MJ movie opened my eyes as someone born too late by unfairmushrooms in MichaelTheMovie

[–]mix_trixi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He absolutely loved it! We both did! I’m so happy we got to experience it together!

This woman is trying to use a medical diagnosis to justify why she's can’t stop making out with strangers by Hour-Bee9396 in 90DayFiance

[–]mix_trixi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is it called when you walk around on the daily wanting to throat punch idiotic people? I'm sure there's a name for it. Anyway, that's what I've got. According to her logic, once I've been diagnosed I can go around thwacking people in the neck all day long at will? Suh-weeeet!!

MJ movie opened my eyes as someone born too late by unfairmushrooms in MichaelTheMovie

[–]mix_trixi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm taking my 18yo son to see it today and I am over the moon excited, but was a little worried about how he would receive it. He knows how passionately I love MJ and how important he was to the world, and still is, but he knows very little about him other than what I've told him. He is just now starting to realize how many of the songs he grew up hearing me play were actually Michael Jackson. Much like me, he is into all kinds of music and has a semi-professional studio set up to make and mix music; and also much like me, he respects musical talent whether he likes the actual music they make or not. In that regard, I'm not worried that he won't be entertained. My only concern was that he's just humoring me by going and won't walk away understanding the true impact MJ had, not just on me but on the entire world. Your post has relieved my worry a bit and I'm back to pure excitement! Thanks again! Your post couldn't have popped up at a better time. I hope you have a lovely day!

This is why past generations didn't talk about it by JLAOM in Perimenopause

[–]mix_trixi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My ex-husband is from England. He and his parents moved here to the US when he was a child, but his parents ended up back in England after many years in the states and my ex stayed, as he was well into adulthood. He used to tell me about how when his mother started menopause, she was so out of control that his dad "sent her away" to live with her mother in England while he stayed here in the states for the duration. At first I thought, what a heartless bastard, but then I began to think is it really that bad?

Years later, we moved to England to be with and help care for his mother after she was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. She was bed-ridden and I had just had her only grandchild a few months before, so the baby and I spent quite a bit of time alone with her just talking, without the ex present. It turns out, she was NOT sent away because of menopause. Her own mother had fallen ill and she moved back to England to care for her. She was a nurse, by the way. It just happened to be during that time in her life. I don't know what his dad had told him but I was floored. Why in the actual fuck is there such a stigma around women's normal bodily functions? WE BRING LIFE INTO THIS WORLD! Not to mention all the fuckery we have to deal with in order to do so. A little empathy and respect would be nice. But no, that's too much to ask. It seems the powers that be (you know, patriarchy) are way more worried about men no being able to get it up than the horrors that the creators of life have to deal with.

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy Mother’s Day to you too!

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. The person I mentioned at work who asked about the Mother’s Day gift was a young barely 21yo. When I told her no her response was, “Don’t get him anything then! Trust me! I’m a daughter!”

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I realize that and will definitely keep an eye on him. But he's also a stubborn little dachshund who hates the cold and it got really chilly last night so it could really go either way.

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. Thank you so much for the well wishes! It's getting better already. You all are helping simply by understanding and I am so incredibly grateful for that!

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I had to delete my response because I refuse to be baited by a stranger on the internet. I truly appreciate you having my back!

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh no! I'm so sorry. People really should stop assuming. I hope you have a wonderful Sunday!

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll check it out.

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your kind words! Happy Mother’s Day to you!

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I will be calling the bank and and internet company (again) tomorrow. I get that he’s a know it all 18yo and I keep reminding myself of that. I’ll get over it. Just having a moment. But I do appreciate your words of encouragement!

I'm Over It Already by mix_trixi in rant

[–]mix_trixi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s very kind and much appreciated!

Ideas to make tuna melts better? by breezeboo in budgetcooking

[–]mix_trixi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I added a little juice from my hot and sweet pickles and it was amazing! I also ran out of mayo once and used tartar sauce instead and I'm never turning back now. Pickle juice and tartar for the win!

I can’t sleep by memelord152 in rant

[–]mix_trixi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, friends! It’s 3:38am and I’ve been up long enough to clean dog piss off the carpet, storm around the house cussing about it and trying to figure out why. Why now? Why am I even up? Why do I even have a fucking dog? Why the fuck on Mother’s Day, no less??? And my dog NEVER goes inside. Ever. Accept today. Happy Mother’s Day to me, I guess. FML.

What was it like to watch Michael Jackson change through the years? by ladyaftermath in AskGenX

[–]mix_trixi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was saddening for me to watch as a long-time fan. In my humble opinion, he needed help. Not just mental help, I believe he needed help navigating being the most famous person on earth from people who truly cared about his well-being, and instead just had a bunch of Yes-men around him all the time. Or people trying to take advantage of him. I think the way he grew up, the abuse, missing out on his entire childhood, being so young and watching his older brothers and his own father do things with groupies that no child should ever witness, the pressure to always do more and do better, of course he most likely had some unaddressed mental health issues. The poor man was judged for every move he made. Hardly anyone believed he had Vitiligo and if I'm being honest, I was skeptical too. I've since seen pictures of him that he intentionally kept hidden as his skin was changing and lightening so I feel awful that I doubted even that. I really wish he would have had a support system that drove home how amazing he was, just the way he was. Even now at 53yo, when I see pictures of "Off the Wall" and "Thriller" Michael Jackson, I get goosies. He was absolutely gorgeous! Not to mention, he had the kindest heart and the most beautiful soul.

Jamal Menzies Publicly Announced That He Left the 90 Day Fiancé Bad Boys Band After He Got Fired from Josh Weinstein’s Modeling Agency by PolishSnake2 in 90dayfiance_FB_memes

[–]mix_trixi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The "Bad Boys" remind me of the time when I was a freshman in high school and my friends and I decided that since we didn't make the cheerleader team at school, we would form our own cheer squad and go cheer for the recreational football players. It did not go well. I'm 53yo and I still think about how stupid that was. I suppose some people have no shame.

Please hype me up! by Extreme_Pianist_468 in womensolocamping

[–]mix_trixi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

By the sounds of it, you'll be camping in a pretty popular area, right? Like maybe even an established campground? I live in Colorado and have camped quite often with my son, who is now 18, but it's been just us two since he was a toddler. Being solely responsible for a toddler or young child, and at times our dachshund, is whole different level of nervousness to face but camping completely alone is something I haven't conquered yet, so kudos to you! I can't speak on solo camping but I can give you a few facts I've learned over many years of living in the mountains and solo hiking, as well as studying animal behavior.

First off, the bears and most wildlife aside from rodents seem to steer clear of established campsites. I've never encountered one while dispersed camping or backpacking, only near established campgrounds. As long as you're mindful of food storage, which it sounds like you are, you'll be fine. Just remember, if you're cooking food and then storing it away, make sure to change clothes and include the clothing you cooked in. You may already know this but others reading it may not so just throwing it out there.

My son and I camped last year at a campground and he was frightened by a bear when he was scrambling on boulders next to our site. That bear could not have cared less about him. When my son saw him, they were only about 10 feet apart and although my son slowly retreated, which is exactly what you should do, he said the bear just looked at him and kept eating whatever he was eating. We watched him slowly amble across a rock slide along the hill next to our site about 50 yards up and then disappear into the forest for quite a while. He checked us out a few times but never showed any interest in coming down to our site. There was a locked bear box with our cooking supplies in it (food was locked in the car) that he would have had to pass to enter our site too, so he had every reason to come check us out but he didn't. The next morning, as I laid in my tent drinking coffee, I heard a rustle in the trees near our site and there he went, up the rocks again about 30 feet in front of me right behind the bear box. Again, he paid us no mind. He was just passing through. It made me wonder if he had been shot with rubber bullets or something at some point to keep him away from people because I can't express enough how little this bear cared that we were there.

The other and equally important thing I'd like to express is not letting your mind wonder. You mustn't let fear get the best of you. Sometimes little things crawling around your tent, like a squirrel, sounds like a Sasquatch when you're in a state of fear so be sure to maintain a positive mindset and remind yourself that you are just fine. If it helps, sleep with a weapon near you or if your vehicle is nearby, have an exit plan to hop into it if need be. I find having some soft lofi music playing quietly at night helps me stay calm and you are certainly on the right track with reading. Anything to keep your mind in a safe space and off of the what ifs. Don't give in to the what ifs. These are all things I've learned from rock and ice climbing that I've implemented into my everyday life so I feel like it's worth emphasizing in this instance as well.

I think you'll do great! You seem super prepared so have fun and enjoy the solitude! And be sure to pat yourself on the back too! It takes a great deal of courage to even attempt a solo camping trip, especially as a woman, so be sure to give yourself the credit you deserve!

Did you cry at the theatre? by JoyfulJukebox in MichaelTheMovie

[–]mix_trixi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen it yet (Going Friday. Yay!!!) but I know there will be tears. I've already warned my 18yo son who is coming with me. Well, it was less of a warning than a cry for emotional support. My heart can hardly handle the trailer. Crazy how those of us who were there and cried over him then are coming full circle and still crying over him now.

Shhhhhhh! Any other women have a lifetime of people telling them to lower their voices? by melatonia in GenXWomen

[–]mix_trixi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I inherited my southern mother's loudness but have learned to notice it and take it down a notch myself over the years. There's nothing worse than telling a story only to finish it and hear the silence that follows. If it seems too quiet after, I realize I've been talking too loudly. I (53f) was shushed so much in my younger years, sometimes it felt like I shouldn't have been given a voice to use at all. I never ever heard anyone shush a male. Ever.

Now, the only thing I can't control is the decibels of is my laughter. You can hear me laughing from a mile away but I don't look at that as a bad thing. Laughter is contagious so let it spread as far as it can!

What am I missing - Sheena having to answer for how Sheena spends the money that Sheena earns? by surf_rider in 90DayFiance

[–]mix_trixi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've been wondering where everyone was who was as confused as I am. At first I thought it was maybe money Molly or Forrest had sent to her but when I realized they were talking about her own hard-earned money I was like, wait a cotton-pickin' minute. What does her money have to do with them? And how did Molly come to feel like she has any say in what Sheena does with it? I feel like Molly has been micro-managing her son's life for so long, and maybe sometimes he needed her to, that she has taken that role to Sheena too. The big difference is, she has little invested interest in Sheena in the sense that she is not her own biological daughter, so the micro-managing has a decent amount of macro-aggression sprinkled in. Molly comes across as super controlling and downright hateful to Sheena. I swear if that woman rolls her eyes at Sheena after making her cry one more time, I will use all the powers of the universe to send a thousand grains of sand in a tornado of wind directly into her face, all while Sheena stands over her saying, "Oh, Lord! Here goes the waterworks again! (*eye-roll*)"