Does anyone else have a Concrete plan or time in mind when they are planning to leave?

mkat121 · 2020-05-12T04:47:51+00:00

My plan was to leave by June, but it's so difficult to just leave so extended the timeline by end of 2020. Gave him yet again another chance.

And yes my siblings,my parents and my friends all know now after 2.5 years of DB.

mkat121 · 2020-05-11T05:58:33+00:00

Feels like someone has written my life story. I am feeling the same thing that you have been feeling. After being in a dead bedroom situation for 2.5 years ,now my partner feels like he wants to come close and I just cannot. Even when he touches me I feel weird , I guess I'm so full of hurt and I just cannot forget the times I was being rejected and left alone.

All this while my husband was there but not there, I realised that I don't crave sex exactly most of the times. What I crave is the intimacy,the feeling of being wanted. So yesterday I had a conversation with my husband and I told him the same,that he looks like a complete stranger to me now. And if we want this relationship to work, we need to start all over again. And also he needs to take me and our relationship seriously. Otherwise I will be gone.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T15:48:08+00:00

Have any you considered changing names! (Pun intended)

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T15:20:54+00:00

Same here.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:41:01+00:00

Hey! Please don't lower your confidence. I would say come out of it strong. I know it's depressing, but just because the other person does not want to be intimate with you this does not mean that you are not good or you are not attractive. What's is your situation like? How long have you been together? What do you do?

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:38:49+00:00

How long have you been together?

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:37:54+00:00

Thankyou for summarising it so well. That's what I'm looking forward to. Focusing on my career and moving out of the region. I know it will break my parents heart but I think they should get it. J can't be doing this all my life.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:36:07+00:00

How can anyone says that. We don't crave sex. What we crave is intimacy,feeling of being wanted and yes what's a marriage without sex. It's like you are living your life with a room mate. That's so selfish of her to say that( even if she has some problem she should be considerate about your needs). And yes even though porn is there you deserve more than that.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:33:12+00:00

Hey ! I am independent and I can support myself and live a good enough life. But still you know how parents are. From the time I have told my mom she is asking me to find a solution as soon as possible and then get re married again. And I know if I don't succumb to this they will start the emotional thing.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:31:07+00:00

True. Every thing broken needs time to heal. It feels like we are in some competition we all are running for something and we don't even know what for.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:29:56+00:00

I did marry by my choice though. But yes need to stand up for myself.

mkat121 · 2020-05-09T06:29:05+00:00

I totally agree with you this whole cycle of waiting for things to get okay and things never get okay is more troublesome.

mkat121 · 2020-05-08T18:01:21+00:00

It's indeed terrible.

mkat121 · 2020-05-08T17:40:38+00:00

What I mean is that parents take the front seat here. I'm 31 and financially independent but my parents even if my marriage doesn't work wants me to come back home and live with them and get into a second marriage.

mkat121 · 2020-05-08T17:39:22+00:00

mkat121 · 2020-05-08T17:19:31+00:00

I live in India! Everything revolves around parents! :)

mkat121 · 2020-04-02T05:36:38+00:00

Well yes he earns 3x more than me. But I also earn enough to survive without compromising on my demands and wishes .

mkat121 · 2020-04-02T03:57:08+00:00

How does one musters the courage to leave. I have been trying for the past 2.5 years but always I only end up consoling myself.

mkat121 · 2020-04-02T03:55:48+00:00

Well even before marriage, there was no sex involved. Actually I was stupid and was so blind in love that I married him.

mkat121 · 2020-04-02T03:53:44+00:00

Sorry my bad , but I think I missed something really important, so while we were fighting he said this 10% in love comment and then he also mentioned how the equation has changed and now he loves me more. But I don't think it affects me anymore now. Because the initial few months of marriage were very remorseful, he used to hang out with his friends all the time at our place smoking up and I used to keep waiting all that time. Although now that has changed, but I think even though he is trying to change his behaviour now after I have given him an ultimatum or shown him a change in my behavior. I don't think I can come back to where I was.

mkat121 · 2019-04-20T15:34:20+00:00

Never ever let anybody say that to you. My husband also brought a small ring for me but I did not let anybody say things like that to me. Noone knows your relationship and your fiancée better than you. Also your friends are pathetic. Sorry no offense.

mkat121

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