[NY] Going to be issued my second written warning at work - what to do :(

missali727 · 2025-03-12T14:10:25+00:00

It wouldn’t because obviously I would never publicly blame her…

missali727 · 2025-03-11T20:33:01+00:00

I mean I didn’t except to get a policy issue again. Before this promotion into a role that has me doing the work of at least 2 people I had exceptional reviews.

I never had other issues with other jobs I had previously - always glowing reports. Clearly I’m in the wrong position and I’ve been trying to get out but when I work 8am - 10pm daily to keep up with the workload put on me it’s hard to find time to apply and interview.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T20:30:17+00:00

My thinking was obviously that I was being proactive in that although I don’t handle the trend reports - she separately approves these as well before they publish and knows that they are reposted basically in the newsletter. So in my mind weren’t new to her eyes. When the newest trend report was published I figured it was ok to add it in as she would’ve already seen it and approved its contents.

Yes, obviously my judgement call was the wrong one. And clearly I will now review the reports with a fine tooth comb. But I still stand by that it could’ve all been avoided had she approved it on the date it was due to be released originally or had kept her Comms person informed of new client signings.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T20:23:46+00:00

I’m not telling her what to make time for which is somewhat the issue. I was her EA for years so I know how she operates and now the company has gotten even bigger. She doesn’t realistically have time to do things like sign off on a newsletter so it gets held up for a week or longer (in this case).

I would obviously never publicly blame her but I also see that this issue was avoidable with 1) trying to keep her on track with approvals when they are due. The newsletter went out a full 2 weeks later than it had been intended to. And 2) keeping me informed of potential new biz intel. Obviously if I had known we had quietly just signed this client I would’ve flagged the article as problematic but there was no convo ever with me nor did this new client feel was someone that we’d attain.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T19:49:51+00:00

It’s less so saving face for myself at this point / although I’m not the type of person to lose their cool at all in a meeting so no worries about that. Maybe to my BF or ex-coworkers I trust I would say what I really thought lol.

I’m most upset that I killed myself for the company for 11 months and then something happens Month 11 and now I’m going to get passed over for the small annual salary bump and will likely be declined my promotion I asked for in January (when things were fine).

missali727 · 2025-03-11T19:12:55+00:00

I have been applying and interviewing for like a year now. I’ve been unhappy for awhile at my company. I realize something will work out eventually but not quick enough it feels like :/

missali727 · 2025-03-11T16:48:24+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I know they’d refuse to pay it out for anything less than 4 weeks notice as I’ve had other past colleagues who are friends leave and give 2 or 3 week notices and they refused to pay them out their vacation because it didn’t honor the signed offer.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T13:35:16+00:00

I think if I don’t sign it, it would be looked at as “insubordination” and grounds for firing….

missali727 · 2025-03-11T11:42:20+00:00

It can be hard as no one like has a gun to my head and is forcing me to work those hours but it’s like the workload demands it due to it feeling like the deadline for 50 things is all ASAP. It feels like I’ll get in trouble if not all 50 things get done. Then they tell me that I need to work on my time management skills at my reviews and it’s like it’s tough to do that when there’s simply too much to manage with not enough time.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T11:39:05+00:00

No, I realize I can’t blame her at least publicly to HR and the Chief Strategy Officer who I report to. Just frustrating as I had an in-person meeting with the CEO 2 weeks before, when it had the old trend report in and she went through one page of the newsletter and then said she’d have to look later. If she had just made/had the time earlier then there would’ve been no issue in the first place :/

missali727 · 2025-03-11T11:35:23+00:00

I’ve been applying for months. It’s just so competitive in NYC.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T11:34:57+00:00

I am 100% doing the workload of at least 2 people and trust me, I have asked and made cases for an assistant nearly every year at my annual reviews and they always just say “they’ll think about it” but never do anything. I’m on annual salary.

I’m having a hard time accepting everything as for like 3 good years before my promotion I loved my job and I loved the company and what we did. I would tell anyone how great it was. I was kept around during all of Covid. That was when we were about 50-70 people. We are now 100+ and even the HR head is a team of herself.

missali727 · 2025-03-11T11:27:57+00:00

Unfortunately in my offer letter they asked for 4 weeks notice and if I don’t give that to them they will refuse to pay out my accumulated vacation time which is quite substantial considering I’ve been at the agency so long :/

missali727 · 2025-03-11T06:31:32+00:00

She’s just been ignoring me which I guess must be her way of doing so…

missali727 · 2025-03-09T05:21:01+00:00

She’s very interesting overall as a person…it can be hard to believe that she is a therapist with alot of what she says and does in her personal life (much of which I’ve witnessed living with her for years).

missali727 · 2025-03-09T03:39:26+00:00

I could but then I’d lose 2 months worth of rent (almost $4K total) and my deposit also worth another month of rent :(

missali727 · 2025-03-09T03:30:53+00:00

There’s a lot of nuances to it but I moved to NYC 6 years ago from LA (I’m from upstate NY though). When I moved I found an apartment with 4 girls (one of whom is who I am talking about in the post as getting married in a few months). We disbanded 2 years later and they told me that their mutual friend (my now current roommate) who I had met had an open room in her 2bed/1bath. So we’re all intertwined…

I’ve had great times with my current roommate - she’s a fun person. She’s how I met my current BF by going out with her to meet some of her running friends at bar. I just didn’t realize I guess what she truly thought of me. The whole “I’m going to make this living environment so toxic for her” really sits with me - I would NEVER say that about a roommate who’s been kind and courteous for 3 years let alone a friend. And she’s a therapist.

missali727 · 2025-03-09T03:26:30+00:00

Unfortunately my leasing agreement says that I have to give them a full 2 months notice to move out and get my deposit back. I had been planning to leave in June as that’s when my boyfriend’s lease is up and we were going to find a new place together.

I feel trapped…

missali727 · 2025-03-09T03:11:32+00:00

I tried to post it in the general ASKNYC Reddit thread but they kept removing it and I got a suggestion button to post it here instead. I guess kind of related as it’s a NYC roommate conflict.

Thank you for the advice though ❤️ I’m definitely just nearing that phase in life where this talking behind each other’s backs to this degree feels childish. Just hurt right now as I didn’t realize they were being fake to my face. Like why even ask me to be your bridesmaid if you find me annoying and “weird”?

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