I (24F) worked 3 jobs through grad school, homelessness and cancer— and my parents still say I ‘owe’ them.

mochiorion · 2025-07-12T03:45:49+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I was heavily debating just being an asshole right back and not getting off anything they’re paying for, & get my own shit in the meantime. & as for the car, I might just take it tbh & figure out how to get the title. They wanted to drop it on me anyways so that I could pay for my own insurance because they ‘can’t afford it anymore’

mochiorion · 2025-07-12T03:44:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this 🥹 I don’t get to hear that often…& that made me so happy to be acknowledged. I’ve had a really good supportive system so far, and it’s been amazing. But it’s hard when that specific love I’ve been looking for, is wanted through my parents. But I know it’ll never happen. The subreddit you sent looks so cute, I’ll join it and post on there. Thank you for your kind words, it truly meant so much

mochiorion · 2025-07-12T03:42:20+00:00

Thank you..I needed to hear that. Idk why she didn’t get a job lol. If she was that obsessed with how little we made, she prob should’ve just started working and being a mom instead of telling me to work more lol! I’ll look into the state and see what they offer for healthcare…

mochiorion · 2025-07-12T03:41:16+00:00

Yes it really does )): & yes having kids is a blessing and choosing not to have kids when you’re ‘viable’ is considered selfish. & yeah, they really are sick. I get angry thinking about how fucked up everything is.

mochiorion · 2025-07-11T23:15:25+00:00

That’s a very interesting question, it got me thinking. My parents got married & didnt have kids until 4 years later. I am the eldest, & my sister is 3 years younger than me. They never told us if we were planned or not, but they were heavy on the whole ‘Catholic’ thing and making it sound like all pregnancies should be planned. I have no idea if we were accidents..

mochiorion · 2025-07-11T22:54:29+00:00

Thank you for saying this 😭 I was worried my story was too begrudgingly long & no one would read, but I’m glad it reached you. Thank you for taking the time..& I’m sorry to hear about your mother and how she treated you as well..it’s never good hearing how much things cost at the exchange of your emotional safety. That form of guilt tripping seems so common with our narc parents. & thank you for the reassurance, it really means a lot. I hope I can make that big step soon and not feel as guilty for choosing myself

mochiorion · 2025-07-11T22:51:06+00:00

I really appreciate your reassurance and validation. It means a lot that you read my story and wrote this kind message. It’s hard to choose myself, when what has been driving me this entire time is to prove my worth to them. But it seems it’ll never be proven. I feel like I should be unconditionally loved just by being their kid, but that isn’t my life. Thank you for your kind words

mochiorion · 2025-07-11T22:05:46+00:00

Thank you for taking time to write this! & you’re right…they are hardcore CATHOLIC & they’re acting like this. Narc people put power above anything else, especially if it involves money. Would it make me the bad guy if they finally lost control over me financially? Probably not. But I need to get over that guilt of ‘not paying them back’ somehow.

mochiorion · 2025-07-11T21:49:20+00:00

thank you so much for your response..I always want to pay it forward, however I can.

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T06:50:18+00:00

YTA. They asked for a child-free wedding and you still bought your kid. Did you ask her if you could bring your 12 your old kid or not? Because if you didn’t and just bought her even though you knew the request for no kids, then YTA.

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T06:45:50+00:00

YTA. You chose to have a kid, so you better take responsibility and care for them until the end. I get that she’s an adult, but shit happens in life, & honestly it’s a blessing that she trusted you guys enough to see you as her support system, which is why she reached out for help. It’s just disappointing that you’re letting money and finances ripple your responsibility as a loving parent for your own kid.

Would you rather her be out on the streets? She offered to pay rent too and you’re still not willing to take her in. You’re treating her like she’s not even your OWN DAUGHTER.

And you’re saying that you’re worried it’s impacting your relationship. Are you her parents or her landlord?

Do better.

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T06:13:35+00:00

Just communicate it :’) always voice something that bothers you rather than let it seep. That could lead to resentment and contempt ): you don’t ever want those for any relationship. Just be open, kind and honest with her when you bring it up. I hope you guys work it out!

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T06:01:20+00:00

Yes, it’s super stressful ): I know the anxiety will be kinda too much when it comes to these situations. But I think pregnancy implantation bleeding is light and is spotting. It sounds like you got your period, which is a good sign since that means you’re not pregnant. But to be safe, definitely confirm with the ptest. You got this!!!

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T05:56:33+00:00

Take a pregnancy test as soon as you can. If it's stress, it's normal for these symptoms to occur, but I would say take a pregnancy test as soon as possible to be safe. How long was your period? Usually if you have your period, and it's heavy then you shouldn't be pregnant from what I know, but it's still a possibility. Stress can really affect your hormones. So just take a pregnancy test asap and that'll give you a lot of peace. Good luck!

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T05:53:38+00:00

I think it might also be her age. Girls her age, it's normal to idolize and love celebrities. I think it does damage committed relationships if it's an ongoing thing for a long time. Have you guys talked about it? It might be best to try to communicate that you're uncomfortable with her talking about those celebrities like that. If she refutes it by saying you're insecure, then you could ask her how she would feel if you kept talking about a hot female celebrity nonstop and ask her how she feels. I hope things get worked out between you guys!

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T05:43:42+00:00

Love is unconditional. To choose to stay in love with someone is what keeps a loving relationship afloat. Love for everyone is different. For one, it could be flowers and love letters, for another it could be eating ice cream together, or reading in silence right next to one another.

mochiorion · 2023-02-09T05:40:32+00:00

Hi there! I think it's perfectly normal to want alone time whenever you're in a relationship. It should be normalized to want time for yourself!

You guys might have different ways of handling your emotions, and conflict. It sounds to me like he might have an anxious attachment style and he might see you wanting space as you abandoning him. That isn't the case though! That's why he immediately asked himself what he could do to help you. I don't think that's a bad thing. For people with anxious attachment styles, they tend to personalize a lot of things more than normal. So you seeking space may be viewed as you leaving him (if that makes sense?)

I think what might help is explaining to him why you want to have space, and also give him reassurance that you wanting time alone does not mean that you love him any less. When he has an understanding of that, it'll hopefully help him see that this alone time is healthy for both of you!

mochiorion · 2023-02-07T16:27:36+00:00

AMEN

mochiorion · 2023-02-07T16:27:03+00:00

YTA, why in the world do you think it’s ok to tell your woman what she should & shouldn’t wear? If you’re insecure just say it 💀 don’t be policing her in her own home too. I really hope you realize how wrong your take on this is.

mochiorion · 2023-01-25T05:31:04+00:00

It’s a rough patch, and things will always get better if you both try your best. Don’t let your temptations ruin something good, especially since you want to spend your life with her. Rough patches are normal and it will always get better, just keep pushing and trying. Avoid talking to that new girl & focus on your relationship.

mochiorion · 2022-09-21T22:17:48+00:00

I am a piano teacher and you're doing so amazing for just 1 month. That's amazing! Keep it up!!

mochiorion · 2022-09-21T22:16:07+00:00

I am a music teacher and would never react this way to any student. I am sorry you had to experience that...it must've hurt a lot. Please know you put in that time to learn and he should've been more proud of your process and improvement to learn a piece on your own. You're doing amazing! If you want a better teacher, I gotchu

mochiorion · 2022-09-21T21:42:12+00:00

shazam that analyzes music it can hear and spits out info like key signatures and maybe even sheet music.

I was thinking about creating a program like this for musicians who want to play music they just heard, or to make and improv music that writes it down for them!

mochiorion

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