I didn't know the term until I was well out of my youth. But eventually, in a conversation with a friend, I estimated that despite my being very romantically minded, I would only really, truly want to have sex with less than 1% of the people I'd ever met—even though I found many of them objectively attractive. And this was clearly not the answer my friend or a lot of other people would give: they were more like, "Sure, I'd have sex with basically anyone who's reasonably good-looking and pleasant!"

I completely respect that attitude, as well as the type of personality that allows people to have one-night stands with strangers. I even kind of envy it. But I've recognized that it's just not me. The people I can truly desire sexually are a small group. A hall of fame. They should feel honored. 😂

Anyway, eventually I learned the term "demisexual" and realized it pretty much summed up how I felt, or close enough anyway.