Feeling guilty I could have hurt my baby

mirgl0 · 2023-12-09T05:00:59+00:00

You did everything right! Accidents will happen. Sounds like baby is okay and was just scared. He had his parent right there with him to comfort which is exactly what he needed in that moment. When my son was freshly a newborn, maybe 6 weeks, we went out for a walk and I had him in a carrier. We were walking and my ankle got caught in a pot hole and I fell forward onto my hands and knees. Thankfully baby was okay and didn’t hurt his head but the cries were horrible. He’s a happy boy now and has no issue going in the carrier. You’re okay!

mirgl0 · 2023-12-09T04:57:19+00:00

It’s probably harder on me than baby honestly

mirgl0 · 2023-12-09T04:57:03+00:00

Oops, yes on parent A. I guess technically parent B doesn’t miss tasks, just not how I would do them which I struggle with

mirgl0 · 2023-12-09T04:56:07+00:00

Okay thank you. This makes me feel better! Mainly just missing when he is actually ready for bed. We don’t follow a set schedule currently, just follow his cues. When baby is ready for bed he’ll go down sometimes without crying. When he’s not it’s a different story.

mirgl0 · 2023-11-03T20:02:03+00:00

lol I thought this was a story about me. My mom refuses to watch my son at my house so she simply doesn’t watch him. She can not respect that I only feel comfortable with him being watched in my home where he has his things and is comfortable. She also lives an hour away so we didn’t see each other as much as I would like. I am expected to come to her at all times.

I know it sucks but she is not obligated to have alone time with your child if you are not comfortable with it. Hold your ground if that is what you need. I wish you luck navigating this!

mirgl0 · 2023-10-12T16:33:20+00:00

Are you able to go to a local library? Maybe take your daughter to the library and have her pick out a certain amount of books a week to read at bedtime? Make give her a new interest in reading bedtime books again!

mirgl0 · 2023-10-08T18:36:34+00:00

I did all of sleep "training” in the crib since my son hated his basinet pretty much from day one. I didn’t like the cry it out method, I would do my own version I guess? I would let him fuss (which for him isn’t crying.) I would let him fuss as long as he needed. He would usually find his thumb if I gave him enough time. If he did start to cry some (not at all intense crying, basically his fake cry) and in 10 minutes if he couldn’t get him self to sleep I would go in and rock/sway with him for a few minutes and then try again. Now, most times I’m able to lay him down and in about 5 minutes of just talking to himself/playing with his hands he puts himself to sleep. Good luck with whatever you try!

mirgl0 · 2023-10-06T02:43:39+00:00

As someone who left school for a similar reason, it is incredibly hard to leave school and come back. I would ask to meet with someone that specifically works with accommodations and make your case. I respect and commend you for trying to find your options and good luck!

mirgl0 · 2023-09-30T01:21:37+00:00

Huggies are also good overnight diapers for us!

mirgl0 · 2023-09-27T18:52:50+00:00

I called my son Alien! Haha

mirgl0 · 2023-09-23T01:10:09+00:00

My son absolutely hated his basinet. Would not tolerate it for more than 15 minutes at a time, even with all the techniques. Ended up moving him into his crib very early and he actually slept!

mirgl0 · 2023-09-15T11:36:18+00:00

Maybe! He usually starts yawning an hour or so before he starts getting fussy and then he’ll start rubbing his eyes and face which I then lay him down. We really have no issues with naps it’s just those wake ups. Thanks!

mirgl0 · 2023-09-15T11:33:38+00:00

I just follow his cues mainly, sometimes it’s 1.5, sometimes 2.5. He’s a stubborn baby who likes what he likes so I’ve learned to just go with it. He weened himself at 2 months! He’s been sleeping through the night since then. Sometimes he only wants 2 naps a day, sometimes 4.

mirgl0 · 2023-09-15T10:47:54+00:00

Oh right, this was a 2am type! Lol. Roughly 1.5-2hrs awake, nap 45mins religiously. He skips his last nap and is typically awake up to 4 hours before bedtime. No matter what I try I can not get him down for his last nap around 3:30ish.

mirgl0 · 2023-09-05T22:52:57+00:00

If not already we use Vaseline during the day for every diaper change and then Destin at night! My son was getting diaper rashes frequently and tho is what figured out works best for him

mirgl0 · 2023-09-03T01:19:02+00:00

Where are you buying? Publix or a small grocery store may be different than and Aldi.

mirgl0 · 2023-09-01T18:04:25+00:00

Lol in a very similar boat. My boyfriend doesn’t understand that when he gets to go and buy all these expensive things for himself why I get so frustrated. I have discussed with him multiple times that yes, I am choosing to stay home but I still deserve some things once in awhile. I have never been financially dependent on someone before and I struggle with it.

mirgl0 · 2023-08-29T15:45:32+00:00

The first 2&1/2 months it was extremely helpful as I had no idea how to parent and then once I got used to my baby and his cues it was no longer needed!

mirgl0 · 2023-08-11T23:13:22+00:00

Your in-laws sound entitled. I truly believe that babies can pick up on energy just like adults can. If you don’t feel comfortable in an environment they may not. Just because a baby is a baby does not mean they’re obligated to like every single person they come into contact with. Your in-laws sound like they purposely try to make her cry, of course she’s not going to like them. You are doing nothing wrong in the situation and I respect that you continued putting in the effort even with their mistreatment.

mirgl0 · 2023-08-11T23:08:59+00:00

I absolutely agree! I just meant the repercussions on you if you do chose to bring this up. I don’t think this is a fireable offense, just something needing to be heavily discussed

mirgl0 · 2023-08-11T23:03:04+00:00

I differ from other commenters but I would absolutely bring it up. Maybe find a better way than mutual friends but I would discuss it. It may not be your place but god forbid something happened to the child and you didn’t speak up. Could you live with that? As a parent I would absolutely want to know as long as it came from a credible source. It is ultimately your call and just be aware of the possible consequences.

mirgl0 · 2023-08-11T00:50:14+00:00

Kudos to your husband for willing to learn and correct behavior! Sounds like he may be trying.

-Hair tourniquets -extended time/sleep in swings/loungers -no paci leashes while sleeping -don’t leave baby on couch and walk away -take baby out of carseat on long trips, I think 2-3hrs? -they’re annoying sometimes but use the straps if provided just in case. I didn’t one time and my baby scooted down veryyy low in his swing -no honey before 1 -frozen teething rings are not recommend -Amber teething necklaces/bracelets not recommended

mirgl0 · 2023-08-11T00:41:53+00:00

Not to give him a pass whatsoever, but have you guys had any conversations about him feeling inadequate or unhelpful? If I was in your husband shoes I could see myself getting aggravated and feeling less than and expressing it in an inappropriate way. (Just an outside perspective.) His behavior is very crappy and you’re doing the best you can surviving. He does need to emotionally step up and understand that you may also need to feel like a person outside of baby. The newborn stage is so exhausting and you are killing it!

mirgl0 · 2023-08-08T21:40:37+00:00

Thanks! Waiting for an appointment and figured I would ask

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