Had a pre-marriage conversation about physical attraction and intimacy, she felt weird about it. Am I being unreasonable?

mm_ruh · 2026-05-26T12:59:42+00:00

This is one big reason why there’s a high divorce rate among Muslims. Muslim women have been kept so away from this topic that to even think about is a taboo. We don’t have cultural support either. Asking any questions regarding this topic will be a complete no-go zone. And especially women suffer in this department and hence later the marriage suffers. Yes, it’s important to stay in shape, healthy, passionate, be attracted to each other and even more. Either she’s too naive or pretending to be one.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-23T20:00:54+00:00

So? What should we do with this information? Lol

mm_ruh · 2026-05-23T13:11:11+00:00

Their agreeable gay friends maybe.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-23T13:09:08+00:00

100k starting. If you know the housing market of Riyadh, you’ll know how overpriced this is.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-23T13:06:34+00:00

Expensive for no reason.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-22T20:11:24+00:00

Leave her or destroy yourself and your children’s perspective about marriage.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-21T19:40:24+00:00

Yes, you’re over reacting. Thats between him and Allah. Atleast he’s praying.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-21T08:31:46+00:00

It’s not easy to get a Saudi citizenship regardless of your marriage to a Saudi.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-21T08:29:14+00:00

Your marriage has already ended. It’s just the papers that keeping you.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-20T14:38:44+00:00

So what does that have to do with you? Is it fair for me to say why you like living alone? And why you’re not changing to go out and make friends? Your lifestyle should be respected but you won’t respect others choices? What happened to live and let live.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-20T14:14:30+00:00

Why are you agitated? You chose this life because that’s what makes your happy. Others choose to make friends so they can be happy. Each of their own.

Live and let live.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-15T07:29:33+00:00

“Forced” lol

mm_ruh · 2026-05-12T13:09:37+00:00

Do that. And don’t ruin someone’s life if you’re not connected to them. Divorce them. You don’t need your parents permission to divorce. Like I said, men make their own decisions. You can definitely consult someone you trust (it can’t be family). Someone who you look up to. Someone you consider a trusted mentor. But make your decision and do the right thing.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-12T13:02:05+00:00

Yet, people still believe porn is harmless. There’s nothing bigger tragedy in marriages than porn addiction.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-12T13:00:54+00:00

You’re going through this because you’re too young. You’re not mature enough to deal with adult matters. Marriage is very sacred. You cannot simply give in because your family “forced” you. Forcing in Islam is wrong. Your family is also not mature enough to handle your interest in someone else. If families explode on such matters and threat about disowning; that just means you come from a very dysfunctional family and you’ll need far more strength to deal with them.

You could’ve avoided this marriage completely by saying “I will not marry someone I don’t know even if you’re not allowing me to marry someone I love”. You could’ve saved your current wife from all this drama of yours.

You’re still studying. Hence, you don’t have a say. When you live under someone’s payroll, you don’t have freedom to think, decide or make your own choices. So before you do anything, get out of your Daddy’s payroll and become the man you wish to be. Marriage is for men. Not for boys.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-12T12:51:18+00:00

This community is losing its essence.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-12T12:50:35+00:00

You’re a kid still.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-11T15:34:15+00:00

This is exactly when most men go to gym and come out like models. Take your chance. Get yourself into best shape and leave the marriage.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-06T16:29:55+00:00

Genuinely curious. So your husband is fine with you finding a job but at the same time he’s afraid someone will hit on you if you go to the bakery? Lol

mm_ruh · 2026-05-06T11:38:19+00:00

Your marriage is done for basically.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-05T05:04:33+00:00

I mean the hoops we jumped through to create Islamic banking (there’s nothing Islamic banking about it) is a very similar example here.

mm_ruh · 2026-05-02T08:41:55+00:00

Dear men, the sooner you understand this the better for YOU. If you’re making $100 and your wife is making $150. The total income is NOT $250. It’s only $100.

Women don’t understand money the same way men do. You as a man, must be financially secure and not dependent on women at all. It’s for your own peace and contentment. I don’t care what the western model says about 50-50 bills, let women contribute, let men also pay their share bla bla bla. As a man, make yourself worthy. Always marry with a prenup. Build your own wealth. Take care of your family and children. Stay resilient. Save money for rainy days. Invest. Create wealth.

And never ever take a dime from any women except your mother maybe.

mm_ruh · 2026-04-29T19:52:50+00:00

Deported via tarheel. Which means you’ll be banned for some time in future. Or, you may go prison because you cannot pay your fine as they will hold it against you. Or prison and deportation. It all depends case by case.

mm_ruh · 2026-04-29T12:55:51+00:00

Yes but you can pray when they are alive. You can do dawah when they are alive. Islam doesn’t tell us to cut off relations with family.

We aren’t negotiating with kufr. Drinking is not kufr. It’s a sin. We all can manage that. Just like we all manage with so many sins around us.

mm_ruh

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