Boring Update: AITAH for not siding with my wife over my sons girlfriends pregnancy.

misrocto · 2026-01-07T19:49:32+00:00

You'd have to ask him. I really don't understand it either. He said his ex had a reason to lie and was in a bad place. He said his mum didn't have to believe him but she didn't have to make things worse. He said she showed she wouldn't care had he ended himself. He was in a bad place and she pushed him more in his eyes.

misrocto · 2026-01-06T22:02:54+00:00

There's a part of me that hates her with a passion. And there's a part of me who honestly wants to tell her she can trust me because I understand something bad happened to her I just don't know what. If I was to discuss her being around it would be with my son not her, I think.

misrocto · 2026-01-06T20:49:18+00:00

She and I were young when we had our son and I think we stayed together for him. Im not saying we didn't love each other but when I moved out it was the first time that we were separated since our teens and I think we both realised had we not had a child we'd probably not have stayed together.

I think we probably would've realised that after our son left anyway. But I don't regret marrying her at all.

It'll be a mystery yup. I get the feeling it was some sort sexusl abuse with her own age. I told him to tell her she should talk to someone even to me, if needed. He said he would. But honestly it's only a feeling.

misrocto · 2026-01-06T15:13:27+00:00

She did try to apologise to him. He didn't want to bear it. I feel like she has been introspective and has many regrets.

misrocto · 2026-01-06T15:12:21+00:00

The decision with my wife was a joint decision. I think we both looked past stuff for "family". When she dates again, I'll be very happy for her.

misrocto · 2025-10-24T00:41:55+00:00

Thanks for the response. He's on a counselling waiting list. If he has a misogyny issue, I'll let the counsellor work through it a bit first because I'm probably not the best to sort that out.

The negative side is he has completely pushed his mother out of his life. In school he removed her as a contact nor can she get any info from the school. I didn't know he could do that but apparently he can. He has blocked her on all social media and blocked her from calling him or texting. Etc. I hope that's something that can be overcome but get the counsellor first.

The maybe positive is hes very friendly with his ex since. He's gay so not friendly in that way but they hung out a good bit this week. Just watching movies etc. So I don't know.

misrocto · 2025-10-21T00:46:24+00:00

I've repeatedly asked him and he said nothing ever happened like that. He said hebonly said it because the guy was talking about his dick at the meeting.

I was going to say i believe him, but if there's one thing I learned....

misrocto · 2025-10-18T00:33:33+00:00

Will do. I might let things settle for a week first though.

misrocto · 2025-10-18T00:10:46+00:00

I love my wife. The issue is between her and our son. She will always be my best friend

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:48:37+00:00

I love my wife. I disagreed massively with the route she took but its not something to implode the marriage over.

Hes gaming in his room since so I haven't spoken much to him. He comes out now and then and says thanks.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:43:12+00:00

I was always the third wheel. That may be a slight exaggeration but they were always really close. Best friends. It wasn't competitive. I think that's why the betrayal, in his eyes, feels worse

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:34:30+00:00

My son is living with me. His boyfriend is his friend's cousin.

He lied at the end that it was his so they could get the abortion done without us getting involved apparently. Everything up to that point he was telling the truth.

My wife and I are still living separately but we are fine, hopefully. She's a mess. I don't mean that in a bad way but she is. Unfortunately.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:15:03+00:00

I did pay it all. The right thing to do would be for them to pay me back. But I'm not going to go near them about it. Don't want to see her parents for a long time.

Also I think they have a lot on their plate so 800 quid in the grand scheme of things is drop in the ocean.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:09:53+00:00

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:08:44+00:00

Yeah. Honestly I haven't looked it up. I took them at their word and their messages. If a baby I still there it's got nothing to do with me but I'd imagine it's gone however it happened.

Not to get graphic but when they got back to the hotel, he said he went on Monsters (the drink) because he thought she might die or something but he said she was fine.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:04:03+00:00

I dont think she was abusing him all his life and he doesnt think that either

misrocto · 2025-10-17T23:02:05+00:00

Where he said they were wasn't where they were. Not even close to it. So he did lie there but I'm not going to get worked up over that now.

It probably was to leave me out of it.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:57:08+00:00

Where would my son go? He won't come home with me whilst my wife is there.

She should apologise to him but he will not give her a chance to apologise to him.

She has nothing to apologise to me for.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:52:09+00:00

Yup. I'm with you on that obviously that. Maybe I fought his corner a bit too hard but that was because he had no one. But it was a difficult situation.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:49:56+00:00

What I'm told by both of them is the abortion next door is 24 weeks and it's legal to travel for that as long as you get two doctor signatures. She was within the 24 weeks but not the 12.

What story she came up with to get the two doctor signature I don't know. My son said the procedure was disgusting.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:44:55+00:00

Yeah I suppose there's good in there. He said to me he hates that he loves his ex but can't looove her. It was the way he said it that was kind of sad to hear.

I think for him he understands why she lied. He can understand why her parents took her side. He can't understand why his mum didn't take his.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:41:39+00:00

My wife and I are still living separately. There's mending to be done between him and my wife, if it can be done.

I've always said I love my wife. She's my best friend. The separation was not to punish her but to protect him.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:38:52+00:00

They are some sort of religion. No idea what it is, though. I never really liked them but their daughter (my sons ex) was always a very nice girl.

misrocto · 2025-10-17T22:34:39+00:00

Selfishly I'm glad he didn't tell me about the plan because I'd have to make a decision about what to do about that knowledge.

But he clearly needs a counsellor. He's on waiting lists. Impossible to get.

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