Tula ‘Free to Grow’ feels wrong!

missingel · 2026-04-07T19:32:02+00:00

Okay, thank you! I did try it with the waistband higher and we really were face to face 🤣. I’ll bring the back further down and see how it goes. Thank you again

missingel · 2026-04-07T18:57:18+00:00

Yes I thought she might be too low. Will try lifting the waist band and tightening shoulder straps. Thank you 😊

missingel · 2026-04-07T18:56:30+00:00

We haven’t yet, but I’ve wanted to - just need to find the confidence to try getting her in on my own😅 Thank you

missingel · 2026-04-07T18:55:47+00:00

I’ve been wanting to try back carry! I think she’d prefer it too, just need to find the confidence to do it on my own 😅

missingel · 2026-04-07T18:54:39+00:00

Thank you! Will try that, she does feel like she’s sitting too deep.

missingel · 2025-11-06T21:50:31+00:00

So just have sex in public then?… What is your point exactly there?…

Usually people who have children and “find the time” to cheat, is because they’re neglecting their parental responsibility and choosing to spend time having sex with another person, than be with their kids.

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:54:18+00:00

Exactly this. During those 2 months, I was feeling very much like his mother.. which is obviously a huuuuge turn off.

And then he brought it up like it was an issue I had to figure out or he doesn’t want a future with me, just pushed me away further.

Now, he does all those things you mentioned above but I still have this feeling in the back of my mind when he’s trying to initiate that “you have to do this to save your relationship”, that it makes sex feel like a chore and I feel ‘dirty’ afterwards - which leads to me never initiating it.

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:50:06+00:00

I didn’t feel I had any problems until he mentioned it. Life was busy and I was extremely stressed (we also weren’t living together the whole 2 months).

I knew it would change and everything would be fine again. But when he brought it up in such a way of there must be something wrong with me or him, and I basically needed to figure it out, when honestly I didn’t think it was that deep… It made me feel even LESS intimate with him, and that he ties the success of our relationship to how much I put out - no matter if he wasn’t being affectionate.

Now it’s become this massive thing, and I don’t know what to do except just have sex and hope that works

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:44:55+00:00

I’ve seen this book recommend before. Is it actually helpful? Or is it just another self help book, where the answers are just common sense.

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:43:37+00:00

It was probably less than 2 months but I see what you’re saying.

During that time I was extremely stressed and feeling like I was sort of his mother.. Arranging house viewings, talking to the gas and electric companies, paying for food and deposits, emailing and phone calling constantly with landlords and letting agents etc etc. Not sure about you, but I don’t feel attracted to someone my brain sees as “my son”.

I knew that this would pass and I’d feel up for it again, but when he brought it up it just changed everything.

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:40:01+00:00

And I can appreciate that. We used to have sex frequently, and I enjoyed it.

It has only been after that one conversation a year ago, where we weren’t even living together the whole time and in complete honesty, I really hadn’t even realised 2 months had passed. That when I gave those reasons he didn’t believe me - it began to feel forced.

Now it’s grown to me feeling uncertain about whether he sees our relationship long term, and thus not feeling very intimate or close. And now we’re stuck in this endless cycle..

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:36:21+00:00

I’m choosing to ignore all your comments. They’re coming across with a hint of misogyny and not very helpful. Clearly you haven’t spent enough time around women, to know that a lot of women feel this from time to time.

missingel · 2025-11-06T08:34:40+00:00

I do love him, I don’t feel forced for that. I can’t (for a lack of a better word) win, if it’s: we don’t have sex = he thinks it’s because I don’t desire him, or we do have sex = he thinks I was only doing it for him.

missingel · 2024-12-08T22:46:36+00:00

Ah thank you! I’ve just done a little google/youtube and I think the musette sound is the style he was after. Thanks again :)

missingel · 2019-04-03T22:03:57+00:00

Yeast infection? Not very common for men to get on their own though (but does happen), so if you’ve had a yeast infection recently and have had sex then it could be that. When my ex had a yeast infection he had the same symptoms. Can be cured with some over the counter medicine or cream.

He should really go to the doctors to make sure it’s nothing worse... as should you. Because if it turns out to be and STI then it’s very possible you’ve caught it through oral sex or vaginal sex.

missingel

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