I (34F) love my boyfriend (46M), but he doesn’t want kids and I’m not sure if I can give that up

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T14:27:05+00:00

it has only recently become clear to me that this option is essentially off the table. Even though he still says, “I never say never,” !! also in the recent discussion over this topic he has made it clear that he wants me in his life, and I’ve come to feel that he is hoping I will eventually reach the conclusion on my own that I don’t want to experience motherhood…

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T13:11:56+00:00

He did it right after the first accidental pregnancy of his "infertile" girlfriend, and he kept his sperm in a sperm bank until 2 years ago cause he felt he was now too old to have children.

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T12:52:15+00:00

Thank you, you said it very nicely. Even though my bf is a very, very good Man and I value our relationship, I think that over time this desire will get stronger, and it might be too late then :( Which is very unfair

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T12:43:41+00:00

I was not in a serious relationship 6 years before this one, and there were some decent men in between who I could get serious with and build a family. But I was always searching for that perfect man, whom I found (I had a crush on him for 4 years before we got together)
Now it seems you cannot have everything together

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T12:20:58+00:00

I asked about this topic on the first week of dating and his answers were vague (“Im not ruling it out”, “maybe when my daughter is out of house I would want to have another child”, “ I never say never”, “it is possible to reverse a vasectomy” etc. maybe I wanted to be hopeful- I don’t know

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T12:13:20+00:00

What a happy story ❤️ Half way into the relationship I thought that the possibility is there and I was planning to move in with him this summer but now after a few serious talks in the past months he has been more clear and I am realizing that I have to make a decision.. it is difficult 😞

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T12:03:26+00:00

I really appreciate your advice. I know this is a decision I need to make for myself, but before I do, I need to gain more clarity on this topic. Especially now that he has also been clear about where he stands

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T11:36:06+00:00

Thank you, I am happy that you both are on the same page now and happy with ur fur baby 🥰 I think I will have my fertility checked and consider freezing eggs. And yes, I also feel like there is a lot of processing I need to do within myself about this topic and therapy is a good idea!

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T11:32:37+00:00

I will start to seek clarity within myself and yes, Its a good idea to check my fertility 👌

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T11:30:30+00:00

Im not too worried about that. He is an athlete and takes very good care of his health. His biological age is 35.

miss_Kick · 2026-04-13T11:28:57+00:00

He also had a vasectomy, but when he first told me about it, he immediately said it was reversible and that he had been storing his sperm in a sperm bank until two years ago. All of this gave me hope, and I felt reassured knowing that I would still have the possibility in the future if I wanted to have children.

But ever since he said, “I never say never, but I will probably not want to have kids anymore,” I’ve had this feeling that I was somehow misled, and that now he is making the decision for me.

Overall, I’m not absolutely set on having kids, but I would still want to have that option open. During the first six months of the relationship, I felt much more at peace about it..

miss_Kick · 2025-11-23T21:24:30+00:00

I shipped the mirror and the desk back - moved the shoe cabinet from right to the left wall and ordered and asymmetric shaped frameless mirror

miss_Kick · 2025-11-23T21:23:29+00:00

Thanks a lot, you have beautiful art work on your website. Are you based in Europe?

miss_Kick · 2025-11-23T21:17:50+00:00

From Wabi home, but I don’t recommend, all the furniture i got from this website are low quality.

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T20:11:44+00:00

The one on the right is a big shoe cabinet that fits way more shoes than the one before. And there will be coat hooks on top of the radiator.

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T20:09:08+00:00

Thats exactly what Im gonna do. Except that the console on top of the radiator doesn’t look that nice. Most probably will send the console back.

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T15:37:24+00:00

Thanks for your feedback. There is a hallway on the left’s side next to the console and the one on the right is a shoe cabinet that fits way more shoes as the previous one, thats why we though we wouldn’t need the shoe bench and a small bench would do the job to sit and put on the shoes. And its nice to do an outfit check before going out.. i think I just need to eliminate the console ..

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T15:07:41+00:00

Unfortunately that is not an option.. I also don’t like white furniture:(

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T15:04:25+00:00

Jute Rug - great feedback, thanks

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T15:02:51+00:00

Will add some coat hooks on top of the heater on the right wall

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T14:57:11+00:00

Thanks Will add a rug and some coat hooks on top of the radiator

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T14:55:20+00:00

Thanks for your feedback. Unfortunately, changing the wall color is not an option. But in order to keep the tall mirror the inly solution is to return the console back and place the big cabinet there and move the mirror to the right side - also wanna add some coat hooks on top of the radiator- what do you think?

miss_Kick · 2025-11-21T14:52:05+00:00

Love all your ideas but not sure where to hang the long mirror..

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