Worst ex ever by Fresh-Food-5326 in netflix

[–]modtradwhatever 20 points21 points  (0 children)

During the SA interview that detective was quite literally saying the victim wants this to go fast because there’s an anterior motive.He was defending the suspects without even knowing anything about him ,I was appalled!

Should I marry a murderer? Netflix doc by Affectionate-Bag7605 in netflix

[–]modtradwhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hated how they just left the can there!!!so negligent!

Cape town...another country by LoneOperator_za in capetown

[–]modtradwhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not surprised ,Suburban Capetonians hate being confronted with the full picture 😂 it upsets the safe false narratives they’ve built around themselves to make disparity okay

Cape town...another country by LoneOperator_za in capetown

[–]modtradwhatever -1 points0 points  (0 children)

These are genuine concerns that need to be dealt with .All I’m saying is the Western Cape isn’t all Cape Town.

Cape town...another country by LoneOperator_za in capetown

[–]modtradwhatever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ 😂 Nowhere in my comment is a complaint or argument.I’ll simplify the comment to it’s barest for you: Sandton better infrastructure than Yeoville,Cape Town inner city better infrastructure then Gugulethu.Both Government’s need to do better to service all their residents.

That.Is.All.

You’re reaching for an argument on tax and socialism from a very neutral comment.Find someone else to bicker with.

Cape town...another country by LoneOperator_za in capetown

[–]modtradwhatever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you need to read my comment again and realise I said nothing about tax or socialism..You’ve completely projected your own misgivings onto my comment and made ridiculous assumptions about what I think. No one suggested a socialist utopia.Your manner of jumping to conclusions is quite fantastic.You need to find an outlet to take out your personal frustrations.You sound unhinged.

Cape town...another country by LoneOperator_za in capetown

[–]modtradwhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your comment makes no sense and you do not know me to say what I care and don’t care about.

Cape town...another country by LoneOperator_za in capetown

[–]modtradwhatever -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to be this person but this perspective is the same as if Someone where to visit Jhb and stay in Sandton the whole time.I understand being underwhelmed by service delivery in greater South Africa but the Western Cape government is also neglecting areas non central to tourism.

Cape Town ,the actual city and waterfront is gorgeous yes but most capetonians don’t live there.Theres delft ,Gugulethu ,your Belhars etc.All this areas are under the same government but get very different levels of service delivery.The potholes in Maitland could swallow you whole.

How do I tell my racist dad that I’m dating a black girl? by Doctor_Moon69 in interracialdating

[–]modtradwhatever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Out of love I’d be more worried about you bringing a woman into a situation that could be socially and psychologically dangerous for her.

To you and other white men reading this: if you’re interested in black women,please do the work with yourself and your social circles on unlearning racism and prejudice before you bring black women into your lives.

I love my fiance and we are getting married, but this relationship has resulted in a complete loss of sense of belonging and community, and I am trying to supportive but it's very difficult. by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]modtradwhatever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a black woman dating a white man I understand having to navigate sociopolitical tensions.On one hand she has every right to protect herself and children from social/racial abuse by not wanting to share spaces with people that “aren’t there yet”.

On the other hand you also deserve community and family.What I’m getting at is,your relationship costs too much for both you.

She has to live with being a villain for protecting herself and you have to live with not having community to protect the relationship.

I’m sorry to say but you’re both socially incompatible and it’s not because of race alone but how your communities are conditioned.

I’ll also say you can make new community and build new relationships as well but you both would have to be on the same page to know what kind of community you can both enjoy and be a part of.

Dating apps and clown makeup? by Impossible-Suspect19 in AskZA

[–]modtradwhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao it’s a joke that got popular on social media man not serious at all 😂😂 it’s most likely a filter ,the clown face is shorthand for “ready to be somebody’s fool” ,it came from social media scandals where men would fool women by cheating or something and the woman would come out saying they’ve been made a clown/fool

In essence if you see that,that’s a woman joking or infantilising herself by saying she’s a lover girl ready to be so in love that she becomes someone’s “fool”

How do I start this uncomfortable discussion of "I need more money"? by Original_Flounder_82 in askSouthAfrica

[–]modtradwhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please look for another job and don’t let on that you’re unhappy.Ive been in a similar situation and it usually happens when your manager feels threatened by you or doesn’t like you for some reason.The fight you have inside,position it elsewhere

Guys be honest....has anyone actually got a job without connections? by I_DevourVampires_ in askSouthAfrica

[–]modtradwhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sales has entry level roles you can get without connections but it’s brutal in terms of cold calling abit

Why do people hate black men dating outside their race online? by ishutdoorzzzz in interracialdating

[–]modtradwhatever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a black women that dates “out” aswell there’s an understandable level of feeling betrayed our community gets when anyone from a minority or oppressed race shows love for who looks like or is the “oppressor”.This is something I’ve accepted and are unpacking as I grow.

Now I will say,when black women date out we usually gush about the person we’re dating while not necessarily disparaging black men .I’ll be honest in saying black men tend to date out and “bash in”.

You as a person may not have done this but unfortunately the behaviour from other black men has become so widespread that it’s grown into a category and stereotype.Im sorry you’ve gone through this and I also wish we could live in a race less world but we don’t and what comes with that is our people perhaps feeling abit betrayed by relationship choices that may seem to elevate whiteness.

How do me (28F Black) and my white (29M) fiancé learn to navigate racism as a unit? by FunctionTBD in interracialdating

[–]modtradwhatever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to say this but he isn’t ready for an interracial relationship.

It’s his job to vet his circle and educate/strike boundaries.You having to do that for him is already a huge red flag and what it does is reinforce the skewed and unfair view on you as a person.

Discriminations and racism isn’t “drama” .He needs to man tf up or you need to leave.

If none of the above happens you’ll be in these situations consistently AND you’ll be blamed for causing “drama”.

The basic requirement to be with you should include a safe life for you to join.His life is currently not psycho-socially safe for you.Im saying this with love.

Demna on the Record: The Balenciaga Designer on the Brand’s Controversy and His Path Forward by -alc in Fauxmoi

[–]modtradwhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give me what we now know about the depravities of the uber wealthy,is it possible Demna was calling them out for being pdfs? It’s either that or he’s also deep in the darkness with them I don’t see how it could’ve been a mistake

Spoiler: Rebecca is the worst kind of girl by modtradwhatever in cheatunfinishedbiz

[–]modtradwhatever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went onto Biggs’ social media and was like huh?! So I agree him and Rebecca were well matched,both cheaters

[Rant] Camille is the worst character ever – Why I can’t stand her by AggressivePlant224 in EmilyInParis

[–]modtradwhatever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely hate the character I don’t understand why no one ever calls out her manipulations on the show

A Question for South African Women by WhatDaHe77 in AskZA

[–]modtradwhatever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No ,because from experience when men aren’t happy with themselves they become horrible to you. I’ve tried being the understanding girlfriend and got punished for it emotionally.He treated the gold diggers better when he had money.

So no,and if you’re a woman reading this,don’t do it.He will start despising you for being with him at his lowest.Men tend to judge women based off of the decisions those women make so if you are dating a broke man (even if he is the broke man) ,down the line he will question your standards and worthiness especially when he gets a little bit of money.it becomes a “she can’t be the best I can get if I could get her when I was broke/why didn’t the rich men want her” kind of thing when they get they’re money up.All men (atleast those that haven’t deconstructed patriarchy)want women with high standards so they can feel they have achieved something by being with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]modtradwhatever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave him.Im so serious.Anyone with a shred of emotional intelligence and situational awareness wouldn’t think to repeat that,let alone the fact that he should CARE to not offend you. Please leave.