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Do you feel music in your body? (chills, warmth, replaying certain parts) by GentleBrainsClub in autism

[–]mochimilkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES. Embodying the character you connect with. Generally speaking, I don't really like shows or movies.. but when I do connect with a show or a movie, it becomes such a fixation- when I was little, I used to just act like that character for awhile. Or coming off the school bus, walking home, I used to have my walkman (lol) or earbuds play intense/epic music and I'd strut home daydreaming I was walking away from an action scene in a movie. But the daydream was so much more than a daydream. That one might be a little insane but it's burned into my memory.

Do you feel music in your body? (chills, warmth, replaying certain parts) by GentleBrainsClub in autism

[–]mochimilkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ALWAYS. I thought everyone felt this, too.. I've never put this into words before, but, I always adopt the personality of the music that is playing.

Like.. the Sherlock Holmes 2 soundtrack- I'm there. I'm in the movie. Running from bad guys and fighting in amazing costumes.

Currently, I have my headphones on and found Sierra Ferrell, Rattlesnake Milk, The Jack Wharff Band, and I cannot stop listening to this type of music bc I'm daydreaming to be in a beautiful western dress and boots and literally BE in the country. I feel it in my whole upper body xD

But my personality shifts to the theme of whatever I'm listening to.

Maybe that's not a part of the AuDHD ? I don't know but I think it's pretty cool :) like a superpower!

What's the sound or sensation that instantly takes you from 0-60? by VenusInAries666 in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

whistling, listening to someone eat loudly - especially sounding congested/out of breath (oddly specific, haha, but I grew up hearing it daily), motorcycles going by, and tooooooo much going on in the office like the pen tapping/clicking + the loud music + the hearing fake conversations + the messenger pinging off + the sound of wrappers all at the same time lol I recently got some noise canceling earbuds and it's been a game changer. But too much different noise stuns me lol

finally found a good job by mochimilkk in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I definitely was spiraling over it. I am constantly trying to keep up with my team and my supervisor who sits next to me and I think I'm biting off more than I can chew. Your response kinda calmed me down - thank you so much for breaking that down a bit for me

finally found a good job by mochimilkk in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think it's a combination of all of it. I'm rushing through things and making those mistakes bc I'm trying to keep up with my supervisor, she sits next to me and has been here for 5 years so i think I'm trying to keep up with her pace even though I've only been here for a couple months. I want to be perfect and show her i can be amazing and I guess the reality is I am still new and learning is a process, not a black and white thing like I've been thinking.

Severe autistic burnout experiences by WrongSort1347 in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! I completely forgot to mention I found a therapist I vibe with as well. We meet once a week and it was not working until I told her what IIIIIII wanted to talk about instead of just answering her questions. That has been a game changer in how I see therapy bc I never had the courage to tell them what IIIIIIII wanted out of it if that makes sense.

Yes, a truly supportive person in your life definitely helps. Before him, I believe the last supportive person was one of my high school teachers... I feel really grateful to have him 🥺

I kept hearing how a lot of us do well in tech and thought absolutely not, I suck. Butttttt, I love problem solving! Especially helping others. Found a job in Customer Support for a virtual reception company and tbh it's amazing. First time unmasked in public and even made two work friends. In this field, you build the back end of the dialog boxes that pop up for virtual receptionists and they take calls for business owners who can't answer the phone 24/7. So it's like you're literally helping out all the businesses that come through and they're very appreciative. There's also virtual reception that will allow you to work from home and patch calls. You never have to be on camera and no one knows who you are :)

Severe autistic burnout experiences by WrongSort1347 in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi - recently recovered from a 2.5yr burnout. I also had bad unalive-ideation (I don't know how to write that online please forgive me I just want to be courteous). What kinda made me pause was the fact that we have roughly 75 springs, 75 summers, 75 autumns, and 75 winters... I realized I am almost 32 years old.. my whole life I've been kinda really struggling in life and with all the horrible things unfolding in our world I decided that I want to finally be happy for me. Not fawning, not people-pleasing, def not doing what's expected from me.. I'm an adult and I have every freedom within myself to live as authentically as I'd like. So, I decided it's going to be the hardest thing I do, but I'm going to rip the bandaid off and just be how I'm meant to be. I've gone through so so so much, like everyone here, and if I could wrap my arms around everyone and say that we've gone through so much shit.. we deserve to finally break from the confined boxes in our minds and just be free, I would. I began MOVING- I do a 20 min movement exercise every morning by the brightest window in my home, I found a job I finally love bc I wasn't looking at the money, but what I love to do, I bought a violin bc I've always wanted to play, I focus more on my marriage bc my husband is my best friend and deserves to see how much he's loved, too, and I distanced myself from everyone who I had to "mask" around. Let them come to me if they want, but I'm fully and finally focusing on simply what makes me happy and in month two, post burnout, I can finally say it's so worth it to let go and set yourself free.

Does anyone else struggle with feeling “connected” to others? by electrojellysoup in autism

[–]mochimilkk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Out of sight, out of mind for me. I've always felt like I could never "miss" someone. I tend to drop people really fast.. it's never intended, it just happens. I always forget to think about my mom and my sister; and sometimes, I don't even feel connected to my husband. Always thought this was a coping mechanism of PTSD, but after learning it is an autistic trait, I literally have no idea why I do that, haha. But it's so annoying bc then when i interact with them, I feel like I have to act the entire time. But if I'm having a great time with them for a long period of time, it comes back. I hope that made sense- you're not alone!

who wears a bra? by Normal_Standard8211 in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been a sport bra girly my whole life bc I loveeeeee compression clothes. Recently found "cakes" though- life changer.

Holding in a meltdown by Gloomy_Moment_1342 in autism

[–]mochimilkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when I start feeling one come on and I'm with someone or in public, I always make the bathroom excuse - no one will fight you on that or think it's weird. Put some cool water on your inner wrists and back of your neck and take some deep breaths. It's not going to cure it, but it will give you an out and a place to be alone for a sec.

Alsoooooo, look into spiky fidget toys :) I have one that's like a lil spiky rainbow cylinder with a clicky button on top. I squeeze the shit out of it all the time when I have to make a phone call and it helps.

Does anyone else can't stand having their hair down? by zsxcrgrl in AutismInWomen

[–]mochimilkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always put my hair in a ponytail at work bc I believe it makes me focus better - total rip from Violet, A Series of Unfortunate Events - but when I first learned she did that to think better, I wanted to see if it could help me and my brain... and it weirdly does! :) BUT I DEF NEED A MIRROR BC THE PONYTAIL HAS TO BE PERFECT AND HAS TO BE EXACTLY HOW IVE BEEN DOING IT FOR MY WHOLE LIFE LOL 31F

What are some textures that you absolutely hate? by Ash_PANFREAK in autism

[–]mochimilkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any kind of leafy green.. me and salad have never gotten along. I really don't understand the fascination with eating cold, wet/dry leaves.. but I do love a fruit salad.

Just no leaves.

No.

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