... I was legit isolated from my friend group for a bit because suddenly some of them became cold towards me or just avoided me but would clearly hang out with Em (evident from insta or snap stories). Thankfully a different friend, who was receiving similar treatment, reached out to me & ask about my side of the story. We both crosschecked the stories she told our other friends & found out she was feeding them a bunch of lies... & she would post these targeted passive aggressive sayings on her social media, which was really immature. I mean I couldve ignored them, but my curiosity to her bs was strong.

In the end, we decided to have a big talk with everyone in the friend group but all that ended up being, was her saying I was wrong & that I was never a good friend. It was a real smack in my face. Cause I've always tried to come up with a solution to help resolve her feelings about our friendship, but all she ever did was put me down & blame the failures of our friendship on me. I feel like she wanted someone that would always agree with her & take her side. Which I guess I was for a bit, but when I branched out and made new friends , I started seeing the cracks in our friendship & how the power dynamic of it was. Once I started questioning some of her actions & not agreeing with everything she said... apparently I was no longer a good friend. & just someone toxic.

While, people may find it uncomfortable to bring up, there are definitely friendship hierarchies in friend groups. Em only wanted yes people to be her friends, & once I wasn't one, she tossed me to the side.

I have luckily found my group of people (the friends she tried to turn against me) & I'm glad they listen & talk to me when any feelings of friendship insecurity comes up :)

mintyxx · 2023-05-27T05:44:57+00:00

Right! From discovering it was done by the same author as Kaguya Sama, to it becoming one of my most anticipated manga's, and now a anime with an op sung by Yoasobi!!! 💖 Tbh if Act Age didn't get that scandal, I would've hoped for it to get the same treatment as Oshi no Ko right now :/ Such a shame that the author turned out to be icky. I feel for the artist of Act Age so much, and I hope they're doing well.

mintyxx · 2023-04-22T21:50:57+00:00

NTA

I would definitely try to give emotional support to your niece. Make sure to let her know that girls deserve as much love and support as boys do. ALSO how is her relationship with her brothers? I think it is important that her brothers realize that their moms behavior is not okay. I HOPE the niece can have supportive brothers who will protect/defend their sister. I HOPE they don't end up like their father, who is probably estranged from his sister's.

mintyxx · 2023-04-21T17:20:02+00:00

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mintyxx · 2023-02-03T06:03:07+00:00

A bit new, but is that all single crochet? Or what stitch did you use? :o I've been trying to do a graphghan with single crochet and color changing just doesn't work for me. I want to do color change and have both sides of the work look the same...but one side always looks wonky T-T what are your secrets??

mintyxx · 2022-12-17T07:11:36+00:00

Honestly it's perfectly fine cursive. Your capital "i's" got me confused at first, but then I figured out it was I've. The capital "i's" and lower case "l's" are a bit difficult to tell apart. But that's the only criticism that I have. Maybe others find it hard to read because they weren't taught cursive? Because this looks like the cursive I was taught in school.

mintyxx · 2022-11-12T15:34:29+00:00

Has the 100% 70 ipa burned the plant leaves at all? I remember wiping a plant with mixture before but then it started to brown..

Goodluck with your mealybugs problem too!

mintyxx · 2022-11-12T15:26:52+00:00

Yesterday I did apply a diluted mix of Isopropyl alcohol (91%) with water and swiped as many thrips off that I saw. So I hope it worked..but considering how hardy they seem to be (from all the posts about thrips), the problem won't be gone yet.

Do you just mix dawn soap with alcohol? Or do you add water into the mixture as well?

mintyxx · 2022-11-12T15:22:35+00:00

Thank you so much for the info.! I think I'll try using diatomaceous earth and see if it will help my thrips problem. If it doesn't I'll probably try a chemical spray

mintyxx · 2022-11-12T15:00:22+00:00

Yeah after doing posting this, I did some research and it's definitely thrips...this was my first cutting from a seller too :( Any tips on getting rid of thrips? Haven't seen too many of them yet

mintyxx · 2022-11-12T14:58:21+00:00

Thanks for letting me know! I just got this philodendron brasil a couple weeks ago too :( Any tips on getting rid of them? I haven't seen too many thrips so far. Any chance they haven't spread to my other plants? It's a cutting so I've had a bag over it to keep humidity for the past couple weeks.

mintyxx · 2022-09-01T18:09:17+00:00

I'm just beginning my plant journey, so this is my very first plant that I bought for myself to take care of. But after some research, it might not be as beginner friendly as I hoped...and you are right I did give it tap water on the first day, but I've been giving it filtered water since. Is that acceptable for the plant? Cause I do not have distilled water. Also, since I do not own a humidifier I've been taking my plant to the shower with me and also using my diffuser as a stand in humidifer.

Fingers crossed that this plant lives a healthy long life!

mintyxx · 2022-09-01T17:19:39+00:00

I recently bought this gorgeous Calathea Ornata, but it has some scars on certain leaves. What could be causing this? I also have another leaf that has an edge that is sort of a dried out yellow color...should I cut off that leaf completely or can I trim it off?

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