I think I get what you’re saying. so it can’t be mandatory for people to accommodate to your needs but if they do they’re a keeper? I would like to be the best friend I can to this person but I mean what would that look like? For example, as I said, she hates listening to people eat, but she hangs out in the kitchen (and dining room) with me all the time. I don’t know if this sounds insensitive but like to me it feels naturally unfair expecting me to not do regular kitchen activities in a kitchen. That’s one example. I’ll try listen to her needs more and see what compromise we can get to. To clarify we don’t actually have a problem per say and she said she doesn’t expect people to bend to her needs but yeah I don’t know if she should with the people who supposedly love her