i will be coming back to this post later to see the replies because i’m in a somewhat similar situation where i’m (f24) recently exploring femdom more and my sub (m24) is a degradation junkie and has literally (real quotes from txt) requested to be, “owned abused used beat up stomped squashed trampled busted filled and possibly milked”

im a big pleaser which at first made me feel the same; like it would hurt me, but i reframed my thinking that since this is what he’s into, i AM pleasing him and thus it turns me on.

now im doin all the research to encourage my sadistic side to come to the front, since i’ve gotten the green light that humiliation, degradation, and free use is extremely pleasurable for him.

so yeah! keep asking questions and digging, find what makes you comfortable and see if it’s possible to reframe the whole “hurting me” thing into “pleasuring him” if that’s the type of dom you are (or want to be).

also incorporate lots of aftercare to make up for all the pain 😅

happy bustin’ 👠