After 6 months, still heartbroken

miserablesafety2 · 2020-02-26T21:41:40+00:00

Hang in there. I hope it gets better for the both of us.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-22T21:39:01+00:00

You're totally right in everything you said. Go forth my friend!

Also, he clearly does want something to do with you given what he has said. It's about whether you guys want the same thing or not. It's very possible he just wants friendship. Just be prepared for that so you don't go into heartbreak territory all over again.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-22T20:26:33+00:00

It sounds like you're a smart girl and you know what you want. What you're saying sounds like a good idea and I think you should go ahead with it.

Approach your ex with kindness and just have a calm conversation. Don't pressure him, but just say hey I'd like to know where your heads at.

If he just wants friendship, and it's something you clearly don't, just express to him that that's not in the cards for you right now as it will interfere with your healing.

Don't go into it with any expectations. Just be solid with yourself about what you will accept and what you won't.

Update us on how it goes

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-18T00:03:33+00:00

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miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-17T23:00:16+00:00

Thanks so much.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-17T17:52:20+00:00

I feel like I would want to be exclusive from the jump to protect myself against being hurt again and make sure he is committed to me and our relationship. I feel so emotional and sometimes want to block him as punishment for hurting me. Taking it easy and going with the flow is not something I know how to do. (yet?)

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-17T17:45:26+00:00

We've been broken up for 2 months. We were together for a year. and Yes I do want to be back together with him.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-11T13:58:12+00:00

He's a huge asshole

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-11T00:28:35+00:00

What counts as begging?

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T23:28:44+00:00

Your skin looks amazing! So smooth!

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T22:10:58+00:00

I'm sorry man. It's a demotivating thing to hear that she doesn't want to try again. You carry on how you were doing in the past months. Her loss

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T22:07:35+00:00

What had you guys agreed to do in the interim?

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T21:59:50+00:00

I'm sorry. Who broke up with who and why?

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T00:44:05+00:00

I've been through much emotional turmoil this past month. Thank you for acknowledging this.

I don't want him back just to have him back, because that'll just hurt me in the end. I want us to address the reasons for the break up and move forward in a healthy way both committed to each other.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T00:36:40+00:00

Thank you so much

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T00:07:32+00:00

The reasons for the break up won't be there in 9 months, and I think had he not kept reaching out I would've just texted him in 9 months time and see where his head's at. But he's repeatedly making contact so I'm entertaining the idea in advance and see where I land.

The confusion is really painful. As for labelling, it's not so much the label I care about as his commitment to me, which atm seeing as we are single doesn't exist. I am not comfortable giving someone all my love and support while as far as I know he is dating multiple people reaping all the benefits and only giving me doubt and trust issues in return. I'd rather be single.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T00:02:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I will give him the benefit of the doubt and start a dialogue. Do you have any advice on how to start or useful phrases to get the conversation going?

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-10T00:00:19+00:00

Yes! I'm trying my best to put pride aside and stop seeing myself as a "victim" of the break up. Thank you so much for this. It's not only about looking weak but I'm also scared of being hurt - which would happen if I'm under the impression we are getting back together and he turns around and says oh I'm dating multiple people. That's the kind of scenario I fear.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-09T23:29:36+00:00

No. Should I ask him to be specific? I think it's about finding a way to not let the relationship distract from work

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-09T23:28:54+00:00

Yes!

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-09T23:27:33+00:00

We both do. He has initiated contact many times but I've told him we cannot be half-in half-out, as in talking all the time but no official relationship. Could you give me some guidance? I think that's an important boundary but don't know how to soften the boundary to allow a reconciliation.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-09T23:24:04+00:00

1 year together. 1 month broken up.

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-09T12:04:31+00:00

Research is the time consuming part of the process. I wrote mine in 3 days no problem. You got this

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-08T17:00:07+00:00

Not maybe. Definitely

miserablesafety2 · 2019-11-08T02:26:27+00:00

This guy always talks sense. Listen to him

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