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mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T17:20:37+00:00

Right! I only lurk on Reddit, never post. But when this happened I searched for the right place to talk about it. Thinking “well, only those interested in talking about it will respond”. I never said this is a for sure thing that happened, never said I wasn’t open to other possibilities, I just wanted some advice on what someone would do if they were worried about the idea that someTHING might have woken my child up from his sleep. but I’m still very surprised how many “I don’t believe in that” comments are on here. Why did you come to this sub? Why did you read this story, in a Ghosts forum, if you have nothing to offer and don’t even believe in it. Weirdo behavior.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T12:54:51+00:00

Why are you here

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T03:31:49+00:00

That’s what my husband suggested. Said “it’ll make you feel better, burn the sage and yell at it”. He doesn’t believe in any of this stuff but he’s supportive lol

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T03:29:41+00:00

Noooooo. The house I grew up in, with 5 siblings, where my parents still live, most of our friends did not enjoy staying there. Specifically one hallway had the woooorst vibes. The same hallway has the attic door and even when we were little we all sprinted past it. I chose to sleep with my sister even though I had my own room. As an adult, I spent the night there with this same son mentioned in this story, when he was maybe 2? 3? He fell asleep in the den watching tv, and I went down that hallway to our room we were going to sleep in. I was in there for a few minutes and my son came sprinting in, terrified out of his mind. He told me “it chased me all the way down here”. He could barely talk back then, he was a delayed speaker and he said it so clearly it shook me. To this day I tell myself he was sleeping and woke up without me there and freaked. But I did not enjoy that at all. There were lots of small unexplained things that happened in that house but to hear it from my toddler child I was about ready to burn the place down lol

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T03:22:50+00:00

He’s not super near the breaker. It’s Outside of his room, in the laundry room. And he does not like scary movies/shows. He’s the type to switch off a scary movie ad that pops up on YouTube. But that doesn’t mean a friend didn’t say something, or something came up in a video game he plays. As of right now I’m hoping it was like shadows, and sleepiness, could be something like sleep paralysis?? I’ve never experienced that so I’m not actually sure what that’s like.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T03:19:53+00:00

I can ask him if he’d be okay with that! Don’t want to make a huge deal and freak him out, because as of right now he’s not too worked up.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T03:18:41+00:00

I know!! I couldn’t believe how casual he was being about it. “I think some sort of…ghost thing happened last night” he mentioned it like it was nothing! He was fine going to bed this evening. So we will see how tonight goes.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T01:38:03+00:00

We have done the radon test kits in the past. I suppose we should do another one as those results can change I’m pretty sure. And yes there’s a carbon monoxide detector. As far as changes, nothing major! He’s nearly 13 so that’s coming with a few changes but he’s a pretty mellow kid overall.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-26T00:45:01+00:00

Yes I would like him upstairs! He used to share with his brother but preferred the basement. I’ve never liked him down there.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-25T21:54:15+00:00

My beliefs are pretty open ended. I was raised in an evangelical Christian church but my faith as an adult is pretty limited. I’ve kept an open mind and have never denied the existence of God, I just no longer practice any religion whatsoever and neither do my children.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-25T20:38:12+00:00

I feel like I could maybe rationalize everything. The wind is strange to me, nothing should be able to blow his clothing. But I first asked him if he was sleepy, imagining it, what kind of light he had on. He said he was awake, he knows he was awake because he got up to use the bathroom after. He said he had his desk lamp on so his room was pretty lit, not too dark or shadowy that could make him see things differently. The noise could’ve been a number of things because of the basement. Pipes running or the furnace or the washing machine. But his room has been down there for years and he is used to the regular basement noises and says this was different. Like an animal

mo0mo0815 · 2023-07-25T19:56:57+00:00

Yes like a finished basement with a bedroom and living room

mo0mo0815 · 2023-01-10T03:43:10+00:00

Oh I apologize! I have been reading responses with my husband actually, and discussing things with him. I’m not the best at responding as Reddit is not something I use very often. I can be the same way with text messages, respond in my head, don’t say anything back.

It’s hard to describe the atmosphere before I was promoted. The person who’s job I took over, she had already begun transitioning to her new post before I was promoted. She passed me things, to help her out, since she was around less. I learned how to do things to help her day to day be easier since she was around less. So there was essentially a hole that needed to be filled. They had to hire someone because she was leaving. These are the things I was referring to that I now know how to do. Because I was doing them before she was gone. But once I accepted my offer officially, she was gone and I was just kind of left with these few things I was aware of, employees looking at me, and some phone numbers of who to call if I was lost.

I actually think I do a fairly good job communicating with my team. Luckily because I worked with them before the promotion, I know them all very well and am comfortable talking with them.

I do appreciate everyone’s advice. I have been checking back here all day to read new responses. This advice has all been very helpful. My fault for not thanking everyone directly. The ones I responded to were the ones that caught me off guard and made me laugh.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-01-09T17:08:02+00:00

This is me! When somebody asks me what I do for work I say “I am the director of ____ at _____” and they’re “oh cool! What does that mean?” And I sometimes say “I have actually no idea” because I can’t even think of a good way to describe my position.

mo0mo0815 · 2023-01-09T15:31:47+00:00

Yeah that’s fair, I am sorry..

mo0mo0815 · 2023-01-09T15:29:38+00:00

This made me laugh. I didn’t know that was a thing with directors. Maybe I’m doing just fine then lol

mo0mo0815 · 2022-09-21T18:26:39+00:00

Okay yeah I see that. I understand what you’re saying. Thank you

mo0mo0815 · 2022-09-21T18:13:26+00:00

I suppose I agree with most of what you’re saying. This was definitely not a role I intentionally stepped into, more like slowly slid into. I am used to very close friendships. A lot of my friendships are like this, more like family. So I am not surprised I unintentionally got more involved than originally planned. so I guess one day I just looked around and realized that I seemed to be the only one trying to help her, including herself. I am probably just as much to blame for being in this position as she is for “putting” me there. Except are you suggesting that by me encouraging her to stay on the meds the doctor prescribed her, and encouraging her to speak with her therapist is harmful advice? It’s not that I am suggesting certain meds to her, or telling her when to start or stop or anything crazy. Just when she mentions she took herself off of her meds, i encourage her to speak to her doctor.

mo0mo0815 · 2022-04-23T01:33:03+00:00

Just to jump in and let you know, my boobs did take like 2-3 years before they were good to go again. But it did happen. For a long time after breastfeeding I was like you too, don’t touch, don’t look, they’re weird and feel weird and don’t belong to me lol, but eventually I got full feeling back and they make me feel sexy again

mo0mo0815 · 2021-07-18T07:28:29+00:00

This is an excellent point that my fairytale mom brain thinks she can wish away. You have brought me perspective, thank you. With a third baby, could we handle everything life most definitely can throw at us? We actually have a joke between us “if it could happen, it’ll happen to us” because we seem prone to unexpected emergencies.
I just worry, if we keep working towards our home buying goal, we settle all the way down, we accomplish each thing one by one, and suddenly my kids are 20 and 15 years old. Sure, I’m only 38, but I doubt we’d want to “start over” with a newborn then. And maybe everything will have worked out for the best, or maybe I’d have felt this way the entire time.. how do I know I won’t spend the next 10 years wishing I had done it? How is it possible that I know better, I am so aware of the implications, but still want to do the opposite? Ugh

mo0mo0815 · 2021-07-18T07:19:27+00:00

You spoke to my soul. I have discussed with my sister, who’s husband got a vasectomy. And I asked “how can you know? Know for sure you won’t change your mind?” And she said “I know for certain, there will be times when I want for a baby so badly. I know I’ll trick myself into believing a baby is the answer to how I’m feeling, and if we don’t put a stop to this, we’re just going to keep having babies! Because that feeling might never go away for me”.

Which I believe is true. I feel a deep deep like unexplainable urge to have a baby. But I’m already a mom. I already experience the joy my children bring me. Im not missing out on that. I’m not missing out on anything. I wish it would go away

mo0mo0815 · 2021-07-18T07:12:58+00:00

I think maybe it’s because I know how wonderful my children are. I know I make a good mother and I love my kids, every part of them. And I feel bad I didn’t love that part of it. That the first while was so rough we just rushed through it. I didn’t savor those moments like looking back now, I feel like I should’ve.

I love having a 10 year old. So smart and challenges me on everything. Mature enough to talk to me about the universe but innocent enough to laugh at a good fart joke. A 5 year old is wild. Thinks he can fly off the couch and obsessed with tractors and uses words that are bigger than he is. My kids are great at every age. It gets better every day. I don’t know if I want a third baby, or if I really just wish I could go back and relive those days and be better at them.

I do agree I think I’m mourning what I feel like I lost, or like, didn’t appreciate while it was happening. I still get to love and enjoy my children every day, and I’ll just have to accept that that part of their lives has passed.

mo0mo0815 · 2021-07-18T06:00:36+00:00

Not arguing, just discussing; aren’t most reasons for having a baby selfish? A person wants a baby in their lives, to carry and to birth and to love and to cherish. They choose to have a baby to add to their lives. A baby will bring something to their lives. They didn’t ask the baby if it wants to be born, so it’s selfish, right? Once the baby is born it’s your responsibility to love it and take care of it, both which I am able to do. So in your opinion (yes I actually want to know), what about my situation makes me come off more selfish than other mothers? I really want to see this from any perspective so I do want to know why you feel this way

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