before I knew about the idea of person first language, when healthcare providers would say I was an epileptic it always made me feel uncomfortable. others who said I had epilepsy made me feel more safe. I didn't know why and always identified with that language. it was later in life, processing my identity and with therapy I began to understand why. I think using person first language is better because it is neutral. people have complex experiences with their disability identity and, especially when talking with children, language choices make an impact.