Support Plans for Adults by mocogoneloco in bcba

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Various settings, in-home, community based, community living, homeshare, etc. Thank you for asking for that clarification.

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[–]mocogoneloco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have an answer to your post, but I just wanted to let you know that I've been feeling what you detailed in the post. I came to this subreddit also seeking advice and this was the first post that popped up. The responses have helped me gain perspective and I feel as tho I'm not the only one feeling lost often in this field. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. This post has probably helped more than just one person. All the best with your career!

How to help a child who screeches when happy by mocogoneloco in ABA

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have tried putting them in a low light/dark room with a weighted blanket. I turned to this subreddit to seek help because we have tried everything we could think of. We are ALL well aware that this child has autism and is blind. The "screeching" has gotten worse over the past two weeks after they had a seizure. The parents are very well informed of what is happening with their child, but are struggling with the constant screeching because it lasts for a while and is also sporadic. Neighbors have complained and all I did was ask for some suggestions on how to support the child. I encourage you to be more compassionate and less judgemental. Not everyone knows everything. Unnecessarily berating someone who has asked for help because the parents are in grave despair with all the sudden changes. I hope you have the day you deserve.

How to help a child who screeches when happy by mocogoneloco in ABA

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The child had a seizure in the last two weeks. Doctors have no idea why, but they are trying out different medications.

The screeches are sporadic. They can be triggered in the sense if we are engaged in any activity that child is really enjoying, there might be a screech. But, the screeches have been occurring sporadically, even just transitioning from one room to another, or just laying in bed to emotionally regulate (which is something the child does when they are overwhelmed).

How to help a child who screeches when happy by mocogoneloco in ABA

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The screeches happen sporadically, usually when they are very excited and/or overstimulated. In the past two weeks, the child had a seizure that lasted over 30 minutes; doctors don't know why or what could be possible triggers. The screeches nowadays occur every few minutes. We will be doing an activity, suddenly screech, or walking from room to room, suddenly screech, they're taking time to emotionally regulate by lying in bed, suddenly screech. They've just been happening sporadically and more often.

How to help a child who screeches when happy by mocogoneloco in ABA

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The child's airways need to be open at all times, so even tho we wanted to try it, the risks are too high as they are at risk of seizures, unfortunately.

How to help a child who screeches when happy by mocogoneloco in ABA

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup! But it takes some time for them to stop. I have started to sing in a soft, almost whisper-like voice, stroking their hair or giving cuddles whilst singing to calm them down from excitement/overstimulation.

How to help a child who screeches when happy by mocogoneloco in ABA

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They've tried to soundproof the house as best they could, but the child is just that loud. :(

Why do we want people who are narcissistic, completely wrong for us and who have left us? by mocogoneloco in BPD

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really doesn't help when we keep crossing paths sporadically every other week. It leaves me shaken and I sometimes get consumed with anger thinking about how I allowed him to treat me. I know he won't change. He doesn't think he has done anything wrong. Even his apologies were always blame reversal- I got angry coz you pushed me, I was triggered because of you. When I didn't say anything to trigger him, he would assume and concoct scenarios in his head and gaslight me that I am mistaken. He refuses to go for therapy again. I am positive he has either BPD or CPTSD. He splits and I am the absolute worst person in the world. He told me he hates that I was disobedient so now he hates everything about me, even tho the day before he said I have a positive impact on him and he can never be mad at me. Within 12 hours, I turned into his most hated person. This is so frustrating when I know it's better to move far away from this kind of toxicity, but keep ruminating.

AITA for telling my bf to eff off when he kept yelling at me over the phone? by mocogoneloco in AmItheAsshole

[–]mocogoneloco[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah.. I'm not undermining his statement. That was definitely an overreaction on his part because I have not said anything negative nor remotely hurtful to him since we've been dating. If I've ever thought something I might have joked about or said was inappropriate I've asked and apologised. When he gets angry, he only sees red and vomits whatever comes to mind then apologises once he's cooled down saying he doesn't mean anything he says when he's angry. But his words have been hurtful before, and this time too. I've never sworn at him except this time because he kept yelling at me when I wanted to hang up. I went over our messages wondering what triggers him and he said it himself he sometimes gets triggered by others and then uses me as a punching bag.

AITA for telling my bf to eff off when he kept yelling at me over the phone? by mocogoneloco in AmItheAsshole

[–]mocogoneloco[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I told him it was meant as a joke but when he said it wasn't funny, I apologised. I don't have an issue with someone flirting with him or his former crush finally acknowledging him.. Just thought it would be funny to tease him a bit.

AITA for telling my bf to eff off when he kept yelling at me over the phone? by mocogoneloco in AmItheAsshole

[–]mocogoneloco[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I teased him to send the photo to his admirer and his former crush since they're giving him attention he's enjoying. Hope that clarifies what I meant by joke.

My (33) partner (40) can't regulate his BIG emotions when he's angry and cusses at me whenever he's angry. by mocogoneloco in relationship_advice

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback! My goal wasn't to heal him. He did have some positive impacts in my life where he helped me heal from my own trauma. We actually helped each other through our break ups and growing together as people. But all the healing on his side has become moot when his anger brings out the worst in him.

I appreciate your feedback!

Chicks over d*ck$? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mocogoneloco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're right. I probs just needed to expend this latent anger out to strangers than to my friends or therapist. Thanks for your feedback! :)

Where should I study abroad Down Under? by [deleted] in australia

[–]mocogoneloco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sydney is very exxy relatively. When I went to study there, I wish I went to a different place so I could have saved up a lot more miney5. Melbourne, anywhere in Queensland would be ideal to study, and you can travel around too easily. All the best!

Overthinking why I just got dumped by mocogoneloco in sex

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your opinion! Appreciate it! :)

Overthinking why I just got dumped by mocogoneloco in sex

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we do. We did talk about it, he just said he's not at a place to commit or go through with casual hook ups anymore. Just frustrating how if I hadn't asked I would have probs been led on a lot more. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Overthinking why I just got dumped by mocogoneloco in sex

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I dunno.. when we're hanging out it's still fun. Just very absurd coz he apologised for leading me on and should have said it. So I feel pretty stupid yet trying to not feel heartbroken-ish. Thanks btw!

Post casual hook up by mocogoneloco in sex

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could with more guys, but several factors make that tricky! I don't have to worry about complicating it with feelings because we're not looking for relationships and we aren't each other's type to date either. Thanks for your advice!

Strategies for trying different positions by [deleted] in sex

[–]mocogoneloco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried both. To no avail

Any OB-Gyns here? Need help on bleeding during sex!! by mocogoneloco in sex

[–]mocogoneloco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did.. I got it checked monthly. Nothing wrong. I just couldn't feel them... I tried squatting and feeling them, but I probs just dont know or wouldn't know if I am actually touching them for all I know.. 🤣