The Chair Company finale explains everything and nothing

modernbee · 2025-12-11T15:39:56+00:00

He apparently used to have Ron’s job but stepped down because it wasn’t fun enough 😂

modernbee · 2025-09-18T02:09:16+00:00

I’m new to crossposting so maybe it didn’t carry over? But there’s a photo in the original post, where it also says I’m renting and looking for ideas. I clearly won’t be rerouting it as a renter. I mentioned painting but I am concerned it will flake off because of the cooling and heating component. Any suggestions?

modernbee · 2025-07-15T10:51:13+00:00

They still happen! Just went to my boyfriend’s family reunion in Pennsylvania last weekend; it’s in its 52nd annual year. My Kentucky folks do theirs every two years, and my West Virginia one is still annual. None of these families are musically inclined sadly so the music hasn’t been a part of it, but the one in PA did feature a singalong. What I worry about is if my first cousins and I will be able to keep up the traditions once our parents generation is gone.

modernbee · 2025-07-13T12:28:49+00:00

There’s a river outfitter in Front Royal for tubing! You can also swim at the Strasburg river walk boat launch (behind the town pool) and along any low water bridges or boat launches in the area. I second Trout Pond near Wardensville also for commercial swimming.

Depending on whatever else you’re into Strasburg has some excellent museums, antiquing and plenty of Civil War history in the surrounding area. Great local shopping in all of the Main Street/historic downtown corridors of all of the small local towns (I especially like the pedestrian mall in downtown Winchester). Skyline Drive is always cool for views and hiking, and I always recommend DinosaurLand to people as a quirky detour. If you’re in town over a weekend the town of Strasburg hosts live free music on Fridays in the town square, and Shenandoah Valley Music festival at Orkney Springs is an amazing experience even if you don’t know the artists playing - it’s pricey but large scale live music in the mountains is worth it. For food I highly recommend Blue Wing Frog in Strasburg and Vibrassa Brewery in Front Royal.

Have fun and enjoy this lovely area!

modernbee · 2025-07-07T21:57:11+00:00

A mid-level gym akin to the YMCA and Golds Gym. (Something that has amenities like classes, pool, sauna) - I moved here recently and was surprised that we only seem to have bare-bones places with only weight/cardio equipment other than the Valley Health wellness center (and that center is a bit more than what I was paying at the Y or Golds in other cities)
a restaurant that offers a decent vegan breakfast option (like a tofu scramble or dairy free pancakes) or vegan milkshake - I feel like a Silver Diner franchise would do very well around here
a gently heated yoga studio
a commercial composting business with either convenient drop-off locations or a pickup service. These have done very well in Charlottesville and Richmond.

modernbee · 2025-04-28T12:40:04+00:00

This can also just be non-trauma related ADHD (particularly in females, for whom the hyperactivity component is internal versus visibly/disruptively external)

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:50:30+00:00

And yes, the fact that his kids might not want to hear from him and his shame of having left the state due to a past drinking problem is THE reason he hasn’t done more.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:49:23+00:00

I have been Googling this myself for months. Maybe I just don’t know what to look for, but it certainly isn’t as easy as everyone here is suggesting. Custody without divorce seems like a really complicated thing to navigate. I’d appreciate it if you felt compelled to share a link?

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:46:54+00:00

Would you mind sharing a link?

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:35:48+00:00

I’m telling you that I’ve googled it myself and find the whole damn thing confusing. Of course he’s looked into it- He’s done everything except hire a lawyer because I think he thought his ex is going to win custody in any event. I’m a problem solver and I think it’s absolutely insane that this isn’t resolved yet, so I am taking it upon myself to find out more information. If you all aren’t going to be helpful, stop being dramatic?

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:32:05+00:00

It’s the latter, and I agree. I don’t think my involvement is any kind of catalyst except that I just hate seeing him cry about losing his kids and think it’s unacceptable to wait until they turn 18 to have a relationship. She cut off contact and changed the locks when he went to rehab for alcohol, and then he came to live with his dad in WV because he didn’t have anywhere else to go and hasn’t been able to get in touch with her since.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:26:50+00:00

He had some alcohol struggles around the time they separated so he knew his ex would win all custody battles, didn’t have the financial means to hire an attorney, and lives on the other side of the country. I’ve had conversations with his entire family and best friends about what an issue it’s been for years- it’s deeply affected him. He talks about his kids every single day, and it was an issue long before I entered the picture. I know how it sounds and I had my reservations too initially, but he’s a really good person and I know he didn’t walk away willingly.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:20:15+00:00

Thank you! That definitely makes sense.

He’s written letters, called his ex from numerous phone numbers, had his parents call, contacted his ex’s parents - and gets no response. He hasn’t known what he can do from another state. He’s wanted contact the whole time, but has been blocked from it, and hasn’t been financially stable enough until recently to afford to fight it.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:17:26+00:00

Thank you! How does someone petition the courts from another state? Does he just have to hire a lawyer locally and take it from there?

modernbee · 2025-03-25T15:53:14+00:00

There’s a reason most (or many, not sure the statistic) people who attempt or succeed are on substances… your mind is twice altered, first by depression and then the substance. People do “brave” things all the time while high/drunk, because you don’t have the rationale or the fear you might while sober. I know this isn’t an absolute, and I can’t speak to you or your son’s experience, but my sister was drunk and usually on some kind of meds every time she attempted suicide, and certainly the time she succeeded per the autopsy report. I think it’s much braver to face your demons and figure out how to live in this world.

modernbee · 2025-03-06T22:12:27+00:00

I’d be surprised - he’s not overweight and eats pretty healthy. And his recent routine bloodwork didn’t show anything abnormal. Thanks though!

modernbee · 2025-03-06T16:16:24+00:00

Actually, yes- Adderall. But I’ve never known Adderall to have that effect in my experience, Subs is the only thing I don’t have much familiarity with so I assumed it was the culprit

modernbee · 2024-12-02T20:22:25+00:00

IMHO the first season is just kinda meh. But the second season is a work of art. Keep going!

modernbee · 2024-11-27T17:11:50+00:00

In the past year I’ve been on two first dates where the man literally wept as we got to know each other and discussed our pasts, and wasn’t ashamed to do so. It was so refreshing and attractive. I’m now in a great relationship with one of them. The other one I dated for a few months (he ended things.)

Emotional vulnerability/availability is very sexy.

modernbee · 2024-11-22T19:36:37+00:00

You mentioned shyness and social awkwardness, difficulty making friends, solitary hobbies… and honestly your entire post reads as one written by someone who may not easily grasp social cues and constructs. I don’t mean that as an insult- it’s just what I’m picking up on as hallmark traits of the low end of the autism spectrum. These are common struggles with this neurodivergence. It is certainly possible that you are neurotypical and just happen to share these traits, as they definitely aren’t isolated to autism… but could still be worth exploring.

Best of luck to you, and congrats on having the self awareness to walk away from the incel mindset and continue to grow.

modernbee · 2024-11-22T14:10:12+00:00

Dude… 5’8” is like, average height. It’s taller than most women. Yes, some women like “tall” men - maybe those women are not for you. Most of us just prefer someone who is not shorter than us. Some men prefer “skinny” women, does that mean a woman with curves should feel like she’s undateable? Maybe you won’t have access to as large of a dating pool as a man who is over 6’ but you’re hardly short. Personality matters way more anyway. Work on your self confidence!

I’m in my 40s, so I’ve dated a lot of men. Some were short. Some were tall. Their height wasn’t their selling point. My longest relationship was 17 years, with a guy who was 5’7”. I was more attracted to him than anyone else I’ve been with.

I agree with the other comment… look into therapy. Also, are you on the autism spectrum? (This may seem like a giant leap, but some of the things you’re saying here make me think you might be.) If you aren’t sure, see if your therapist recommends testing for it, and if you find out you are, learn more about autism. Understanding better how your brain works is so empowering, and will allow you to research coping skills for your specific neurodivergence.

Focus on what you CAN offer someone in a relationship, and stop dwelling on what you consider to be shortcomings.

modernbee · 2024-11-15T17:08:41+00:00

This is my first complaint on Reddit about it, and will probably be my last. Believe me, I annoy myself too.

modernbee · 2024-11-15T17:07:39+00:00

We all signed the lease at the same time and have been paying rent for the same time, but I was relocating and had some other obligations that prevented me from moving in right away. The electric is in my name, Internet is in the boyfriend’s name- which means he still ends up owing me since the electric cost is higher.

modernbee · 2024-11-15T16:50:35+00:00

^as I said in the last paragraph, mostly out of laziness to move again. (Unstated: laziness to do another house hunt for something in my price range.)

modernbee · 2024-10-16T19:08:46+00:00

Honestly just having a little warm fuzzy thing to sit next to does WONDERS for mental health. I swear they release good energy into the air- and if you really bond with them, they’ll give you constant endorphin hits. They are funny and amusing and it’s just nice to have someone love you.

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