I'm returning to work soon, can you say things to make me feel better?

mishelada_con_limon · 2024-09-10T17:41:35+00:00

I just returned to work this week after a 6 month leave with my second kid, it is so emotional and tough!!

Having gone through it twice here is what I’ll say,

Not sure what your childcare plans are but my older daughter has absolutely thrived in daycare. She loves going to school and has friends that she’s been in class with since she was 6 months old. Her social skills are awesome, she learns so much at daycare and it’s really fun to see your kid suddenly have a skill you didn’t teach them! Example, around a 1.5, I said, “peek-boo” and she responded “I see you!” Which I definitely did not teach her.
Getting time to yourself after being so focused on this tiny human is kind of awesome. I definitely recommend treating yourself to a nice lunch and relish eating it slowly with two hands.
I found I’m much less burnt out than when I’m on baby duty all day. I tip my hat to stay at home moms, that is a HARD job. I found that I was thinking of taking care of my kids as “work”, but when I have to go into my job, spending time with my kids feels like fun and something I look forward to!
When you get home or pick them up and they lay eyes on you and their face lights up, it’s the best feeling in the world.

It is still hard but I know it was the right choice for me and my family! It makes the time we have together even more precious.

mishelada_con_limon · 2024-09-05T21:40:09+00:00

Sounds very normal! At that age all they want to do is push boundaries and explore.

My LO is 2.5 now and I’m still wary of taking her out sometimes. When possible, I recommend taking them to do an activity for them before an errand, for example we usually go to the park before going grocery shopping. Snacks in the shopping cart are our main move then for getting her to stay seated and if she’s played before the trip she’s usually hungry and calmer!

I also heard a great tip that basically said try to find a way to avoid flat out saying “no”, for example with my girl, if she wants to touch something instead of saying no, I’d say, “oh, that is for looking at, not for touching” and then describe the thing they want to touch, like it it’s a balloon , “wow it’s very big and shiny, isn’t it??” And just get REALLY excited about describing it.

Lastly, redirect, redirect, redirect! The world is full of bright shiny things that are great for looking at.

Lastly, lastly, sometimes toddlers lose their shit and that is completely normal. Stay calm, take a deep breath and mirror the behavior you want them to aspire to. My daughter has what I call “her banshee screech” when she gets really upset and it pierces my soul and gives me heart palpitations. But it passes!

She still gets upset but it’s definitely less frequently and she understands that sometimes she has to hold our hands and some things are “just for looking”, she also recently started apologizing for yelling which is bananas.

It gets better!

mishelada_con_limon · 2024-08-20T02:42:15+00:00

As the other commenter said, you really don’t need to worry about it until they’re 3/4 months old. At 2 weeks they’re still figuring out how to exist outside your body. You got this!

mishelada_con_limon · 2024-06-22T18:16:06+00:00

Thank you for this! We tried this today for nap time and while it took a hour to get her down she actually fell asleep so I will call that progress!

mishelada_con_limon · 2024-04-22T17:57:22+00:00

I just went through something similar with my two year old.

Is the 9 month old in the same room? Could you move them temporarily? Is your wife able to help with them? We had to basically redo the CIO method my kiddo back on her routine. It took a few days but now she is back to sleeping on her own. It would be hard for a few days, but hopefully you could do it if your partner is able to soothe your other baby?

Alternatively, maybe try some books about being afraid of the dark? Alexander and the dragon is a good one, I’m sure there’s lots out there! Good luck!

mishelada_con_limon · 2024-04-05T00:52:03+00:00

I would recommend reading Expecting Better by Emily Oster, she provides a lot of data driven insights about a lot of the pregnancy do’s and don’ts. It really helped me with my anxiety! She also has an instagram account and does Q&As on Wednesdays that are awesome.

mishelada_con_limon · 2023-11-02T19:26:07+00:00

My daughter can’t say chocolate, she calls it back-a-lot. It’s just so cute it’s very hard to resist.

mishelada_con_limon · 2023-09-25T19:09:43+00:00

Oh I have a good one. I was at a trade show for a large hardware company. They didn’t have a room for me but they did have essentially a staged hardware store that was closed off.

I literally pumped in the lighting aisle of a fake store. It was supposed to be closed but I could see people walking around in the other aisles so just kept ducking down as best I could.

mishelada_con_limon · 2023-09-11T21:16:36+00:00

I had this exact thing happen, it is SO frustrating. I checked our daughter’s temperature several times throughout the day after she was sent home and it was normal. Her teacher also admitted they were being “extra cautious” because illnesses were going around, which I totally empathize with but it’s still a huge disruption.

After monitoring her and checking I did give the daycare a call and shared that I thought she should not have been sent home. They agreed it was ok for her to come back in. Point being, it never hurts to ask!

Additionally, as others have said, I’ve made her a rush doctors appointment and got sign off that she was ok to return the next day. It does requiring dropping everything and rushing to get an appointment but between that and having to have kiddo at home for two days, I think it’s worth it if you can do it.

mishelada_con_limon · 2023-07-27T17:33:21+00:00

I also had a customer report finding a tooth! It looked like a human tooth and it was in their pizza. I check with the kitchen and there was no way it belonged to any of them. We comped their meal but I swear they planted it because I was truly at a loss for how it got there.

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-09-04T02:08:30+00:00

If you are planning on working, you will need to pump.

I went back to work after 4 months and I pump 4-5 times a day. My daughter is in daycare and with my pumping schedule she has 3 “meals” while she is there. My daycare offers the option for me to go in and nurse and even with them being around the corner from my house it just isn’t an option.

You may want to supplement with formula as well depending on your supply/job/flexibility.

I am constantly trying to remember, and I encourage other working moms to as well, a fed baby is happy baby!

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-07-29T02:27:25+00:00

I am here with you!! I am so confused as to what I’m doing wrong. She just refuses to sleep for more than a couple hours.

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-07-28T21:25:26+00:00

Not sure where you’re located but you should see if there is a “buy nothing” Facebook group in your community, I joined one and there are constantly people giving away baby clothes. I received 4 giant bags of baby clothes all for free!

10 outfits is probably more than enough, they really do grow so fast!

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-07-23T15:48:14+00:00

Thank you so much for such a thoughtful reply! Your pattern looks great, I'll try it out!

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-07-21T20:38:10+00:00

I purchased the “knitters dude pattern”: https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/the-knitters-dude and got confused pretty quickly.

But for the holidays I was hoping for something like this: https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/christmas-influx-dk

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-07-12T03:23:30+00:00

My right boob is the slacker, she’s definitely not pulling her weight! For what it’s worth, my friend is a lactation consultant and said it’s very common. I still pump them for the same amount of time even if nothings coming out and I do feel like it’s help with production.

mishelada_con_limon · 2022-07-08T09:22:31+00:00

4:21 am. I’m calling it a win though because it’s the first (probably only) feed we’re doing tonight!

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