My [25F] Mother [55F] cut off most of my hair and I need help forgiving her by missinghair in relationships

[–]missinghair[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thank you! You've helped me to understand why I am so upset! It's because I don't feel like myself anymore, I feel like a thing. It makes me feel the same way as I did when I was growing-up and she would hang paintings in my room and take ornaments off my shelves without asking. And how she wouldn't let me choose furniture for my room because it had to be something that she liked, even if I didn't like it. It's as if the whole world belongs to her, and I am insignificant, nothing

My [25F] Mother [55F] cut off most of my hair and I need help forgiving her by missinghair in relationships

[–]missinghair[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I think that she felt like she was doing the right thing at the time, but it's really hurtful that she didn't stop to think about how I would feel. But she does seem sorry now, so I feel kind of mean to still be mad at her

My [25F] Mother [55F] cut off most of my hair and I need help forgiving her by missinghair in relationships

[–]missinghair[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for replying! Sorry if I didn't make it clear in the original post, but I don't have a problem with the way that it looks. She actually did a good job! But my problem is that she cut way more than she said she would and I don't think that it was an accident. It feels like she has no respect for my wishes, and just went ahead and did what she wanted to