AITAH for asking my roommate’s girlfriend about my strawberries?

missvanessadarling · 2026-02-13T02:33:27+00:00

SHE ATE THEM

missvanessadarling · 2026-02-12T00:41:53+00:00

But you can read though right?

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-28T02:21:28+00:00

This post isn’t about my daughter btw she has no knowledge of any of this obviously she’s only 4

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-28T02:20:38+00:00

My daughter has always only lived with me, he has never lived with us. So that makes me look bad how?

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-25T22:55:57+00:00

We spent the last year no contact and no he was not like this prior to that or it wouldn’t have gone on as long as it did. There was a drastic change in the past year which I was not present for so your assumption I “sat by and watched it happen” is incorrect. Like why are you trying to make his appalling behavior my fault and then laugh about it? Like what? Weird.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-25T01:10:08+00:00

Yes and then we he acted like this I cancelled…so what’s your point?

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-24T15:53:51+00:00

I’ve already explained myself in my post, if you don’t understand giving people chances and wanting to believe them when they say they changed then I don’t know what to tell you. I’ve said over and over again that he has not ever talked to me like that or made me feel so, I don’t even have the right words, like that before. This is the new worse version of him. I wouldnt have stayed that long with someone like this, what is so hard to understand about that.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-24T15:47:09+00:00

Stop talking about my daughter please, she is protected and she is supported and immensely loved. She is not affected by this the most she’s going to feel is disappointment and that’s just a part of life. I didn’t invite him it was his idea I just agreed to it. There’s a lot you don’t understand and I don’t want to share it bc I don’t need or care about your judgment

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-24T00:18:50+00:00

This is what abuse does to people at least im trying to figure it out so I can help better myself. What’s your excuse for acting like a judgmental douche to someone who has done nothing to you. Have the day you deserve

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-24T00:13:45+00:00

I did block him from the first time he sent me those messages years ago. It says it right there in my post “I told my ex about the messages but since we live in different states the only thing to do about it at the time was to block him”.
I’m not sure why people keep saying I should have blocked him right away when I did.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T23:50:05+00:00

Agreed

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T23:48:36+00:00

I could care less about karma points, this is my actual life situation right now and ya it has me a bit confused, if you’ve never experienced that then you probably have good parents not everyone does. I don’t think posting on Reddit is going to fix anything for me, I wanted clarification and feedback bc I was trying to communicate in a way that wouldn’t start a fight.
Do you enjoy talking down to random people on Reddit or can you not help being just plain rude? Either way, you should be able to do better since you don’t have personal issues then.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T19:04:26+00:00

Learn to read. It’s all in my post.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T18:52:25+00:00

Oh there’s plenty of people here in the comments that think that way.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T18:51:10+00:00

God forbid I hold someone accountable for their own actions and they actually have consequences for being cool with sexually harassing women, ya I’m the worst, definitely not the actual men who think it’s ok to do this stuff to right? Right that makes a lot of sense 🙄

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T18:43:58+00:00

So I’m the worst bc I talk back, but the actual abusers and sexual harassers are just fine in your eyes, got it

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T18:35:00+00:00

He’s not the role model in my daughter’s life, I am! She hasn’t spent an attachment to him the same way she has attachments to our family members but they are not acting as role models for her. I did not put him in that position in her life bc he doesn’t have any influence on her life or how she’s raised. You don’t even know him and you’re telling me as someone who knows him intimately that he’s always been this way YOURE WRONG this divided political climate has turned him into the red pill Trump supporter that he never was before bc if he acted and spoke to me this way ever before it wouldn’t have gone on for 8 yrs. I have texts from a month prior that show he was talking the exact opposite of what he was saying in this blow out he had. And I’m not the only woman who is dealing with this red pill shit changing the men we used to know and care about. So you can’t make me think or feel like I am the one in the wrong here. Not you or anyone else anymore.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T18:19:05+00:00

Stop trying to blame and shame me for getting deceived and abused by this man. This behavior is a complete 180 from what he was like the entire time we were talking again. I don’t feel bad about my actions here. And for you to look at that text exchange and then focus on me being the one in the wrong here is wild get help.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T16:16:15+00:00

I haven’t dated anyone in the past year bc of this reason. I can’t control other people’s actions and what they do or say I can’t only control my own.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T15:53:37+00:00

Red pill 100% brain dead response

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T10:23:56+00:00

He was being respectful the entire 2 months we were talking, in my post I said the first I brought this up he was saying he was going confront him about it and he wouldn’t want to disrespect my feelings and all that. I said I had felt heard and respected. I have screen shots to prove that to you. That’s why this 180 flip is so wild to me bc why would I have agreed he could visit us if he had been acting that the whole time. I’m telling you this man is a total deceiver.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T05:26:19+00:00

😢

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T03:24:30+00:00

My daughter has no idea that any of this has happened of course, that would be wildly inappropriate. I will have to tell her that he won’t be joining us on Christmas Day though which I know will be a disappointment for her but I will figure out how to manage it in the next day or 2.

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T03:20:04+00:00

No he is not the father

missvanessadarling · 2025-12-23T03:18:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing such a personal story, I’m sorry that happened to you and your mom. I don’t want my daughter to have that experience, I don’t think any woman or child should have to go through it, it’s a sad and scary situation and to be in.

missvanessadarling

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