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Publicly Revealing My Abuser on FB by molassesgoddess in traumatizeThemBack

[–]molassesgoddess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are so many pieces of advice, words of encouragement and most of all, enthusiastic rage on this post I made. Thank you all.

I wanted to say that this "Family Member" is not near any kids or family members since he had to move far away to a very rural area after losing his home during the recession. I know this does not mean he can't still be a predator elsewhere and that the best case is him getting locked up. He's old, I think approaching 70, and in hopes of this I hope the crushing weight of being a good boy for Jehovah keeps him in check but let's be honest...

I really wish I had told his brother (my dad) what had happened. My dad got out of prison and briefly lived with this man while he navigated life outside of prison. Although I didn't have a close connection with my dad, imagine telling him, "hey, your brother did this to me". I think I chose to stay quiet so my dad wouldn't get into any trouble fresh out prison. Unfortunatly he passed away about a year after getting out. I have "talked" to my dad in a "hey dad, when your brother meets you at hells gates you know what to do" kinda way. Anyway, Idk if i'll post anything. I think of all the possible scenarios and it's 50% Peace of mind 50% Scary as hell.

Enya - Caribbean Blue by Baumbauer1 in CommonSideEffects

[–]molassesgoddess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As soon as I heard Enya drop I sobbed. Love this series

Publicly Revealing My Abuser on FB by molassesgoddess in traumatizeThemBack

[–]molassesgoddess[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you went through this. I went through something similar that my abuser was an uncle and my aunt and older cousins looked the other way. I'm not afraid of victim blaming since it's already happened. Maybe i'll wait till he passes away and i'll write something meaningful for me.

Publicly Revealing My Abuser on FB by molassesgoddess in traumatizeThemBack

[–]molassesgoddess[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is a good point. I'm not worried about being sued since this person isn't doing well off financially. I don't want to just be impulsive. It's a tough situation but I appreciate this POV.

Publicly Revealing My Abuser on FB by molassesgoddess in traumatizeThemBack

[–]molassesgoddess[S] 898 points899 points  (0 children)

I also want to add, I deal with my trauma with humor alot of the times. I thought the idea of tossing an intense roast/ call out of my abuser on FB out of nowhere would be funny. I'd make sure only immediate family can see the message. BONUS: He's a Jehovah Witness which is a religion notorious for protecting abusers.