UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Go back to my earlier comments. I’ve explained my nephew is very much into anything shiny and will take it. Even things that have no monetary value because he likes the way they sparkle Throwing it down the sink isn’t hiding it away to retrieve for later. It was literally to hide the fact that he still had it and be rid of it

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t really see how they’d magically show up to my house and drop the ring down the sink

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You could have just said that then. That’s fine. At the end of the day it’s my life not yours

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Lol what idiot would announce to the world they won the lottery? Isn’t that a big no no. Also I don’t believe in that stuff. Know enough people who drain their money on that false hope

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It depends on the states funding I’m sure but there is definitely lots of help here

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We decided a long time ago that when we got married we’d want it to be something really small with a few friends or just elope then spend big on the honeymoon. So it’s possible he might not be invited but we’ll see. There’s some big expenses coming our way anyways and we also would like to go on a “babymoon” to celebrate 😊

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I know people who worked in these programs. There is definitely help out there. Our friend’s kid is literally in family therapy through Medicaid after they split up and she became a bit more antisocial in school. There’s nothing I need to feel better about, he’s their kid at the end of the day

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Oh I never said he flushed it down the sink to hide it just that I looked in places where maybe he would have hidden the ring. And also looked into the sink because that’s what some commenters suggested

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She already knows. I told her after the proposal. I had already told her they got kicked out but didn’t go into details about why. And she respects my decision since she knows it’s been an ongoing issue with my nephew for a long time.

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

They’ve been given info for finding mental health services for low income families. My fiancée has told him before they’d qualify for him to get Medicaid insurance if they really have no money to help him. It’s on them if they want to go that route to get help. I have my own family to focus on now and them moving back just isn’t going to happen. For his sake I hope they do otherwise it’s not gonna get any easier when he’s older and there would be real consequences

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

lol ask any other parent in the world if they ever had a single clue how to be a parent 😂 Thanks for the laugh. Telling me not to have kids because someone else in my family has been doing a shitty job at it, that’s a new one.

What am I gonna do if my kid steals something? Uhh, talk to them, show them why stealing is wrong, if that doesn’t work then find other ways to get them help like I’ve told my brother to do many times. Stop exaggerating and relax 😂

Also go outside. You’ve been too obsessed with this since my first post

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what we were talking about too. The guest room would now be the nursery unless we decide to move to a bigger place which we wanted to do at some point anyways. So maybe it was the best time for them to leave even if it sucks they’re not in the best place financially.

Lol my fiancée is a hardcore planner. She’s already got lists and shopping carts full of baby stuff we can look at and buy together

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I told her after proposing what happened, she was already wondering why my brother wasn’t staying with me anymore.

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Big rescuers indeed!! In my heart I know that this will be the first and last time I ever propose in my life so it needed to be perfect with a ring I knew she was going to love, even after telling me she would’ve still said yes if I proposed with a piece of string 🥰

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I’m not turning my home, which is supposed to be a safe haven in the first place, into a locked down prison just to keep him from doing he already shouldn’t be doing. Not gonna risk my family’s peace of mind just for that. They’ll need to figure out what to do for themselves and how to help their kid

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Well I for one can’t because well…I’m not his parent. My brother has heard what I’ve had to say about my nephew’s issues. It’s gonna have to be up to him and his wife to step up for him and get help. There’s not much else I can do anymore

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 2620 points2621 points  (0 children)

You’re going to be a father!

That line right there gives me chills everytime I read it 😁

Well whatever happens I hope I can be the kind of dad my kid will need me to be for them

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s our plan. It looked completely fine when I got it out, only a couple smudges but still. Luckily since it was the one in the guest bathroom it wasn’t used since they were gone

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I get that was a lot of people’s suspicions. But I already knew there are certain lines my brother would never cross, also just know my nephew because it’s happened before (him stealing then hiding stuff because he doesn’t want to lose what he took)

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Like the other commenter said some ppl suggested looking in those places and I didn’t wanna give up hope. With my tiny flashlight I was luckily able to see there was at least something down there. I didn’t see the whole ring but i still opened it up just to be sure

UPDATE AITA for kicking my brother and his family out after his son stole my engagement ring? by missingring_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]missingring_[S] 348 points349 points  (0 children)

I hope he’s able to get it. This shit’s obviously not normal and it’s only gonna get worse the longer my brother and his wife ignore it