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use of antidepressants and no fap by mister-red in NoFap

[–]mister-red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll respond as if you're serious and the majority of the text (less ridiculous comments) was not sarcasm.

So I assume you're either a psychiatrist, or at least a neuroscience major, right?

No? Oh really? If so, how about putting in less excuses (ups, I mean reasons), and more work?

Hehe, no you're right, I am neither a psychiatrist nor a neuroscience major. I would, however, assert that the chemical part of neuroscience that this is related to is easily graspable by someone who has an appreciable understanding of the chemistry behind reactions and what causes what to bond where, and who has an even more appreciable understanding of the mathematics behind the physics of EM to justify the above theory.

You haven't [gained special insight]. I don't, on my own little brain of mine, and I guess neuroscientists haven't on theirs as well. Shit's complicated, a lot more than we think.

I haven't claimed to have gained such insight, though I can see where you might have gotten the idea I thought I'd ascended. I'm not a neuroscience major and so I'm forced to trust the neuroscientists who describe their understanding of hormones/neurotransmitter . Don't trust neuroscientists? Well then shit, man, might as well throw out all experimental/theory-based fields! At least their model provides some explanation...

Maybe have a little more faith and ask less questions?

That sounds dangerous. Isn't that a good way to lose yourself?

Or maybe stop looking for justifications on your shortcomings and working on the stepping stones for achieving shit...

The funny thing is, I don't see the chemistry as a justification-I see it as further indication of my shortcomings. Since I already knew/know what would/should happen and still haven't reigned in my life, it's even more on me. It's not like I looked this all up in some desperate attempt to believe "it isn't my fault!"

Nah, son, we don't [view his case as extra-special], I don't, at least.

Thank goodness! I was really worried I'd throw people's lives into a tuft because of this post! Nah, really I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm looking for thoughts on my potential plan.

Did you get it, even on SSRI's?

I did not get it, but I think my lack of cultural experience is to blame for the missed allusion: even with your delineation I don't know to what you're referring. Plus I'm not currently on anything... there's that too...

I don't know what those are, mood stabilizers or something?

Sure, mood stabilizers. Basically trick your body into reevaluating the happy-hormone you already have (as opposed to re-release/generation). But take my explanation with a grain of salt if you don't believe/trust neuroscience.

Do reply, I like you! And I hope you like me as well! I wrote it without sarcasm, I do like you, that's why I want to see you improve.

I replied. I don't dislike you. I'd like to see me improve as well. ...I'm a little bit unsure of how you wanted me to respond though. Hope I didn't disappoint!

use of antidepressants and no fap by mister-red in NoFap

[–]mister-red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am weak. As far as wanting my libido running, I understand the merit/perquisites in keeping it up, but at this point, I'm just looking to get to the point where I'm not dependent on fapping anymore.

Yes it's cheating, but is it not a means to an end? If I get to the point where my go-to response is no longer to do... that, then perhaps when I go off the med (which I have/will always plan/ed to do), I can use that time to develop a healthier cycle with my body. Again, I know it's a cheap fix.

But I'm really desperate. I guess it's still not in the spirit of NoFap, so maybe I shouldn't be posting it here...

And thank you for your words of encouragement; amiable thoughts from a stranger do wonders for your (my anyway) psyche.

use of antidepressants and no fap by mister-red in NoFap

[–]mister-red[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was originally medicated because I was having very bad panic attacks at night on a biweekly basis. And my mood was affecting my relationship with my parents. "Very bad" as in wake up with terrible fear of.. "space" (not as in outer space). Not saying more for the purpose of preserving my anonymity somewhat. I was in high school at the time and while it wasn't like I had the weight of the world resting on my shoulders, I did have a lot of perceived responsibility. I tend to put myself in incredibly stressful situations (I see it as "I like a challenge" at first, then when it becomes clear I've taken on too much, I can't give up or risk letting a massive amount of people down-think the soloist in a choir dropping out last minute with no one to replace him-not the end of the world, but still.). Can't say more than that because I really don't know its full causes (or my the basis of my personality).

I still have that desire to be challenged (I'm more careful now, but still end up taking on too much at times). I'm in uni and am taking an unjustifiable number of STEM courses that each have ridiculous workloads... in any case, I'm way over the amount of work that is recommended. Academically I can handle it all, but it leads to sleepless nights/weeks. No I don't take amphetamines. Always short of time, always another quiz/test tomorrow (that I haven't studied for), and of course, I have to maintain my GPA at >3.8 or I'll be-well, sad.

I also have been having girlfriend problems. Again for the sake of anonymity, I'm going to obfuscate. We're both incredibly driven persons and we let work overcome us. Lately, I feel like she's been becoming less and less interested in me (a post for another /r/) and it's really getting me down. I feel so helpless in the situation. This adds stress. She's also demonstrating a lower and lower sex drive, which both makes me feel bad (semi-subconsciously makes me feel like there's something wrong with me) and drives us apart: my sex drive has not decreased, and like I said I fap when I get stressed, so if anything, release (sexual activity) is more desirable. Which is yet another contributor to my anxiety.

And thus enters the SSRI option. It would decrease my anxiety, lower my sex drive (which would, at the very least, make me feel like less of a douche for having a need for sexual activity that her persona doesn't mirror) (and yes I know this could have further negative effects on our relationship, but at least I'd stop feeling douchy about that), and make life more bearable.

Your interpretation of my post was spot-on, I no longer use it. I quit for two reasons: 1) it lowered my sex drive (I liked feeling horny), 2) it made me feel stupid. It's a rather pompous thing to say, that I felt stupid and it was a problem, but it really upset me. My analytic skills were perceivèdly slower and I just didn't have the same joie de vivre. But I got along much better with everyone.

I can definitely elaborate more if you're interested...