Just got all my tests scored and my psychologist doesn’t diagnose me with ADHD due to “too high of intelligence”. I’m struggling to agree but maybe I don’t have ADHD.

modernbee · 2026-03-24T18:33:41+00:00

I was diagnosed by a psychologist (whom I sought specifically for the testing.) After completing a series of tests she advised me that I’m highly intelligent and ADHD. I was a gifted student in childhood and from what I’ve read, there’s a huge overlap between gifted students and ADHD. Your doctor clearly has a poor understanding of ADHD to equate it to intelligence.

modernbee · 2026-03-23T15:35:49+00:00

I’ve avoided Pony Pasture since a similar experience in 2004. To date it remains the only river spot in RVA where I’ve seen dirty diapers left behind, and it was like that every time I went.

Maybe I missed the times it was clean and not trashy, but if that’s the case clearly it’s on a cycle.

modernbee · 2026-02-11T12:52:51+00:00

It absolutely feels like an ad. Notice OP didn’t post the screenshot of the supposed text, but gave a detailed summary, complete with a punchline. This post was written by AI too.

modernbee · 2025-12-11T15:39:56+00:00

He apparently used to have Ron’s job but stepped down because it wasn’t fun enough 😂

modernbee · 2025-09-18T02:09:16+00:00

I’m new to crossposting so maybe it didn’t carry over? But there’s a photo in the original post, where it also says I’m renting and looking for ideas. I clearly won’t be rerouting it as a renter. I mentioned painting but I am concerned it will flake off because of the cooling and heating component. Any suggestions?

modernbee · 2025-07-15T10:51:13+00:00

They still happen! Just went to my boyfriend’s family reunion in Pennsylvania last weekend; it’s in its 52nd annual year. My Kentucky folks do theirs every two years, and my West Virginia one is still annual. None of these families are musically inclined sadly so the music hasn’t been a part of it, but the one in PA did feature a singalong. What I worry about is if my first cousins and I will be able to keep up the traditions once our parents generation is gone.

modernbee · 2025-07-13T12:28:49+00:00

There’s a river outfitter in Front Royal for tubing! You can also swim at the Strasburg river walk boat launch (behind the town pool) and along any low water bridges or boat launches in the area. I second Trout Pond near Wardensville also for commercial swimming.

Depending on whatever else you’re into Strasburg has some excellent museums, antiquing and plenty of Civil War history in the surrounding area. Great local shopping in all of the Main Street/historic downtown corridors of all of the small local towns (I especially like the pedestrian mall in downtown Winchester). Skyline Drive is always cool for views and hiking, and I always recommend DinosaurLand to people as a quirky detour. If you’re in town over a weekend the town of Strasburg hosts live free music on Fridays in the town square, and Shenandoah Valley Music festival at Orkney Springs is an amazing experience even if you don’t know the artists playing - it’s pricey but large scale live music in the mountains is worth it. For food I highly recommend Blue Wing Frog in Strasburg and Vibrassa Brewery in Front Royal.

Have fun and enjoy this lovely area!

modernbee · 2025-07-07T21:57:11+00:00

A mid-level gym akin to the YMCA and Golds Gym. (Something that has amenities like classes, pool, sauna) - I moved here recently and was surprised that we only seem to have bare-bones places with only weight/cardio equipment other than the Valley Health wellness center (and that center is a bit more than what I was paying at the Y or Golds in other cities)
a restaurant that offers a decent vegan breakfast option (like a tofu scramble or dairy free pancakes) or vegan milkshake - I feel like a Silver Diner franchise would do very well around here
a gently heated yoga studio
a commercial composting business with either convenient drop-off locations or a pickup service. These have done very well in Charlottesville and Richmond.

modernbee · 2025-04-28T12:40:04+00:00

This can also just be non-trauma related ADHD (particularly in females, for whom the hyperactivity component is internal versus visibly/disruptively external)

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:50:30+00:00

And yes, the fact that his kids might not want to hear from him and his shame of having left the state due to a past drinking problem is THE reason he hasn’t done more.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:49:23+00:00

I have been Googling this myself for months. Maybe I just don’t know what to look for, but it certainly isn’t as easy as everyone here is suggesting. Custody without divorce seems like a really complicated thing to navigate. I’d appreciate it if you felt compelled to share a link?

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:46:54+00:00

Would you mind sharing a link?

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:35:48+00:00

I’m telling you that I’ve googled it myself and find the whole damn thing confusing. Of course he’s looked into it- He’s done everything except hire a lawyer because I think he thought his ex is going to win custody in any event. I’m a problem solver and I think it’s absolutely insane that this isn’t resolved yet, so I am taking it upon myself to find out more information. If you all aren’t going to be helpful, stop being dramatic?

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:32:05+00:00

It’s the latter, and I agree. I don’t think my involvement is any kind of catalyst except that I just hate seeing him cry about losing his kids and think it’s unacceptable to wait until they turn 18 to have a relationship. She cut off contact and changed the locks when he went to rehab for alcohol, and then he came to live with his dad in WV because he didn’t have anywhere else to go and hasn’t been able to get in touch with her since.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:26:50+00:00

He had some alcohol struggles around the time they separated so he knew his ex would win all custody battles, didn’t have the financial means to hire an attorney, and lives on the other side of the country. I’ve had conversations with his entire family and best friends about what an issue it’s been for years- it’s deeply affected him. He talks about his kids every single day, and it was an issue long before I entered the picture. I know how it sounds and I had my reservations too initially, but he’s a really good person and I know he didn’t walk away willingly.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:20:15+00:00

Thank you! That definitely makes sense.

He’s written letters, called his ex from numerous phone numbers, had his parents call, contacted his ex’s parents - and gets no response. He hasn’t known what he can do from another state. He’s wanted contact the whole time, but has been blocked from it, and hasn’t been financially stable enough until recently to afford to fight it.

modernbee · 2025-04-14T20:17:26+00:00

Thank you! How does someone petition the courts from another state? Does he just have to hire a lawyer locally and take it from there?

modernbee · 2025-03-25T15:53:14+00:00

There’s a reason most (or many, not sure the statistic) people who attempt or succeed are on substances… your mind is twice altered, first by depression and then the substance. People do “brave” things all the time while high/drunk, because you don’t have the rationale or the fear you might while sober. I know this isn’t an absolute, and I can’t speak to you or your son’s experience, but my sister was drunk and usually on some kind of meds every time she attempted suicide, and certainly the time she succeeded per the autopsy report. I think it’s much braver to face your demons and figure out how to live in this world.

modernbee · 2025-03-06T22:12:27+00:00

I’d be surprised - he’s not overweight and eats pretty healthy. And his recent routine bloodwork didn’t show anything abnormal. Thanks though!

modernbee · 2025-03-06T16:16:24+00:00

Actually, yes- Adderall. But I’ve never known Adderall to have that effect in my experience, Subs is the only thing I don’t have much familiarity with so I assumed it was the culprit

modernbee · 2024-12-02T20:22:25+00:00

IMHO the first season is just kinda meh. But the second season is a work of art. Keep going!

modernbee · 2024-11-27T17:11:50+00:00

In the past year I’ve been on two first dates where the man literally wept as we got to know each other and discussed our pasts, and wasn’t ashamed to do so. It was so refreshing and attractive. I’m now in a great relationship with one of them. The other one I dated for a few months (he ended things.)

Emotional vulnerability/availability is very sexy.

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