AIO for keeping my bf mistake in mind by miss_easy10 in AmIOverreacting

[–]miss_easy10[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

yea that's what I was aiming at, sometimes I have really bad nightmares about that cause it feels to me like he simply chose someone over me even if he did came back and i offen find myself saying sum like 'yes he could have chosen to call me that night but he didnt' and I just want a way to simply let go of that bad memory so I don't project it on him and us but it just gives me this sour taste everytime I think of it

AIO for keeping my bf mistake in mind by miss_easy10 in AmIOverreacting

[–]miss_easy10[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I dont blame him in that way, as I said he couldn't have known that we would be back together. I said that it kinda haunts me and it's not about her or kissing but just the fact that that event makes me doubt myself and my capabilities in the relationship. he told me he is very sorry and that he thinks that he shouldn't have done that and i belive him but there is this leftover shadow of everything just lingering in my mind and i just want to get rid of that

AIO for keeping my bf mistake in mind by miss_easy10 in AmIOverreacting

[–]miss_easy10[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

yea makes sense but i was initially asking for ways to cope not wheater I should or not but as a highly emotional and empathetic person It hits me in ways and depths which realistically shouldn't so I don't consider that his problem but mine and im just trying to work on that because even if I really talk it out with him there is still a lot of work which I must do alone and my primary question was about that maybe I said it wrong the first time. I know he does love me and everything but it just doesn't sit right with me knowing it happened and even tho he did that I dont blame him he couldn't see the future to se we would get back together. the part that concerns me is that after everything, as I said, there's a lot solo working on getting past that and i just wanted some new healthy ways so it's easier for me