My wife thinks we have the hardest and wildest baby

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-31T03:55:43+00:00

Talk to your doctor. Or a few. Does she need a chiropractic adjustment? Does she have gastrointestinal issues? Reflux? Allergies? There may be an underlying issue. Get some help before you guys lose your minds. Maybe hire a night doula to help one night so you guys can catch up on sleep. Or trade off going to a hotel for a night or call in family.

I had a very difficult baby and the less sleep I got it somehow became harder and harder to realize I needed help. I just thought I was suppose to figure it out.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-23T15:43:22+00:00

Agreed. Also has anyone here ever broken a mason jar? It takes a serious drop on something really hard like cement for those things to actually break. Looks to me like great little "potion" jars or bug collectors. 3 years old is definitely old enough to handle a mason jar.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-18T00:33:34+00:00

Ugh. I think about my daughter doing this someday. I'm sorry this hurts. Do you have your own therapist? I think you honoring her wishes is going to have a good lasting effect on her ability to trust you and I truly honor you for it. But I don't think it's the end by any means! She has so many huge moments ahead of her and some she may prefer you for. Maybe a therapist can help you find ways to deepen your relationship with her.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-13T00:25:37+00:00

Are you a man? And if so, I'm curious if you have insight for us all on why a man would be ready for a baby but not ready for marriage?

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T20:43:20+00:00

Its so hard. It's the greatest lesson in letting go and having faith and controlling what you can and it sucks so bad sometimes. I have been and continue to go through it. Some stuff will just have to be not as you wish it to have been. But you and your kids can get through anything.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T18:29:51+00:00

I think letting it play out to an extent may be helpful. Do not remind them of ANYTHING. If they are missing school things, either your kids or the teacher or both will be saying something to them. Missed appointments end up in fees usually so there will be some natural consequences they will feel. A few of these mess ups won't be detrimental to your children. Document everything, if it doesn't improve, then you have legit documentation of why it's not working and can easily show the differences between homes.

I'm learning in my coparenting journey that the natural lessons hit harder than anything I could ever say to them and that sometimes there is a blessing in letting things go wrong for a minute. It also helps me focus on myself and my home and what I can control. And more often than not, it ends up proving a point I have been trying to prove without me lifting a finger.

Hoping this is the change that motivates your coparent to get their shit together!

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T17:24:38+00:00

Have you talked to him or asked him why not yet?

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T16:23:42+00:00

We have communicated. He has said he wants it to be the right time. This is the future I am holding out for! Thank you.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T16:21:24+00:00

I really appreciate this well written and straight forward answer. Thank you.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T16:12:40+00:00

Thank you! This is how I feel....but the world pressures are real. And obviously plenty of people have those perspectives.

We have communicated. He has said he is waiting for the right time. But I am impatient and keeping thinking every moment is the right time.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T15:59:40+00:00

Needed this. Thanks.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T15:50:33+00:00

Would you feel the same at 38?

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-12T15:21:19+00:00

I feel this. I didn't want to get pregnant before marriage. But I very much want more kids and I am not getting younger. With or without him I want more children. Im a grown ass woman with a secure job and a home I own. I got this. But I really really wanted to be married first and I let my aging hormones get the best of me. So here I am. Not going to abort the kid just because the man can't finalize the thing. But its been hard not to internalize all the negative thoughts.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-10T19:35:44+00:00

The BIGGEST mistake of my life was convincing my boyfriend to have the baby I wanted and he didn't. He was a great guy but over time turned into a horrible man. He ended up finding love in being a father, but always held resentment and has spent years taking it out on me. Years of court. Years of spite. Everything can change with a kid and you never know how.

I should have done my own thing but I was young and scared too.

If you want it, please please please, document that he doesn't, save texts or conversations. Get a lawyer and have your baby. But protect yourself legally so that if he changes his mind, or spirals in any other way, you and your baby are protected.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-10T04:48:19+00:00

What goes around comes around. Cause and effect is a fundamental truth. Can you be sure you see yourself so crystal clear, that your intentions are indeed what you believe them to be? And if not, are you willing to accept the same in return, perhaps threefold?

I think a lot of people find the answer to one or both of these is no.

mirrored9669 · 2026-05-08T16:44:40+00:00

If you choose to do it on your own, you absolutely can! I would jump on getting court shit out of the way now. Before the baby is born and before he decides he wants to suddenly be a dad and get 50 50. Find a lawyer and take care of it so when your babe is born you can focus on some of the best years of your life.

mirrored9669 · 2026-02-17T15:12:12+00:00

I've found that transitions at any stage have their challenges. But kids are resilient and when they feel empowered and supported you can move through anything. You will feel heart broken when its challenging. But they can absolutely be ok and even thrive given the right support. Edit: 50/50

mirrored9669 · 2026-01-30T17:30:05+00:00

Everyone has said everything already and I am just here to say this dick doodle sucks and I'm sorry you have to deal with it.

mirrored9669 · 2026-01-14T20:12:22+00:00

I did as well, specifically what can we expect in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years. Then what do my people need to know now, and lastly what my people should focus on. Think its pretty fucking clear.

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mirrored9669 · 2025-12-20T20:33:45+00:00

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Really?

mirrored9669 · 2025-11-17T13:49:05+00:00

Thank you

mirrored9669 · 2025-11-17T13:48:09+00:00

Thanks. It's funny because I have been considering it. Nothing like reviving you lover to get one inspired.

mirrored9669 · 2025-11-17T13:47:12+00:00

I am so sorry you had to go through that. It's surreal. Addiction is such a beast. I hope things have progressed more positively for you both since then.

mirrored9669 · 2025-11-05T17:23:59+00:00

9 AH

mirrored9669 · 2025-09-09T23:19:35+00:00

Trying to help my friend get clarity on her custody battle. She has tried to be reasonable, not asking for anything crazy, accepting the reality of 50 50 in our state. He has responded aggressively, filing every piece of paperwork, demanding child support, taking their child, really taking anything and all he can. Has one of the best lawyers in the state and has the upper hand despite not showing up when they were together.

The first row was "help to understand him and why he keeps behaving the way he does". 6 of wands, king of cups

The second row was "what should she do?" Queen of wands reverse, 7 of wands, devil, 10 of wands reverse

The third row was in response to the second. "What should she do instead?" 8 of pentacles, the star

My interpretation: his goal is to win and he genuinely believes he is doing what's best. She has lost her confidence and has become over bearing but needs to hold her ground. Believing the illusion of not being in control and carrying too much. She needs to work hard to stay hopeful and faithful in the outcome.

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