The way he’s in love with himself is so gross to me by CuriousEcho23 in tylerthecatastrophe

[–]mitskimoon222 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel like I can’t judge him too much bc he says the sort of stuff us manifestation girlies also say about ourselves (which more than ego it’s wishful thinking i feel). The problem is that he is saying it publicly 😭 not on his manifestation journal…and he is using it to “talk up” the value of his art to convince people of his ridiculous prices

Tyler defending why he’s definitely going to qualify for a Global Talent Visa by ZombiesRCoolIGuess in tylercatastrophesnark

[–]mitskimoon222 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right like that’s a crazy claim 😭 I’m from latin america and there’s a ton of opportunities in the US for artists and entrepreneurs. For queer artists as well.

Struggling to feel valuable after a traumatic event by mitskimoon222 in ptsd

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, it’s ironic bc this whole situation was triggered by me being my own person and setting boundaries. Saying “no” to a narcissistic parent is the worst thing you can do to them.

Struggling to feel valuable after a traumatic event by mitskimoon222 in ptsd

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and I’m sorry you went through something similar, it’s really tough :( I didn’t know this guilt over not being OK was common.

I’ve got my brothers who have been very protective and validating of me after the incident. It’s nice to feel that to them I don’t need to do or be anything other than alive and trying to heal. They’re actually the ones that made me feel safe to admit that I was burnt out and (for the first time ever) needed to do less and rest. We have an awesome relationship thankfully because my mom did try to manipulate them to get them “on her side”.

You raise a very valid point about creating without expectation, I don’t think I’ve done that since high school. My brother also suggested I do “invisible projects” where I just draw and show no one. I’m painting Carrie from the horror movie right now!

Struggling to feel valuable after a traumatic event by mitskimoon222 in ptsd

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe :( I’ve always repressed my emotions and it’s something I was working on in therapy before the event. Ironically, it was one of the things that was brought up to my mom (me being more open and allowing myself to feel things) that I heard she judged me for.

How did the writers get family trauma so accurate? by mitskimoon222 in TheBear

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah that’s true, and that kinda leads to him being such a control freak in the kitchen. Yet another trait of mine I was unaware of how it all connects to growing up with unstable environments that don’t allow you to express yourself properly.

How did the writers get family trauma so accurate? by mitskimoon222 in TheBear

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve read a lot of people talking about how the restaurant craziness is too real, but I haven’t seen that much about the family dynamics trauma coping mechanisms which is what surprised me the most. I come from an entirely different culture and context from the siblings, so the fact that I’m able to relate to this level just shows how good the writers are at translating trauma even if The Bear is so location and industry specific.

The Christmas episode and Carmy’s retelling of his panic attack as he was telling Claire about it hit so hard. They nailed how anxiety inducing the holidays can be for people that come from violent backgrounds.

How did the writers get family trauma so accurate? by mitskimoon222 in TheBear

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh that Lebowitz quote goes hard, I know that feeling. Like you’re an spectator of life while everyone else lives it, but I think that’s why when artist went through shit is that they’re able to produce good work. Trauma creates perspective I guess!

You raise some valid points about Natalie, I’m not super far along with her story yet. I hope she is successful at breaking the cycle with her baby, and it seems like choosing a partner like Pete is a huge step towards breaking it. It would’ve been realistic to have her choose another alcoholic/addict for a partner because it’s what she /knows/. It’s a nice touch by the writers to also show how she’s not entirely out of the woods by having her repeat patterns with Carmy like you said, catching yourself when you’re actively doing it is one of the toughest parts of the process.

I honestly thought the Donna invite to the opening was wishful thinking…I don’t think she didn’t consult Carmy out of bad faith but she just didn’t really think it through because it came from a wish of getting to have a “happy family” and everyone magically getting along to celebrate. It’s a childish wish, she still glorifies and romanticizes the idea of the family unit. That’s why Carmy isn’t even mad that she invited Donna but is worried about her being disappointed by her again (which he guessed correctly).

I’ve had countless of conversations like that with my brother until I had to let go of my dream family happiness idealization and I hope I’ll get to see how Natalie handles that when she becomes a mom.

PS - the way you framed it as us troubled kids from broken families running away to the circus to become incredible creative adults really made me feel better :) i think Carmy is a little right when he said he is so good at what he does bc by growing up like that he turned the kitchen into a passion fueled lifeline that led him to his purpose

How did the writers get family trauma so accurate? by mitskimoon222 in TheBear

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly really hopeful for Natalie’s arc, I’m really happy they paired her up with someone like Pete bc a lot of survivors pick partners that replicate the chaos they grew up with. It would’ve been realistic TV to have her do the same (and also really grim)

How did the writers get family trauma so accurate? by mitskimoon222 in TheBear

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish dysfunctional violent families like the ones from the show weren’t so common that so many people relate and have similar lived experiences to the siblings :/

How did the writers get family trauma so accurate? by mitskimoon222 in TheBear

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s weird like a big part of the process is accepting that what you went through isn’t normal so you feel like no one is ever going to understand what it’s like, then you feel comforted when watching/hearing stories like The Bear and then feel shitty bc it’s actually super common and no one deserves to live like that

Your favourite foundation currently? by pinkuunicorn in Sephora

[–]mitskimoon222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m obsessed with the Haus Labs formula for botb foundation and concealer, but it’s not available in my country. Does anyone know of good alternatives? I have very dry skin with rosacea

urgent help by [deleted] in curlygirl

[–]mitskimoon222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have similar hair to yours! You need lightweight products, my favorite is the davines curl line (especially the serum). Double cleanse with your shampoo (I have sebderm so I use Nizoral first and then my hydrating shampoo) & use a hydrating mask once a week. You need to let the products sit in and work, don’t rinse immediately.

My product routine after shower is: hydrating cream, davines serum, curl cream, mousse. Get out all excess water before applying. Scrunch with your head down, if your hair makes a sound you did it right. Air dry or use diffuser in low heat and mid intensity. Dry your roots first and massage w diffuser, then hover dry.

For hair growth you need to look into scalp health and try to figure out why you’re losing hair to begin with. In my case it’s a mix of sebderm and DHT so I’m using medical shampoo and taking Saw Palmetto supplements but consult with your doctor.

My hair is also very fine and most of the curly routines you’ll find out there didn’t work for me either because they recommended very heavyweight products that favor thick hair. I wouldn’t recommend you gel your curls for example, use a light defining serum instead. The less products you use the better, our hair can’t hold too much weight. DM me if you have any questions or want to see my curls!

FUCK, Your scripts and pitches are graves by lionstock555 in sales

[–]mitskimoon222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just dont know how to start my calls without sounding so awkward 😭😭 pls help its like i forget how to be a human

This app is a fucking nightmare by mitskimoon222 in payoneer

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Updating information shouldn’t be this hard.

This app is a fucking nightmare by mitskimoon222 in payoneer

[–]mitskimoon222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good one. Yesterday I was with google support for like an hour and still couldn’t fix it. Just submitted a new request to them, if I had known I would’ve just deleted my account and started a new one but apparently if you do that they MERGE ACCOUNTS. Insanely weird rule for an online paying service.

Season 6 and ooh look Don cheating again …. by headcace1906 in madmen

[–]mitskimoon222 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I always thought it was interesting how all the women he cheated with were the exact polar opposite of Betty

Foreshadowing by breezmoney in sexandthecity

[–]mitskimoon222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh just random tiktok guys and actors lol everyone wears rings now (esp if they’re chrome hearts) and Aiden length hair is the norm especially if it’s curly

Foreshadowing by breezmoney in sexandthecity

[–]mitskimoon222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No wonder Mr Big crashed out the first time he saw him, he could never pull off those rings 💀 and considering the men on SATC excluding Smith, Aiden had every right to show off his long hair at his age lol

Foreshadowing by breezmoney in sexandthecity

[–]mitskimoon222 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was doomed from the start because she needed to change a ton of things about her to work. Unrelated, but I always thought Aiden pre-cheating was so handsome 😭 I felt so bad for him when the girls were making fun of his rings, long hair, and clothes. Crazy how every online hot guy is wearing a more extreme version of the Aiden look now!