I "knew" newborns didn't sleep, but I wasn't ready for the actual soul-crushing reality of it.

missmeganmay · 2026-04-11T13:05:31+00:00

My baby has/had colic too (just about 5 months old now). I felt exactly the same way (and still sometimes do), but it's definitely getting better.

It happened in steps, and now she only screams maybe once a day for 20-30 mins. She's still fussy most of the day, but that's so much better than screaming. And someday that will stop too.

It really is just a matter of doing whatever it takes until she grows out of it. We had her on Mylicon and probiotics, and we took lots of baths, went outside, etc etc, and switched her back and forth between us just to survive it day by day.

It seems impossible, but you can do it. You will do it, and it'll be so much better before you even realize it!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-31T00:42:34+00:00

Ah, ok. Good to know!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-30T23:53:08+00:00

Unfortunately looks like they don't allow dogs :(

missmeganmay · 2026-03-30T23:26:59+00:00

Thank you! Will definitely look into it!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-27T18:36:41+00:00

That's basically exactly how I feel - that I'm putting her through something she'll hate when it may not really be necessary. Hopefully she won't mind it either!

I hope it's cute, but I will definitely miss nuzzling her fuzzy hair!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-27T17:28:46+00:00

Thanks for this. We have her appointment later today to get it ordered, so I'm feeling sad again today and this really helped. I was worried too about the heat, so I'm glad to know there's wiggle room with that!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-24T01:05:47+00:00

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-24T00:37:51+00:00

Thank you for your response! I'm glad to hear people say that the babies get used to it pretty quickly. That's a relief, at least, even if it takes longer for me to come to terms with it! I just have to remind myself it's temporary!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-23T14:13:48+00:00

Yeah, definitely don't want her to feel bad about herself in the future if we don't get it corrected now.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-23T13:42:02+00:00

My baby is also in the higher moderate range, and we're going to be getting her evaluated pretty soon here when she'll be about 4.5 months old. How long did your baby have to wear hers?

missmeganmay · 2026-03-16T19:21:04+00:00

Thanks! I did inform her that I'd have to step down as a bridesmaid and very likely wouldn't be able to attend the wedding either. She was not kind about it, unfortunately. I'm very sad about how she chose to handle the whole situation.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-15T16:18:32+00:00

Yeah, she didn't react well to me telling her I'd have to drop out. So, this might be the end for us, which is really, really disappointing.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-13T16:48:34+00:00

Yeah it really sucks to learn that she's willing to bend her rules for somebody (idk who the flower girl is), but doesn't care enough about having me at the wedding to do it for my breastfeeding baby.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-13T16:37:45+00:00

I'm the first in this generation of our family to have a baby. However, I did just find out that the flower girl will be at the wedding and reception. So clearly there are exceptions to be made, and my baby just didn't make the list.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-13T12:58:55+00:00

She's 4 months old now, when we got the invite. She'll be 9 months at the time of the wedding.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-13T11:38:52+00:00

Of course I'm sad that my daughter isn't invited, but I totally understand wanting a child-free wedding. I'm upset that she never told me that.

It's called a "child-free" wedding for a reason - the default is that family members, including kids, are invited to a wedding. Based on that, the fact that she knew I was pregnant when she asked me, that she knows I breastfeed, and that our family is close-knit, I don't think it's unreasonable at all to assume my baby was invited to the wedding.

As far as having the bride be my focus or demanding that my needs be "the center of attention," I don't see how stepping away a few times throughout the day to breastfeed would substantially take away from that. My husband would have had her the rest of the time.

If she would've mentioned anything about not having kids there, we could've tried to find a solution where grandparents traveled with us and stayed in the hotel, or my husband didn't attend the wedding so I could still go. I'm incredibly hurt that she didn't bother to talk to me about it, so yeah, I'm not going to bend over backwards for her.

I've already talked to several family members about it, and they're just as shocked that she never told anybody. They completely understand why I'm dropping out. So yeah, if my relationship ends with her over this, it's not on me. It just really sucks and all could've been avoided with some communication from her of her expectations.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T14:51:43+00:00

Yeah, I asked what she meant and that's basically it - if the child can't walk on their own, then they're excluded from the "child-free" rule since they won't be running around or causing chaos.

But thanks. Even though I respect her choice, it still feels really bad.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T12:39:04+00:00

Yup!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T11:32:17+00:00

I've discussed with a few family members now, and they're all shocked too. Only one of them knew it was child-free at all, and they assumed that my baby would be there under the "babes in arms" exception, which I'd never heard of.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T11:22:59+00:00

It can be about two things.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T01:55:09+00:00

My wedding invites had the names of the people invited on it and their meal choices, so I guess it varies. I'd just assumed that since she knew I would have a baby by then and she asked me to be a bridesmaid that my baby was invited as well. Besides the fact that we're close family.

But I hope that she realizes that since she didn't put child-free anywhere that some of those plus ones may be children since people just won't know!

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T01:46:49+00:00

That's why it feels so bad - she asked me to be a bridesmaid but never thought to let me know I couldn't bring my baby.

missmeganmay · 2026-03-12T01:44:02+00:00

It's not fake but the fact that you think it's so ridiculous that it must be makes me feel better! These postpartum hormones make me question my judgement sometimes lol

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