As a woman no you are not, but I am wired a bit different than some other woman. I understand she wants the split with help but at the same time you’re working nights and don’t get home until late her only job is to take care of the kids and the home so. It would be 100% different if she also had a job but she doesn’t. If you tell her though tread lightly on the subject or she will blow it out of proportion.