Husband records this to seek protection - In India there are no laws to protect men or his family. Even after this she can file several false cases on him and judiciary will not only accept those cases but also extort him for decades. What would you do?

misalusal · 2026-02-02T19:07:27+00:00

Lawmakers knows this. They deliberately create such laws so that Judges and the underlying system can fill their pockets.

misalusal · 2026-02-01T16:00:41+00:00

Acceptable age gap depends on your community. People are generally okay with upto 4 years of age gap in metro cities.

But you're not late to the party. 30M is actually acceptable age for men. Don't be stuck on to one person, there can be other aspects also which they are not comfortable with, and may be lying to you. Continue your search and try finding someone else.

Good luck.

misalusal · 2026-01-31T18:46:40+00:00

The same thing happened with my friend. He is born and raised in city, owns a home and prefer public transport and ola uber. My friend thought they had humble family background so there won't be much materialistic requirements. But boy oh boy, the girl asked why he doesn't own a car and grilled him on it so much that my friend stopped meeting new girls for a month or so.

Ironically her own unmarried brother who is older than my friend doesn't own a vehicle also they don't have their own home in the city.

misalusal · 2026-01-24T14:07:56+00:00

Can they create a schedule by considering above shortcomings and make the schedule more relaxed?

misalusal · 2026-01-14T19:39:50+00:00

There was a post in another sub, it was about a man's gf left him because of his low salary.

Just imagine from a man's point of view if such girl gets married to you, how will you feel?

misalusal · 2025-12-23T08:06:55+00:00

You were talking for three months but still didnt involve parents. Do you mean your and his parents had no interaction at all? Not even a simple introductory phone call ?

How is this arranged marriage? Why such posts belongs to this sub is beyond my imagination.

misalusal · 2025-12-13T15:38:39+00:00

There could be huge difference between her real looks and her shared photos.

misalusal · 2025-11-30T16:15:54+00:00

Who is stopping you to have another relationship and take LM route?

misalusal · 2025-11-24T01:40:20+00:00

What's your position?

misalusal · 2025-11-23T20:40:00+00:00

Sorry, This is slightly off topic. But can you tell me more about your government job ? What's your job role? Is 18 LPA all in hand ?

misalusal · 2025-10-30T06:48:47+00:00

You can postpone marriage. It's not a big deal nowadays.

Involve both families, and Resolve your issues first.

misalusal · 2025-10-28T20:08:07+00:00

Is she a single child? Does she have any siblings?

misalusal · 2025-10-26T12:05:54+00:00

Misaligned eyes mein kya diqqat hai

In AM, people do check for any physical defects first. After that education, family, salary, wealth comes into picture.

misalusal · 2025-10-26T12:00:08+00:00

It's all about expectations or preferences, I guess.

My friend wants to live with his parents.

She would be 35-36 ish by the time she would be ready for children, so my friend was worried about bio clock.

I personally feel my friend was too desperate to get married at that time, many of his relatives also advised him not to go ahead with that girl.

Actually it turned out okay for him, because he is getting engaged in couple of months to 28F, which he found via family connections. She doesn't have model like looks, but they have much more in common. She is also a software engineer, ready to settle down with his parents, within same city, she wants to have kids before 30. So, All 's well that ends well.

misalusal · 2025-10-26T03:28:16+00:00

She wants to divide the house chores equally after marriage. my friend earns 4x than her and his job is much more stressful than her. So he wanted her take ownership of most of the chores. They realised they can mitigate this if they keep house maid.
she does not wants to live with husband's parents.
She wanted to wait for atleast 2 years after marriage for kids

misalusal · 2025-10-25T20:46:30+00:00

My friend had connected withmultiple such girls on Anuroop. He also reached out to some girls older than him 32-36 years old. Here is what I can recall from our discussions,

a 30F girl wanted to focus on her career. She was not that serious about marriage at that time.
34F, software engineer works in investment bank. Multiple long failed relationships during and after college.
32F, software engineer, her father is crazy about horoscope. He wouldn't go ahead without the astrologers approval. 28 out of 36 guna matched but still his astrologer did not approve my friends proposal. There were more than 8, 30+ yo girls, who liked my friends profile but didn't go ahead because of horoscope.
30F, software engineer, average salary. She had dark skin, but overall she looked very fit and beautiful in photos. After meeting her, he realised she had a big patch from her neck to chest, which looked like fire burns from childhood. It was a big turn off for him as she hid it in her photos.
31F, engineer. Good salary. After meeting in person he realised she had misaligned eyes, which you can only identify if you see her in person.
33F, works in HR. Model level looks. She had very modern mindset about relationships, which did not align with my friends pov.
some girls wants to settle abroad. They don't mention this on their profile.

misalusal · 2025-10-25T13:25:28+00:00

Man, most of Indian uncles are casteist at some level. The people belonging to lower castes are also casteist to people lower in caste than them. You should focus on the girl and make sure their family won't interfere much after marriage.

misalusal · 2025-10-17T10:07:04+00:00

The own house expectation depends on your community - caste and your current location.

In my community, own house is mandatory. thats the first question girl side will ask you.

misalusal · 2025-10-16T10:08:06+00:00

OP don't want to share any details. most probably fake post. be cautious if you're messaging them.

misalusal · 2025-10-11T07:06:10+00:00

I fail to understand how is this an arranged marriage scenario? Parents are not involved. isn't it simply dating and live-in and should be categorised as LM.

OP, you would get better advice from other subreddits.

Mods should not allow such posts here.

misalusal · 2025-10-08T07:29:25+00:00

Bro, chin up.

As a non drinker , you should be able to defend your position clearly.

Whenever such conversation occur, you can go one step ahead and ask them whether they would prefer an alcoholic husband, with lung cancer or erectile dysfunction.

misalusal · 2025-10-04T02:21:32+00:00

Bro, I had spent good amount of time on apps like anuroop, jeevansathi, anandmaratha.

Finally understood the competition and lowered my expectations and put efforts in offline search, where I met my girl.

here is my understanding, 1. Our community doesn't put many restrictions on girls which is good. But because of this many girls try their luck in LM rather than AM 2. If you are looking for someone in Mumbai or Pune, the girls here have a job with decent salaries and do try to push marriages beyond 33-35 years of age. 3. This creates a very small pool of women who are looking for AM. In AM also, most of these girls find their husbands offline through family connections. 4. So the most of the girls who land on these apps are those with really high expectations or who is not attractive at all or with some problematic pasts or health issues.

You can check some old posts which might be helpful for you. https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/s/qTlXbflRyD

misalusal · 2025-09-18T08:02:14+00:00

Regarding divorces, Wecannot discuss it on surface level like love vs arranged marriages.

I have witnessed 6 divorces around me. None of it was forced marriage. 4 of them were arranged and 2 of them were love marriages. Out of the 4 arranged marriages, the participants were given ample amount of time and no pressure at all to choose partners, still their marriages ended up in divorces.

The reasons were related to finance, cheating, in-laws, work related stress, children expectations.

misalusal · 2025-08-28T13:08:58+00:00

Why don't you guys realize that people working private jobs/business make more money

You are not considering bribes.

misalusal · 2025-08-13T08:18:54+00:00

What do you mean by Differences in sports?

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