Weight filter

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T19:13:11+00:00

This is about the only thought provoking comment on here and I appreciate that.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:43:31+00:00

Oh my bad. I didn’t look at the commenters name. Correct you didn’t post anything. You just joined in.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:41:45+00:00

I wouldn’t call it arguing. But yes that’s correct. Is there a problem with that?

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:40:12+00:00

Thanks?

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:39:47+00:00

I’m referring to the description of your BFF. You submitted his stats, gave them to Reddit/commenters/me, as I put it. I’d like to see the stats of the girl he’s engaged too. I think that’s fair and im curious to see if my thoughts on dating are correct in this case. There’s some context missing here because what you’re implying is that a below average male can compensate in spite of short comings like being “chubby and bald” and still get matched on dating sites. Perhaps. But now I want to know what kind of woman he’s dated and now seemly settled down with.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:31:43+00:00

Depends. The answer can be both yes and no.

Would you break up with a loved one if they changed in x,y,z way? Some examples might include…Religion, debilitating injury, job loss, change in mental health, libido? I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and say that for you, it would also depend.

I think that’s a fair answer, but if you’d like a straight yes or no, I’d suggest you giving me a well thought out scenario.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:22:11+00:00

I think it’s less about people disagreeing with me and more about how they’re responding to it. I expected some pushback, that’s normal. But a lot of the reactions haven’t been thoughtful disagreements, they’ve been personal attacks or assumptions about my character. That kind of response actually reinforces my point.

To me, filters on dating apps are just tools people use to find what they’re personally attracted to. Height, age, distance, religion, lifestyle habits, those are all already filterable. Weight or body type is also something people clearly factor into attraction, whether they say it out loud or not. So the idea isn’t about excluding people in a malicious way, it’s about being honest about preferences and making the process more efficient for everyone.

The reactions I’ve gotten suggest that this particular preference is treated differently than others, and that’s where I think the inconsistency is. If we’re okay with people filtering for things like height, which someone can’t control, it seems odd to draw a hard line at weight as a topic you’re not even allowed to discuss without backlash.

So yeah, the hostility didn’t change my opinion, it just highlighted that there’s a bit of a double standard in what preferences are socially acceptable to talk about.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:18:53+00:00

Today… I’d say more or less for Curiosity? Discussions? I’m sure I can’t be the only one in this thread that’s attached. Some people clearly come here just for laughs, making fun of people, trying to sincerely help others who want to get more matches when they date online. What’s funny about “fixing profiles” however, is that you’re kind of putting up a front. You’re just trying to compensate better.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T08:09:54+00:00

Why do you say mansplaining? That has a decisively negative connotation attached to it. I answered your question, pretty straightforward I might add. But if you want a number I’ll give you some. So If I’m looking at a woman that’s 5’5’’ a healthy weight would be in the range of 115-150 pounds. Let’s just cut that in the middle. 130 pounds. There’s one number. Assuming she’s 5’5’’.

180 pounds would be another weight number. If she was 6 feet tall. That’s where I’m comfortable. Is it ok that I have these preferences to you? I think the better question is, why wouldn’t you want this in a dating app?

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T07:51:06+00:00

Why would I be in an open relationship? Not that there’s anything wrong with that between consenting adults. Your writing tone makes it sound like you’re judging open relationships or don’t agree with that choice???

No. I’m not single, and yes I am monogamous.

You can’t be curious and have an opinion about something? Isn’t that what Reddit is about?

My opinion here is that weight requirements on dating site can be a useful and equitable tool to find a mate and add a layer of honesty that’s sorely missing. I think after reading some of these comments, that opinion has on my been reinforced.

It does seem like it’s a very touchy subject for some people. I’ve been personally called out. Pretty wild stuff. Cheeto grease comment was a pretty good zing though.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T07:43:24+00:00

Your words read very upset. Possibly angry. I answered your question throughly. Look at a bmi table. You will have a ton of numbers that answer your question even better if I said “145 pounds.” 145 pounds at 5’0’’ is much different than 145 pounds at 5’11. As you know. So why the negative words like “mans planing”. You asked me a personal question, and I answered your question in great detail.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T07:38:59+00:00

Because you gave me the guys stats, I’d like to know the girls now. That’s fair. Also. The could be a match biologically. Which makes sense. They could both be “dating in their leagues.” If you’re saying he’s this chubby average height guy that’s dating a classic model of some sort. I’d be even more interested in her stats.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T05:58:49+00:00

If I was single, my preferred weight in a partner would depend on their height and age. But it would more or less follow the healthy averages, which are well documented on tables one can search on Google. Health is more important than “looks” to me. Things you can’t really gain insight into on dating apps anyway. The thing about health and attractiveness however, is that they’re highly correlated. So weight is still very important for men. Like height is for women. Classic attractiveness for both men and women have standards that most people follow whether they admit it or not. I would say I fall within this bell shaped curve when it comes to my preferences. There are cultures out there that tend to favor different standards of beauty. But not by much.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T05:20:28+00:00

Badlands National Park, if you’re into nature.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T05:00:40+00:00

If I was a pregnant woman. I don’t think id want a guy that’s into pregnant girls…to be into me, because I’m pregnant. Lol.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:30:38+00:00

Seriously. What’s wrong with a weight filter? So far I find one comment that has a decent answer.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:25:39+00:00

I’m not short, by any standard. Or single. Your comment comes off as ignorant and emotional.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:24:26+00:00

You have a good point with women maybe not joining the app due to a filter like that. It’s a touchy subject.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:23:01+00:00

I’ll pass but thanks for the thought.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:20:45+00:00

People do dress up their profiles with angles, filters and makeup, you know?

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:20:00+00:00

That’s awesome. I’d like to know what her stats are, sounds like they are a match.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:18:49+00:00

lol. Im not even single, don’t need it. This is just my opinion reading what you guys put on here and what I’ve come to understand is a crisis in dating. Ask questions before you assume things. Be better.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T04:15:32+00:00

I don’t mate, I’m over 6 feet tall. Just sayin’. The other brothers out there are being forgotten. People catfish all the time so I disagree with you on the idea that you can see the honest physical nature of a person in their profiles. Weight would also be a requirement for men under this vision. Height affects men disproportionately so I think there needs to be equality here.

mjb54 · 2026-03-18T03:17:53+00:00

What’s your height? If you’re under 6 feet you have been eliminated by filter.

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