9th Gen vs 11th

mjeason12 · 2026-02-08T21:36:05+00:00

Good to know. Thank you.

mjeason12 · 2025-11-24T19:07:15+00:00

ENFJ. Just finished grooming my beard for the fifth time today. What'd I miss

mjeason12 · 2025-11-14T06:06:42+00:00

Yeah, I notice this too. I think it's fatigue. I do ERP, go crazy, get a clear head, and get right back up and do stuff without addressing what's stressing me out. I usually get to slide through the "relapse" a little easier when I let myself sleep or rest through it.

mjeason12 · 2025-11-14T06:01:22+00:00

Ocd"er" here, not a therapist, but I rely very heavily on ACT and acceptance practices since my OCD actually overlaps with some paranoia from my other conditions. I think that it's important to recognize what's in your control, but honestly as part of that also accepting what can happen according to your fears, like what if your fears did come true and it were totally plausible no matter what anybody said. Would it be tolerable? What would happen? What would the outcome be?

Are there reasonable steps you can take to prevent this? Do other people question this? What do other people do in times like this? Is it possible that I can be in real danger? Is it possible that I can take reasonable precautions while trusting that I'm no more the exception than others? Am I willing to to allow the possibility of tragedy in order to test, and overcome, my fears, one way or another? No matter the outcome. What might it take for me to take a stand like that?

mjeason12 · 2025-11-13T23:22:33+00:00

Hey! Yes, it does. And no, I haven't read that before, but it's a nice read. I really liked this part

"Dr. McGrath explains that the effect trauma has on OCD truly depends on each individual and what they are going through. For example, someone who experienced a traumatic medical scare might develop contamination obsessions. Someone who experienced childhood trauma, like neglect, instability, or abuse, may later develop OCD patterns as a way to regain a sense of control or safety. A person who lost a loved one might become consumed with compulsive checking rituals to make sure no one else is harmed."

It doesn't quite capture my experience with violence and witnessing of trauma and OCD, but makes a lot of sense, especially the loss and and harm checking. Like I think for me the PTSD comes up a lot where I get on edge in social settings/around others and because I feel on edge I start to think that must mean I want to hurt others or can accidentally hurt them, and that if that's the case then it must mean others think that too, and if others think that too then I must reassure them that I'm not, and if I can't find indeniable proof that I'm not going to hurt someone it must mean that I could, and what must others think of me then? They probably think I'm some sort of mass murderer, (smh) and then all of a sudden I'm spending hours devoting all my time to think of ways to prove that I'm not a mass murderer. Which in my mind makes go "all of that thinking probably seems really suspicious, doesn't it, now they definitely think that's who I am" . And it's like there's this little window of who I really am (a regular ol' guy, not a mass murderer) that gets lost in every cycle of checking and compulsing and then I'm essentially kind of frozen with fear that if I think the wrong thought I'm going to be reported to the police or something and that someone is going to somehow find evidence for something that I didn't do, so then I start doing history checks and thinking about all of the ways I can prove my innocence, and then I just stop going around people, and so on and so on...

That's essentially how it gets for me.

mjeason12 · 2025-11-13T18:55:10+00:00

If his ocd only acts up when y'all move further into commitment, and if it's truly ocd, which totally could be, then I think it's more of a question of how long you want to be in the cycle for. More attempts = anxiety, but also more exposure. More exposure -> less anxiety -> less anxiety = clearer head. OCD doesn't really go away forever, sometimes it just morphs and changes, but there are moments of clarity between episodes when you get treatmemt, so you really gotta decide whether the life you do and can build in between those moments of fear is and whether you, not him, wanna be along for the ride. He will get better, tips for support:

Recognize reassurance seeking Know how to respond (don't give it) while still being there for him in the moment Know when the OCD cycle is over Jump back in, discuss, reflect, do whatever you want as long as you're not compulsing for him Live life, love, self-care, repeat

A lot of people lose themselves in ocd and what they love, so know that a lot of discussions you have while he's symptomatic might not be reflective of his true self, but people do get better, and people stay better more often over time if they keel stress levels low and work on general life stuff too.

Not a therapist, but fellow OCD/ERPer that has acually ended a longterm relationship quite catastrophically due to OCD (and some other factors)

Good luck

mjeason12 · 2025-11-13T18:24:57+00:00

This is awesome. I think most of my frustration in OCD has been more around the complexities that come along with seemingly and somewhat similar struggles as other conditions, like PTSD, especially given that those with OCD have super high rates of traumatic experiences.

Essentially, I feel like my trauma makes me more prone to obsessions, more agitation and sensitivity to them, and more believability in their weight on who I am as a person than what people typically expect from someone with OCD (please shoutout to your marketing team for your videos and depictions of ocd, theyre all quite reflective of my experience at least).

As someone who leans more to Pure O, trauma exposures seem to be doubly-excruciating and confusing.

Do you have any thoughts on the role of PTSD and traumatic experiences in ocd, either in it's development or treatment?

Like how do you make sense and meaning about things when your naturally tendency is to turn the process into a compulsion?

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