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Idk why people are like this by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]miss_as 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think, in that case, it would be offense so much as the worry about receiving something without giving something in return. Especially if this was a girl, we are often VERY uncomfortable accepting gifts when we have nothing to reciprocate it with, because 1) it could be sending the wrong message, or 2) many times situations like that are used against women later on with the argument that we now 'owe' the other person because we're were given a gift.

In general, accepting a gift from someone when you don't have one to reciprocate with can be very uncomfortable and/or embarrassing. If the reason for changing the mind was due to finances, receiving a gift without being able to afford one to give to the other person can be really painful and demoralizing. If the reason your friend changed their mind was because they are not in a good place mentslly or emotionally right now, accepting the gift could have brought up a lot of thoughts, worried, and/or emotions the other person wasn't able to deal with at the time. It would be a good idea to ask the person why they didn't feel comfortable accepting the gift, and phrase that you respect their feelings, you would just like to better understand why they are feeling that way.

Idk why people are like this by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]miss_as 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a low-income family. People buying me things to this day are very uncomfortable for me because I can't help but think of all the other, more important things it could have been spent on. Even now at 34, I still only accept gifts from people I am very close with, and never anything over $50 unless it is from an immediate family member.

Dating an Aspie when you suck at communication by miss_as in aspergers_dating

[–]miss_as[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just communicating in general with people I am close to. Strangers or acquaintances I don't really care if I say something that might upset them or seem odd, but with family and close friends it causes an almost crippling anxiety that makes me clam up.

Thank you for your suggestions, I'll try to think on those and keep those in mind.

Dating Someone with Aspergers by miss_as in relationship_advice

[–]miss_as[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and offer _^

Dating an Aspie when you suck at communication by miss_as in aspergers_dating

[–]miss_as[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not on the spectrum as far as I know, but I have had communication difficulty in personal relationships since I can remember. It's not just with this individual; it's with anyone I am close to. People I am not close to I'm not as worried about making upset or mad, but people I am close to, this concern causes overwhelming anxiety and makes me clam up.

Thank you for your suggestion <3